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Firefly wrote:

marcassmith wrote:Later on realising their endeavours have been all for nothing when they realise their biological clock has malfunctioned and they have been overlooked for promotion.

Education is never all for nothing. I find it ironic how it's usually Muslim men who deny women education when Islam teaches us (both men and women) to seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave. A woman's education is very important because she's raising the next generation. As the proverb goes: "Educate a man and you educate an individual. Educate a woman and you educate a whole nation."

Also, in today's technological world women can even access courses from the comfort of their own home. Why not? Some women even run businesses from their own home.

I think you may have taken my words out of context. I was specifically referring to career chasers. Those women who have chosen the pursuit of a career over a family. To me it seems inexplicably true that you cannot have a career and have a family.

I didn't say women shouldn't be educated.

snoop12 wrote:

BlackVelvet wrote:This is so true I know quite a few Somali women who are professionals and at the age of marriage but they just can't see any Somali guys they'd be interested in marrying. They then work harder for their careers, become more qualified and that apparently intimidates the few Somali men they do meet

Ah the cycle is vicious. I stick by my prediction that most of these girls are going to marry non Somalis with similar qualifications and form the Bristish Somali middle class. Nothing wrong with that, why they keep resisting Ilahaa og.

i think you should marry a White person, so there is a clear distinction between the rest of us and your offspring. we do not need Ayan Hirsi and "whats the others name ?" type, breeding the next generation of self hating somali-muslims with unethical feminism. atleast if you marry a whity we can say " its because he/she is half white " Lol


to the rest of decent Somali women who find it hard to catch a Farax on their level, my advice is look at the right places and give it time, also being ready for compromising is a realistic way of approaching a guy. rather marry a high school dropout who works as a bus driver, than a Gaal who earns more than the prime minister.
we need more conservative Somali families.

You do realise that there are non-Somali Muslims soma'aha?

Let me get this right, because I believe that as long as two people are Muslims they can wed regardless of race I am automatically a self hater and an unethical feminist? If simplicity was a sport you'd gain first prize my friend

This is the probelm. Instead of telling us that Somali females need to lower their standards why has it not occurred to you that Somali men should raise theirs? Not that money is the most important thing but since you've used it as an example, why shouldn't a Somali man earn more than the prime minister? Why is that reserved for a "Gaal"? You lot should quit expecting free rides and make something of yourselves, step up or shut up.

blackvelvet, Somali women should lower their standards cause they outnumber us. theyre in a competition, we're not.

Somali male vs Somali female waa 1:2 or 1:3 ratio

CoolP I'm curious which standards aa kahadlosa? What is this standard that you think is too high?

Go for your dream man .. never settle for less

haadi kale haba guursaan .. gumeys is the popular new thing to be .lool haha

BV

calm your hourses, there is nothing wrong with assuming you meant a Gaal since you said british, and british = +90% Gaal.

heard of " behind every strong man there is a strong woman(wife)" ? dont you think Somali woman should use what they are bragging about to marry and thus help Somali men become stronger, whiles also having Somali kids with Somali names and who speak Somali, a new generation of better Somalis ?

if you marry a non Somali your kids are not Somali ! because kids will ultimately follow their father.

I know alot of girls that ran away from their house because their parents brought someone suitable and they found that offensive, sometimes I think an un-wed chicks have too much pride, scared of what "others" will think.

snoop12 wrote:BV

calm your hourses, there is nothing wrong with assuming you meant a Gaal since you said british, and british = +90% Gaal.

heard of " behind every strong man there is a strong woman(wife)" ? dont you think Somali woman should use what they are bragging about to marry and thus help Somali men become stronger, whiles also having Somali kids with Somali names and who speak Somali, a new generation of better Somalis ?

if you marry a non Somali your kids are not Somali ! because kids will ultimately follow their father.

It's not bragging, everyone works their asses off to get everything they have. Supporting and standing by your spouse is expected, helping them achieve their aspirations is, I hope, a given in any relationship. Lakin you can't create aspirations where there are none, it's not bragging or bashing, it's reality, some people just can't be bothered and they're perfectly happy with JobSeekers and whatnot.

Besides what are we told about accepting people for who they are and not expecting them to change after you get married? It's a trap women fall into time and time again, about I'm gonna change him into a good man and how many times have you heard guys complaining about their wives wanting to change them? Why not just be with someone compatible? Hopefully the girls I am referring to will find compatible men who are also Somali inshallah because that's everybody's first choice. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. It's calaf anyways right?

BlackVelvet wrote:CoolP I'm curious which standards aa kahadlosa? What is this standard that you think is too high?

someone who doesn't chew khat

Halimos want:

1. mid dheerka ka batay
2. mid master ama phd dameeyey
3. stable job
4. nice house

Leave gabdhaha alone! Im quite surprised that people are blaming the girls for what they are entitled to! lmao

isnt she supposed to have a man who is ambitious, financially stable, able to look after her needs? isnt that the core values of a husband?

RuralMan08 wrote:Leave gabdhaha alone! Im quite surprised that people are blaming the girls for what they are entitled to! lmao

isnt she supposed to have a man who is ambitious, financially stable, able to look after her needs? isnt that the core values of a husband?

Waryaa they got some unrealistic standard

theyve been watching too many romantic comedies

what they need's a reality check. time's against them and they outnumber the men. they cant be picky

Leila25 wrote:If you equate education with a job then you are narrow minded.

PhD(poor hungry doctor)?

what said is true, however to learn is not simply to retain....but to make use of that knowledge.. a return on investment per se.... otherwise its caamal laa yunfac.

CoolPoisons wrote:

RuralMan08 wrote:Leave gabdhaha alone! Im quite surprised that people are blaming the girls for what they are entitled to! lmao

isnt she supposed to have a man who is ambitious, financially stable, able to look after her needs? isnt that the core values of a husband?

Waryaa they got some unrealistic standard

theyve been watching too many romantic comedies

what they need's a reality check. time's against them and they outnumber the men. they cant be picky

thats being unreasonable and unfair! be careful! thats what the greeks used to say just before they found another alternative to women

most women after they reach 22 usually get off their high horse and come back down and realise that they are lucky if they find a regular decent man which is something they should be happy with anyway.

What I dont get is, WHY do u need an educated man if your a sucessful woman? U make your own money so why care about how much he makes? aslong as he is a working, non jaad eating, lovely husband then we are

Ladies if your educated your self then u dont need a man's money

surrender wrote:

Enlightened~Sista wrote:Both girls & boys need to get out and about more and socialise with all sections of their community..Parents should also stop believing in this 'sharaf only if you stay at home' thing....they are hindering and holding back their daughters.

see there are countries/communities who have tried that. and what they got out of it? teenage pregnancy, single mothers and male wh0res. we are Muslim we dont need to socialise with the opposite sex because that will create fitnah.

what we need is quite simple really: ban qat, more guys into education, girls need to be realistic, the mr right they looking for only exist in tv, and we need to bring back bit of our old culture.

Banning qat and putting lazy farahs is easy miya? Lol