Childless people: your opinion?

[Sophisticate]

Some people are not fit to be parents, they cannot meet the bare necessities of life, or worse traumatize or kill their children maliciously. While others cannot have children, but have it within their capacity to be great parents. At the end of the day people that choose to not have kids it's their life. I don't think a woman's femininity or worth is derived from child bearing alone. Don't get me wrong I have the utmost respect for good mothers, they provide a service without much thanks. I still don't think women without children should be pitied or reprimanded.

Hyperactive *high five*.

[YummyMummy]

Some people are not fit to be parents, they cannot meet the bare necessities of life, or worse traumatize or kill their children maliciously. While others cannot have children, but have it within their capacity to be great parents. At the end of the day people that choose to not have kids it's their life. I don't think a woman's femininity or worth is derived from child bearing alone. Don't get me wrong I have the utmost respect for good mothers, they provide a service without much thanks. I still don't think women without children should be pitied or reprimanded.

So true subxaana Allah, how Allah gives and takes. But nothing's wrong with feeling genuine sorrow for women/men who are infertile, even if you can't relate. Waa dhibaato & fitno, ilaahay yaanuu nugu keenin, aamiin.

[Octavius]

Not having children like anything else has pros & cons. The ideal state is to have a few children (2-3) in quick succession at a reasonably young age. Best of both worlds.

[Sophisticate]

Not having children like anything else has pros & cons. The ideal state is to have a few children (2-3) in quick succession at a reasonably young age. Best of both worlds.

Having children back-to-back is not healthy. Ideally people should wait 3 years between children. Somalis have abandoned the conventional wisdom of the geeljire. Keep the ri and orgi apart.

[Octavius]

Not having children like anything else has pros & cons. The ideal state is to have a few children (2-3) in quick succession at a reasonably young age. Best of both worlds.

Having children back-to-back is not healthy. Ideally people should wait 3 years between children. Somalis have abandoned the conventional wisdom of the geeljire.

In quick succession = 2 years. seems reasonable. I think siblings ought to be of a close enough age to each other to play & grow up together.

[LobsterUnit]

In 700 years I hope my progeny will be defending the baasto clan against the bariis clan,the descendants of my brother.i hope my progeny have snet accounts and are die hard qabilists.

[Sophisticate]

Not having children like anything else has pros & cons. The ideal state is to have a few children (2-3) in quick succession at a reasonably young age. Best of both worlds.

Having children back-to-back is not healthy. Ideally people should wait 3 years between children. Somalis have abandoned the conventional wisdom of the geeljire.

In quick succession = 2 years. seems reasonable. I think siblings ought to be of a close enough age to each other to play & grow up together.

Humans can't fool nature, you will pay for it later. 3 years is the lucky number. You are basing your premise on frivolous want not a need. If you want them to be the same age have twins.

[Octavius]

Why precisely 3 years?

[Bella18]

Kids iyo waxyaalaha wax ka horeya marka hore ninki...try to find a good father first.Caruurta hadu ilaahy ku qoray waad heli..just dont bring to many kids to this world you cant take care of ladies.

Agreed.

Yummyummy great topic sista

As a pre-school teacher I come across different parents.
For example end of term, you provide parents feedbacks of their child's learning... some parents won't even listen to what you have to
say about the child and the progress he/she has made in terms of school readiness, yaaba ku dhagaysanaayo..... they grab the child's belonging, chuck the child's artwork
in the bin and off they go. Then you have the appreciative parents that sit with you for a while and follow the progress.

I am not in full support of those that punish their children and treat them as if they were a mistake that ruined the party life they had going on.

Caruurta waa qadar ilaaheeey, marna waad ku nasteexda marna fitna ayeey kugu noqdaan.
Awlaad baari ah oo amarka walidkooda adeeca baa Ilaaheey ka baryeena In sha Allah.

[sovlsworn]

Being barren is one of the main things that gives me anxiety to be honest things like, Will I have a understanding husband? Will he stand by me? Would I want him to? Aniga I love all things children and would be broken if I am unable to fulfill that that yearning. But Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can. It's a sad reality. I just hope I'm blessed with little mini-me's InshaAllah.

^^^This, gah. I love kids so much. So precious. I also get irritated and question my faith/how dare I etc.

It's not even just my own kids. I need grandchildren. I have far too many scrapbooks and photo albums to not have a school.

[Cherine]

Wax "by choice baan goblamay" la dhaho ma jiro. Waa kalimado ay niyadeyda ku dhisayso becaaawsss waqtigii ayaa ka dhacay sidey marba meel film (faashil) inoo matalaysay.

[LobsterUnit]

Wax "by choice baan goblamay" la dhaho ma jiro. Waa been ay dadka ka qancinayso...basically waa kalimado ay niyadeyda ku dhisayso becaaawsss waqtigii ayaa ka dhacay sidey marba meel film (faashil) inoo matalaysay.

Maanta, af soomaali overloadku wamaxay? Btw, who knows, she might not be able to have kids.

[Bella18]

Wax "by choice baan goblamay" la dhaho ma jiro. Waa kalimado ay niyadeyda ku dhisayso becaaawsss waqtigii ayaa ka dhacay sidey marba meel film inoo matalaysay.

Siyaasad baa meesha ku jirta inleen

[Cherine]

Wax "by choice baan goblamay" la dhaho ma jiro. Waa been ay dadka ka qancinayso...basically waa kalimado ay niyadeyda ku dhisayso becaaawsss waqtigii ayaa ka dhacay sidey marba meel film (faashil) inoo matalaysay.

Maanta, af soomaali overloadku wamaxay? Btw, who knows, she might not be able to have kids.

I don't know ...just felt like it.

[Amira143]

Being barren is one of the main things that gives me anxiety to be honest things like, Will I have a understanding husband? Will he stand by me? Would I want him to? Aniga I love all things children and would be broken if I am unable to fulfill that that yearning. But Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can. It's a sad reality. I just hope I'm blessed with little mini-me's InshaAllah.

^^^This, gah. I love kids so much. So precious. I also get irritated and question my faith/how dare I etc.

It's not even just my own kids. I need grandchildren. I have far too many scrapbooks and photo albums to not have a school.

Aah I feel ya!! I harbor so much emotions too for all things caruur.

May Allah bless you with a righteous children and grandchildren.