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Solid, She feared others to judge her is my assumption had she initially said the person in question was herself. Regardless, let us not prove her fears right and judge her since she is experiencing normal human emotion. She is not at fault by falling in love and she trusted us Somalis enough to share her experience. We should treat Somalis online and offline the same way --- With respect as we are all related. Dhib majiro saxib, all is well.
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SolidCamel wrote:
QuantumSatis wrote:^ She shouldn't answer that in public, or in private. She said she is in love and was, that is good enough I think. We shouldn't ask people what can lead to others demeaning them or blaming them.
Meh, I'm sure she wants to share, I mean she created a thread initially disguised as general advice, only to admit it was a personal issue.

Besides, I'm not asking for specifics, just generalities.

Anyways, it was typical somali love relationship......man chased a girl for year, she finally reciprocated then he got bored i guess .... (no hanky panky if that's what you were implying.... maybe that's why he dumped me.
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QuantumSatis wrote:Solid, She feared others to judge her is my assumption had she initially said the person in question was herself. Regardless, let us not prove her fears right and judge her since she is experiencing normal human emotion. She is not at fault by falling in love and she trusted us Somalis enough to share her experience. We should treat Somalis online and offline the same way --- With respect as we are all related. Dhib majiro saxib, all is well.


Somalis don't usually ask for emotional support from other somalis because somalis in general are so judgemental. It is a weakness that is causing mental illness within our community.
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Theguardian wrote:
QuantumSatis wrote:Solid, She feared others to judge her is my assumption had she initially said the person in question was herself. Regardless, let us not prove her fears right and judge her since she is experiencing normal human emotion. She is not at fault by falling in love and she trusted us Somalis enough to share her experience. We should treat Somalis online and offline the same way --- With respect as we are all related. Dhib majiro saxib, all is well.


Somalis don't usually ask for emotional support from other somalis because somalis in general are so judgemental. It is a weakness that is causing mental illness within our community.

Well, it is the nomad culture that looks down on emotional expressiveness and see it as a source of weakness. Worse for males. If you haven't heard the love story of a man called Cilmi Boodhari, you should look that up and see what he went through when he fell in love with a Somali beauty called Hodan in his hometown. He was open about his love and chased after her. He was poetic and full of love till death. He died out of love for her and she died on his grave eventually. Beautiful Somali love story that is real. The poems and the story left behind is available and there are relatives to both of these individuals still alive in Northern Somalia.

Anyways, despite the hardy culture, deep down, we are good people who like to help each other. Even the harsh ones are kind individuals if you scratch the surface. Just be nice to them always even when they treat you verbally bad on here. Others will defend you and the offender will be shamed into silence and they will come around and realize what they did was wrong.

It is all good.
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QuantumSatis wrote:^ You will get over it. Or he will call you when he misses you since you are an easy available woman who can't say no to him. Either way, it is going to be easier with time and opportunities will present themselves. Stay positive. When he calls, jump to the occasion and tell yourself that is your ticket to getting stronger so you can deal with the next dumping better(what doesn't kill you makes you stronger sorta thinking). If it happened once, it will happen again.

Stay connected to people here and occupy yourself with the forums, visit relatives, donate your time to a worthy cause, stay away from romantic movies, anything that smacks of good times being had by couples etc.

You will be fine.
I just saw this comment you made,

:rose: Aww thanks.

but I reject this part wholeheartedly:
Or he will call you when he misses you since you are an easy available woman who can't say no to him
I can definitely say no but that doesn't seem to ease my pain.

Also this doesn't leave me with too much hope:
that is your ticket to getting stronger so you can deal with the next dumping better
are saying he will dump me again if I take him back or the next person will?
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Theguardian wrote:
QuantumSatis wrote:Solid, She feared others to judge her is my assumption had she initially said the person in question was herself. Regardless, let us not prove her fears right and judge her since she is experiencing normal human emotion. She is not at fault by falling in love and she trusted us Somalis enough to share her experience. We should treat Somalis online and offline the same way --- With respect as we are all related. Dhib majiro saxib, all is well.


Somalis don't usually ask for emotional support from other somalis because somalis in general are so judgemental. It is a weakness that is causing mental illness within our community.
Not necessarily the case. I've been a shoulder to cry on many times. Even among strangers, they see my naturally kind and watery eyes and seem to unload their troubles on to me. I once gave some random lady a hug because her child passed away. My shoulder was tear-drenched, but I couldn't help being a friendly stranger. Just don't tell anyone, as my Toronto street credibility will be ruined. We're not all uber judgmental I suppose. Especially reer saywallahi. They are a soft bunch.
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Guardian,

It would be so funny if he just called by fluke, you would leave us waiting for your replies hahahaha. I know how it works sweet little thing. I meant he will dump you again if he left before and his reasons were frivolous. Once a shallow, always a shallow. You may have been just blind to see it.

PS: I am slowly injecting some doses of doubt about him in your mind, so you start the healing process without you realizing. I exposed my plan here seemingly, but trust me, good jokes is what you need to realize you can laugh and have fun, enjoy time with strangers like us online and don't need the douchebag who dumped your cute ass.

PS2: You can defend him too since I called him names :)
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Sophisticate wrote:
Theguardian wrote:
QuantumSatis wrote:Solid, She feared others to judge her is my assumption had she initially said the person in question was herself. Regardless, let us not prove her fears right and judge her since she is experiencing normal human emotion. She is not at fault by falling in love and she trusted us Somalis enough to share her experience. We should treat Somalis online and offline the same way --- With respect as we are all related. Dhib majiro saxib, all is well.


Somalis don't usually ask for emotional support from other somalis because somalis in general are so judgemental. It is a weakness that is causing mental illness within our community.
Not necessarily the case. I've been a shoulder to cry on many times. Even among strangers, they see my naturally kind and watery eyes and seem to unload their troubles on to me. I once gave some random lady a hug because her child passed away. My shoulder was tear-drenched, but I couldn't help being a friendly stranger. Just don't tell anyone, as my Toronto street credibility will be ruined. We're not all uber judgmental I suppose. Especially reer saywallahi. They are a soft bunch.

Of course I shouldnt generalise. Somalis are usually very supportive of each other in time of bereavement. But everything else is just petty and weakness and expect you to just to get on with it.
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Ninka maxuu xadey? :MJ:
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QuantumSatis wrote:Guardian,

It would be so funny if he just called by fluke, you would leave us waiting for your replies hahahaha. I know how it works sweet little thing. I meant he will dump you again if he left before and his reasons were frivolous. Once a shallow, always a shallow. You may have been just blind to see it.

PS: I am slowly injecting some doses of doubt about him in your mind, so you start the healing process without you realizing. I exposed my plan here seemingly, but trust me, good jokes is what you need to realize you can laugh and have fun, enjoy time with strangers like us online and don't need the douchebag who dumped your cute ass.

PS2: You can defend him too since I called him names :)

:)
It would be so funny if he just called by fluke, you would leave us waiting for your replies hahahaha.
:clap: I looked at my phone when I read that. :oops:

Oh you can call him all the names in the world.
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COOL-MAN wrote:Ninka maxuu xadey? :MJ:

reading somali reminds me another failure.

I think the answer to your question is -no. :(
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jalaaludin5 wrote:Image


How did I miss this??? :D

Thats not the somali way though.
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zumaale wrote:


Loves songs make me more sick. .... thanks for the effort though.x
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Theguardian wrote:
COOL-MAN wrote:Ninka maxuu xadey? :MJ:

reading somali reminds me another failure.

I think the answer to your question is -no. :(
My question translated into English will read

What has the faarax stolen?

Your answer you should have been nothing not No!

What happened to your Somali?
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COOL-MAN wrote:
Theguardian wrote:
COOL-MAN wrote:Ninka maxuu xadey? :MJ:

reading somali reminds me another failure.

I think the answer to your question is -no. :(
My question translated into English will read

What has the faarax stolen?

Your answer you should have been nothing not No!

What happened to your Somali?

I was meaning to type nothing....I thought I did :oops:
]What happened to your Somali?[/quote][/quote] Dont know much, reading, writing or speaking. :oops:
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