Is it hard to be a Somali single mother in western world?

[Firefly]

@Gerigoor aka Udun. Jazakallah Kheyr bro and Ramadan Mubarak to you and your family.

As for the topic, yes I do believe single mothers have it difficult. One massive problem facing Somalis in the diaspora is the breakdown of the family unit which has terrible ramifications. Ilahay amuuraha ha sahlo inshaAllah.

[AgentOfChaos]

Besides the homeless/drug addicts etc.... 99% of Jamaicans are extremely obsessed with cleanliness and they eat halal meat too. I don't know why ay Soomaalida Jamaykaanka si gaar uga yasaan....these people bathe in dettol

What's a wecel any way? Just an innocent baby. I had super halal intercoursee to prodce mine which included praying before intercourse as per the sunnah. To find a Somali husband I would have to have moved towns and hunted down one my age, from a nice family, not married etc...Too much hard work, awlaad waa awlaad alxamduliLaah.

lolwut?

[SiennaEarth]

Somalis are full of shxt. I'll either marry a non Somali or someone brought to me by my parents as they're less likely to try any shxt.

[metamorphosis]

It is hard being any single mother and being a Somali single mother is no different if the mother lives in the west. However it is a different story if she lives back home.

[gegiroor]

@Gerigoor aka Udun. Jazakallah Kheyr bro and Ramadan Mubarak to you and your family.

As for the topic, yes I do believe single mothers have it difficult. One massive problem facing Somalis in the diaspora is the breakdown of the family unit which has terrible ramifications. Ilahay amuuraha ha sahlo inshaAllah.

Sane to you sister Firefly.

Amen to you dua.

[QaxootiWaaxid]

What's the prevalence of single motherhood in Somali diaspora community? I feel like I've been living in a bubble, my whole family and extended family and my friend's families are all married and have their dads in their lives unless their dads died. But, me and my mom were having some discussion and she told me that she knew lots of divorced/single mothers and I've started hearing about a lot of Somali kids growing up fatherless. Yikes, I know there are plenty of Somali men that are marrying a number of wives but I've generally found these men stay with the family in the west (at least until all their kids are at least 18) and it's the one in Somalia who are generally growing up fatherless.

On a related note, here in the UK there were a bunch of Somalis who came here in the first half of the 20th century mainly working as fisherman and they got these white women pregnant and apparently there's a community of these adults that were trynna find their fathers, a heard a couple stories about them confronting their fathers and asking them why they abandoned them and how if it was because they weren't fully Somali. Pretty disheartening to hear, my neighbor's dad was one of these dudes who came here pre-1950s, there was this woman that tried to warn her it's only a matter of time before one of his illegitimate kids pops up. She seems one of the lucky ones who so far haven't heard anything.

Very very high, at least here in Minnesota. I probably know more single mother households than otherwise. Most of the kids I see today are either raised by single mothers or even if they're not divorced the dad is never there anyways. He's always in the coffee shop or on the road driving his truck or just doesn't care about raising his kids.

[BowerDanger]

You are what your father is. But even that doesn't guarantee your somali identity. what do i mean? Anyone born to a Somali father and cannot speak Somali is not Somali. Also a Somali who left Islam is not Somali. These three things determine if you are Somali. You must meet all of them to be Somali not only one or two

[Itrah]

You are what your father is. But even that doesn't guarantee your somali identity. what do i mean? Anyone born to a Somali father and cannot speak Somali is not Somali. Also a Somali who left Islam is not Somali. These three things determine if you are Somali. You must meet all of them to be Somali not only one or two

A Somali with a Bantu mother is not a Somali.

This rule is retarded.

[GalliumerianSlayer]

Besides the homeless/drug addicts etc.... 99% of Jamaicans are extremely obsessed with cleanliness and they eat halal meat too. I don't know why ay Soomaalida Jamaykaanka si gaar uga yasaan....these people bathe in dettol

What's a wecel any way? Just an innocent baby. I had super halal intercoursee to prodce mine which included praying before intercourse as per the sunnah. To find a Somali husband I would have to have moved towns and hunted down one my age, from a nice family, not married etc...Too much hard work, awlaad waa awlaad alxamduliLaah.

I was confused at one point when you claim it was't necessary for Muslim men to be circumcised aswell...

[GalliumerianSlayer]

Gedo_girl back in 2012 "There is an extremely high divorce rate in interracial marriages, its even worse when the majority of your family dont speak the same language as your partner's family. Its destined to doom, stay well away and marry a nice Faarax"

https://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=312497

[Caliman]

You are what your father is. But even that doesn't guarantee your somali identity. what do i mean? Anyone born to a Somali father and cannot speak Somali is not Somali. Also a Somali who left Islam is not Somali. These three things determine if you are Somali. You must meet all of them to be Somali not only one or two

Salam,

Don't mix ethnicity with religion. Religion is a choice you can chose what religion to fellow that is up to you. But ethnicity is you were born with so you can't deny someone ethnicity because they don't fellow the religion of your choice.

[gedo_gurl]

Besides the homeless/drug addicts etc.... 99% of Jamaicans are extremely obsessed with cleanliness and they eat halal meat too. I don't know why ay Soomaalida Jamaykaanka si gaar uga yasaan....these people bathe in dettol

What's a wecel any way? Just an innocent baby. I had super halal intercoursee to prodce mine which included praying before intercourse as per the sunnah. To find a Somali husband I would have to have moved towns and hunted down one my age, from a nice family, not married etc...Too much hard work, awlaad waa awlaad alxamduliLaah.

I was confused at one point when you claim it was't necessary for Muslim men to be circumcised aswell...

I'm just an A-1 troll

[ummlayla]

Hmm why do people conflate nationality with linage?

There is a difference between ethnicity and nationality btw.

Somali reer Xamar or Yemeni Somalis do not belong to a Somali tribe. Their linage hails from Yemen also a lot of them don't even have a drop of Somali blood, yet they are culturally Somali.

A child with a Somali mother has 50% Somali blood and is culturally Somali therefore linage wise they are not Somali, but culturally they are.

If a Somali Bantu and a Yemeni Somali can claim Somal, then so can a mixed raced child.

Furthermore, most mixed raced children never just claim their Somali side they usually say both.