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SaciidAyanleh wrote:
How to Diss (Basic Female Version)

You mad?

I stay on your mind.

Why you wasting time on me?

Fuckboy/Gay boy

Loooooooool

Maskiin you're reaching now, I never said half of the things you listed to you.

Awwwwww it seems the gay thing is literally eating you up.
You're literally pouring your insecurities on my topics. Stay mad abaayo.

Nowadays every one is on the Facebook. I usually do my boldest attempts when I am high on murqan. I strike not just one but several on Facebook viber etc all at the same time frame. its like picking 10 numbers out of the 36 roulette game. spin the wheel then wait for a while you can probably hit Some . Those who are not interested to chat ignores to replay or avoid its continuation.Those who are interested will always reply to me. There I can proceed to ask what ever I like to know about that person. Number ma leedahay? malagu qabaa? boyfriend ma leedahay? MA KULMI KARNA.....

NOTE: always read back your conversation to not get confused who you are dealing with. Never call straight away. start from instant messaging. its not easy to remember everyone. There is nothing more embarrassing to forget the name of your last night darling.

AbdiWahab252 wrote:Sophisticate,

Somali culture is obsessed with forcing folks into prison called matrimony. The pressure is on for the Xalimos from the minute they finish high schools. The Faraxs get the squeeze later on. Then after you get married, the damn community wants you to have a child 1 year after the marriage not recognizing the need to hedge your bets before breeding with the wrong person. It doesn't even stop after the 1st child, they want you to produce a litter without any regard to how you will provide for them.

Adeer AW,

I can't provide bitter reflections on marriage, never been there. I don't think you have to follow an outdated and stereotypical script either. What I really find unnerving is social pressure placed on people that are clearly not psychologically ready for marriage into making rash and life altering decisions when they are highly reluctant. Also, these spinster and middle-aged playboy tropes are kind of overused. Wouldn't you say?

War ka kaca meeshee oo guursada. Waari meysiinee war ha idinka haro. You guys could end up in old peoples homes lonely if you view marriage as an obstacle or a prison with a lot more to offer than take out from.

I have been married twice in 8 years.

It's a blessing I have not a single regret in its experience. Infact if I was wiser, I would have married much much earlier. Like when I was seventeen. But Alhamdulillah.

Marriage gives you beautiful kids to call Aabo iyo hooyo if Allah gives you. It gives you someone to share your time with in the lonely moments. It gives you somewhere to release the tension and sleep peacefully. It's xalal. It's a bliss, it's a huge Blessing if Allah gives you the right person.

The world is a temporary station. Time is a sword they say. every morning it brings you closer to that inevitable end. Enjoy it the xalal way n stop worrying who will provide for that that comes out of it. after all it's Allah who provides for all . even your parents you didn't know how they were raised but they been here before they produced you,. you could be a source of income for hundreds or thousands more that weren't in your parents radar when they had you. When I say you I mean all you out there helping people in one way or another.

Ruwaayada iska Daaya ee asxaabey midoo min yara aan ka dhigto meel iigu sheega?

married twice in 8 years, u shoulda kept that bit to yourself if you are tryin to encourage us to get married.

MissFiora wrote:married twice in 8 years, u shoulda kept that bit to yourself if you are tryin to encourage us to get married.

Couldn't agree more.

MissFiora wrote:married twice in 8 years, u shoulda kept that bit to yourself if you are tryin to encourage us to get married.

Am looking for the third one in the 9th year love

There are things you can't help or do anything about. Like when your time of departing from this world comes.you can't stop it. If calaf is finished. It's finished.

Just get married while you have time on your side is
All am advocating for. How long it will last or how many years you will in it is beyond your knowledge or cababilities. People run away from what is in their scope and tend run to and worry about what is beyond them. Maxaa ku luray? Have some seeds planted while it's functioning! a time will come when the well will dry and the Abdi will refuse to wake up from a deep slumber or wake up with difficulty as narrated by the experienced n those before us. Tick tock tick tock

2 in 8 years

Waari maysiid ee will haka haro maqaley but coolman huuno dee sidan sii maha

COOL-MAN wrote:

MissFiora wrote:married twice in 8 years, u shoulda kept that bit to yourself if you are tryin to encourage us to get married.

Am looking for the third one in the 9th year love

There are things you can't help or do anything about. Like when your time of departing from this world comes.you can't stop it. If calaf is finished. It's finished.

Just get married while you have time on your side is
All am advocating for. How long it will last or how many years you will in it is beyond your knowledge or cababilities. People run away from what is in their scope and tend run to and worry about what is beyond them. Maxaa ku luray? Have some seeds planted while it's functioning! a time will come when the well will dry and the Abdi will refuse to wake up from a deep slumber or wake up with difficulty as narrated by the experienced n those before us. Tick tock tick tock

I'd rather be alone than unhappy. Marriage to me is a life time commitment, people like you treat it like a sport. Wax lagu ciyaara iyo wax kale baa jiraa.

COOL-MAN wrote:
Just get married while you have time on your side is
All am advocating for. How long it will last or how many years you will in it is beyond your knowledge or cababilities. People run away from what is in their scope and tend run to and worry about what is beyond them. Maxaa ku luray? Have some seeds planted while it's functioning! a time will come when the well will dry and the Abdi will refuse to wake up from a deep slumber or wake up with difficulty as narrated by the experienced n those before us. Tick tock tick tock

COOLMAN giving the best advice these girls will ever hear, but, per usual, it's in one ear and out the other.

Divorce is par for course in the West where traditional roles have been done away with. There is no shame in having a divorce under your belt, marriage is a leap of faith and always has been. I can tell the common factor for you girls is that you hope for a compatible marriage partner and you simultaneously fear the high likelihood of incompatibility and divorce. My assumption is you also unfairly judge divorced women (like the rest of society) so, if that's true, change your perception because it fuels fear and inaction.

There is no fairy tale in store for any of you, and if it feels like a fairy tale, I assure you it is still reality. There is no such thing as failure in life, only defeated people. So get divorced don't get divorced, you will either end up a spinster or settling for the lowest common denominator if you don't take the plunge soon.

lool@coolman. i thought multiple marriage ended with my father's generation.

adounki wo humaday, naagihi haasid bey noqden, aroortadey isku dirayan. you better dont marry but if you would, one woman for life time would be enough.

Ayisho welcome to the party. Tell these kids there is nothing to worry about but endless. N should it not work ther is always another one on the horizon waiting to occupy and be prince or princess charming

Miss fiora,

Who told you I take marriage as a joke? I was married briefly to the first one. Didn't work. Happens all the time. Am not the first neither the last. The second is with me.I love her to bits. I pray everyday that she be here forever. However if something happens along the way (God forbid) then I am not going to sit somewhere and weep my eyes off. Asking millions of questions that have no answer. Neither do I spend a lot of time asking, Talllow hadii uu guurkani shaqeyni waayo what am gona do? I believe in my best abilities to raise a family and maintain one. God gave me the wisdom. I thank him for everything. What is beyond me doesn't worry me.

you say you take marriage as a serious commitmet but darling serious commitment means following and practicing its tenets. Respect to your wife/partner, Providing for them, treating them when they are sick, satisfying their human needs, guarding their honor, helping with the home work etc etc. what is so complicated about that? Nothing!! Unless of course you want it complicated then it becomes complicated.

As for the third one. Am allowed four. When the time is ripe. I will get her InshaAllah. It doesn't mean am not serious with my current one nor does it mean I don't like her. Guurku qasaaro maleh if you can afford it.

AbdiWahab, They have a point....people should marry for having kids...that's what I did. I liked my husband but I was never head over heels for him because diinta says never love too much or too little....you never know much that person loves you or what the future will bring. At the end of the day we married to have kids and they'll always have a mum and dad. Being a husband/wife is piss easy if you're both on the same level. No need for fake romance/anniversaries, just enjoy your life while respecting each other's boundaries. After kids you become obsessed with only their futures (even your stuff is daxal for the kids), who cares what the partner wants...if they wanted flowers, they should buy them themselves...selfish things like expensive/hard work romance should end after having kids.

COOL-MAN - Bah bah ayaa beriyahaan loo kala baxaa, the kids don't even acknowledge their uncles these days unless they were the same bah as their mum....be careful, you're opening up a can of worms....but thanks for making Somalida a bigger tribe

gedo_gurl wrote:AbdiWahab, They have a point....people should marry for having kids...that's what I did. I liked my husband but I was never head over heels for him because diinta says never love too much or too little....you never know much that person loves you or what the future will bring. At the end of the day we married to have kids and they'll always have a mum and dad. Being a husband/wife is piss easy if you're both on the same level. No need for fake romance/anniversaries, just enjoy your life while respecting each other's boundaries. After kids you become obsessed with only their futures (even your stuff is daxal for the kids), who cares what the partner wants...if they wanted flowers, they should buy them themselves...selfish things like expensive/hard work romance should end after having kids.

COOL-MAN - Bah bah ayaa beriyahaan loo kala baxaa, the kids don't even acknowledge their uncles these days unless they were the same bah as their mum....be careful, you're opening up a can of worms....but thanks for making Somalida a bigger tribe

No need to end the romance bit once there are kids.. Trust me that's when it's needed the most. Doesn't necessarily mean flowers but some kind of romantic gestures insures that the love is still there.. Rather than you and your husband becoming a baby factory..
Just my two cents..

Depends on what you call romance. The staged desperate nonsense should end after dating.....real love between people is in not burdening each other esp with silly things. I know people who think that their husband cooking for them is romantic...thats normal to me...same with leaving him alone with the kids while I see my friends. I don't eat chocolate and I buy flowers for the house every week. All he has to do is just be himself and let me know when he needs me out of his hair. I can't explain it, but the love is in speech and dutiful actions, not in whatever they call romance. Romance doesn't do it for me so it would be a waste of time.