Beating you kids?

[InoCabdi]

Best way to discipline kids: don't have any.

maxaa luguugu falaayaa hadaada waxbo dhlaynin. qashinka ha luguuga daro.

[CasualFarah]

I've had my share of dacas spanking, especially from my hooyo cant remember my dad ever beating me.

I will continue this Somali tradition , insha allah.

[FAH1223]

A lot of mothers did FGM on their daughters does that mean we should keep doing it? Since I assume that your answer to that question is no then by the same token we don't have to keep hitting our children just because our parents did.

Btw the article says spanking children under 6. What you are talking about is more severe and I can bet way after 6. Once you can understand the difference between right and wrong there is no reason for a parent to hit their children imo. There are other ways to discipline a person, beating them into submission is called bullying.

Are you seriously comparing spanking to FGM? One is temporary while the other leaves a permanent scar!

I'm not even talking severe! A belt beating is a controlled form of discipline and is necessary. Going beyond that like punching kids, throwing then around, etc is ABUSE. My parents never ABUSED me, but they laid the law down with their words and their actions. Young parents today DO NOT DO THIS and they wonder why they're kids have no fear of punishment when they reach their teens!

[Alphanumeric]

Never want kids. But if that unfortunate pleasure falls on me, I don't think I could ever truly give a whipping. It's not in me. I'd probably make them hold a textbook over their head for hours, stand in corners, reason with a child that is old enough (you'd be surprised how well they can comprehend a situation), but this all depends on the child. Some of them are just arrogant pricks.

At worst, with a dacas over the knee. Or ruler on palms.

[wiyeer]

Never want kids. But if that unfortunate pleasure falls on me, I don't think I could ever truly give a whipping. It's not in me. I'd probably make them hold a textbook over their head for hours, stand in corners, reason with a child that is old enough (you'd be surprised how well they can comprehend a situation), but this all depends on the child. Some of them are just arrogant pricks.

At worst, with a dacas over the knee. Or ruler on palms.

are you a girl? if you are, are there many of you in our community (i.e those that don't want children), because lately I've been thinking of reserving a place for such a woman in my three available vacancies.


back to topic, a good old whooping from time to time did nobody any harm, so why stop if its warranted.

[Alphanumeric]

*blegh*

The hell is wrong with these dudes? Take a cold shower man.

[wiyeer]

^^
interested? then send you CV and covering letter to info@Dahirvacancies.com

[BlackVelvet]

One is temporary while the other leaves a permanent scar!

That's subjective. Some people are very sensitive about things like that.


ps I wasn't saying that you were abused just using your own evidence against you. Spanking kids under 6 aint the same as the dacas treatment most of us got into our teens.

[Insomniac]

One is temporary while the other leaves a permanent scar!

That's subjective. Some people are very sensitive about things like that.


ps I wasn't saying that you were abused just using your own evidence against you. Spanking kids under 6 aint the same as the dacas treatment most of us got into our teens.

Mate, don't go full retarded.

[Marques]

One is temporary while the other leaves a permanent scar!

That's subjective. Some people are very sensitive about things like that.


ps I wasn't saying that you were abused just using your own evidence against you. Spanking kids under 6 aint the same as the dacas treatment most of us got into our teens.

Mate, don't go full retarded.

She went full retarded, man.

[BlackVelvet]

[CushiticReflections]

Waryaa FAH
Laying down the rules don't mean spanking. There are lawyers ad doctors that were never spanked and they're as respectful and grounded as kids can become.

Lies. Everyone has been smacked or beaten by their parents at some point.

I never was, not even once. Everyone would always remark that my siblings and I were so well-behaved. We were never hit, not even once yet no Somali or Arab person believed us, except one family that was always over and therefore knew.

I would never hit my child. I've seen how other children who grew up in households where there were threats and painful beatings were so terrified and seemed worried that their parent didn't love them whenever they were hit. It always broke my heart. I never want to subject a child to this. There are more effective ways to discipline a child.

People often underestimate a child's capability to think and reason. I used to babysit for one family that had a lot of children. At one point, they were all under 10 and very hyper. So to keep them busy, I would occupy them with tiring physical activities then we'd watch their favourite show. I loved them but they often misbehaved and acted wild. One night, I found the eight-year-old trying to burn something on the stove while the five-year-old was hitting and insulting someone else. I had told them to stop, when they didn't listen and just acted up more, I punished them by putting them into time out. Sounds like just a culturally "white" thing to do and cliche but it really does work if you're consistent. The five-year-old cried throughout it but afterwards was humbled and listened to my explanation of how what he did was wrong. Children need to know how what they've done affects others, trying to get them accustomed to this way of thinking will help develop empathy inshaa Allah and a tendency to be more considerate of others in our actions and words. The eight-year-old was a challenge since she always got away with everything and was spoiled. But after some time, she accepted her punishment and finally became a little humbled. I think she was challenging me, thinking she could rule the house but I wasn't having it. They were so well-behaved afterwards, it was amazing. I'm not saying they don't have their moments but I think that there's something to be said about encouraging a child to think about why something should or shouldn't be said or done. This teaches them to think for themselves and to carry on good behaviour when you're not around. Whereas if you just hit a child without explanation and just try to associate terror with a certain action, they might not understand the association and just feel afraid.


@Jasmine

[FAH1223]

Time out works sometimes. Grounding works sometimes but spanking works and is just as effective.

Too many kids think the lesser punishments are jokes for doing dumb shyt like vandalizing property, stealing something, messing up household things on a consistent basis, etc. I've observed many parents become so SOFT and non chalant as if things are a phase and will pass.

Kids these days are entitled pricks and a lot of them need those possessions they are spoiled with taken and shown a good belt for transgressing barriers that should not be transgressed. Just the other day I heard a story of a kid in his teens talking back to his mother with no regard. She never disciplined him, neither did the father. Now they're shocked that he's saying whatever and has no fear of retribution?? Nah nigga, you need to start early. While parents and children should love each other, kids must also have the fear of God instilled in them through teaching and also through the threat of punishment via their parents for doing stupid things and setting a good precedent for future years.

[CushiticReflections]

Time out works sometimes. Grounding works sometimes but spanking works and is just as effective.

Too many kids think the lesser punishments are jokes for doing dumb shyt like vandalizing property, stealing something, messing up household things on a consistent basis, etc. I've observed many parents become so SOFT and non chalant as if things are a phase and will pass.

Kids these days are entitled pricks and a lot of them need those possessions they are spoiled with taken and shown a good belt for transgressing barriers that should not be transgressed. Just the other day I heard a story of a kid in his teens talking back to his mother with no regard. She never disciplined him, neither did the father. Now they're shocked that he's saying whatever and has no fear of retribution?? Nah nigga, you need to start early. While parents and children should love each other, kids must also have the fear of God instilled in them through teaching and also through the threat of punishment via their parents for doing stupid things and setting a good precedent for future years.

That makes sense because she never disciplined him. I don't understand parents who are surprised when their older child won't respond the way they had hoped when they neglected to discipline that child earlier in their life.

Trust me, my parents were never soft. They might seem less strict compared to other Somali families (ie. could watch movies, wear pants, etc) but in some ways, they were more strict (ie. couldn't go out much, very early curfew, strict about healthy eating, watched our every move early on, etc). None of us have gotten into trouble and we all have good grades and are in uni or college.

On the other hand, some kids who were hit growing up and who I know completely disrespect and disregard their parents in their teens and twenties. They do things they shouldn't be doing and don't care for their family. Some of them are in jail due to horrible decisions or are not living the life their parents worked so hard for their children to have. In those situations, it really depends on the kind of person that individual is but it also shows that hitting children isn't the solution to disrespect and misconduct as many think it is. Everyone will base it on their personal experiences and even though I may be biased, I don't think I'm wrong in saying that not hitting one's children and having other ways to discipline them can be just as effective, if not more, than hitting a child to discipline them.

[InoCabdi]

im living in a house with 3 kids. 1 of them is super hyper and does the opposite of what u tell her. the other one is an opportunist. if he sees anything, he'll mess it up. they both need spankings because they know what they r doing is wrong.