Marriage: Somali man + Pakistani woman

[Theguardian]

Wow I am so sorry for the replies you received from the majority of commenters ... don't take a note they are very nationalist and tribalist too.

But take a note from what Agent447 said. He is spot on. Somalis yes prefer their own just like Pakistani and any group do to marry their own - but Somalis are different in the sense they are very forgiving and welcoming - so they might advice him against it intially but when they find out he is very serious about you - they will welcome you with open arms as their own.
So it is totally up to you two to decide when to introduce to his family and him to show them that you are his future and after Inshallah all good. Good luck and congratulations.

[TheFuturist]

I know two Somalis who married non-Somalis against the wishes of their parents and both were disowned by their families as a result. Both of them ended in divorce. This is what happens when you are caasi waalideyn.

So called reverts are usually the worst, because many tend to be ex-cons and closet alcoholics.

[Revolutionary]

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[Sumubaridi]

I will give you the benefit of the Doubt even though I doubt a Pakistani girl Can write the Waad Waan fiicanahay in that spelling. You should have said wan fianahay but you spelling it out like that.

Anyway, Somali men do not ask for their Parent's approval in marriage and the family do not pay much attention to the boys anyway. Its the girl that they care about. Famous Somali Sheikh ( Abdirashid Sheikh Ali-Suufi) is Half Indian half Somali and everyone loves him. So tell the guy to grow some balls and go to your father. if the Father refuses, go to a sheikh and he will give him a deadline to provide an Islamic reason why he is against the marriage.

[Nomand]

I think we should all stick with our own kind. Life will be easier for you and your kids. His family have every right to refuse you as do yours.

[Nomand]

Islamically if his mum tells him not to marry or divorce that woman then he has to obey

[habibah000]

Oh I feel quite dumb then lol as this is my first ever post on a forum
and noo I'm open minded and I do not generalise. I have met few Somalis and they are absolutely wonderful. They are loud, lol but I love it!! and you also seem nice..Thank you for your advice

[habibah000]

Thank you for your reply,
I had to google what the term "murked" meant Thankyou for educating me but alhamdulillah my family are not weirdos.[/quote]

No worries Habiba, I hope you are familiar with forum etiquettes and realise that most of us are kinda joking with our silly and not so serious replies! Dont hold our cynical behaviour on this forum against Somalis, haye dheh!

Somalis are exceptionally open minded society today, so dont be worrying about how his family may react to the news or treat you. Walahi, they will roll out the red carpet and go out of their way for you to welcome into their family. It just depends how much you and your future husband will communicate about it, so talk to him about every small detail and that will ease your apprehension insha allah! Good luck again and may allah give you a happy and stable family with him!

Tell your family of your intentions and make sure you introduce him to your brothers before any serious discussion takes place, go out with some of his friends and maybe he should bring along one of his sisters. You do the same and introduce him to your family and slowly but surely, things will come together!

Us skinny farax Somalis like some exotic flowers Forbidden fruit kinda thing Bon appetite to my fellow Lander, he sure landed on one [/quote]


Oh I feel quite dumb then lol as this is my first ever post on a forum
and noo I'm open minded and I do not generalise. I have met few Somalis and they are absolutely wonderful. They are loud, lol but I love it!! and you also seem nice..Thank you for your advice

[habibah000]

In my own family there has been inter marriage between the two cultures in question.And there was non of the drama you have described.It was just normal amicable service in the masjid.The sheikh performed the ceremony asked fo the name of the witnesses,the amount of meher that was acceptable for both parties and whether they were both happy with it.After that there was a big dinner where the extended families and their friends could get to know each other.And that was the end of it

oh really, I guess it just depends on the family then. Thankyou

[habibah000]

Asc wr.


Somali language is easy to learn yet you know only two phrases after a year, this was one way to impress the family.
If a somali man loves you he will marry you regardless and his family will come to accept it.
My brother brought an Indian girl and my parents said no! Because she was Hindu but ready to accept islam, the next girl was somali, she didn't have it easy but in the end they got married because it's up to him after all.

Somali culture

loool.. I've only recently started to learn. I find it difficult to learn.
yes i've mentioned before that he wants to go ahead with it without his family, but to me, I want them to accept me first atleast.
thanks

[habibah000]

go away you hairy paki.

Make me

[habibah000]

Wow I am so sorry for the replies you received from the majority of commenters ... don't take a note they are very nationalist and tribalist too.

But take a note from what Agent447 said. He is spot on. Somalis yes prefer their own just like Pakistani and any group do to marry their own - but Somalis are different in the sense they are very forgiving and welcoming - so they might advice him against it intially but when they find out he is very serious about you - they will welcome you with open arms as their own.
So it is totally up to you two to decide when to introduce to his family and him to show them that you are his future and after Inshallah all good. Good luck and congratulations.

aww thank you for your kind message, I hope that's the case inshallah.

[habibah000]

I will give you the benefit of the Doubt even though I doubt a Pakistani girl Can write the Waad Waan fiicanahay in that spelling. You should have said wan fianahay but you spelling it out like that.

Anyway, Somali men do not ask for their Parent's approval in marriage and the family do not pay much attention to the boys anyway. Its the girl that they care about. Famous Somali Sheikh ( Abdirashid Sheikh Ali-Suufi) is Half Indian half Somali and everyone loves him. So tell the guy to grow some balls and go to your father. if the Father refuses, go to a sheikh and he will give him a deadline to provide an Islamic reason why he is against the marriage.

lool. This Pakistani girl knows arabic, farsi and urdu, she can also learn the somali alphabet
im not going to purposely spell something wrong just sp that you can believe I'm not somali hehe, oh you made me giggle.

And shoukran

[Hyperactive]

I will give you the benefit of the Doubt even though I doubt a Pakistani girl Can write the Waad Waan fiicanahay in that spelling. You should have said wan fianahay but you spelling it out like that.

Anyway, Somali men do not ask for their Parent's approval in marriage and the family do not pay much attention to the boys anyway. Its the girl that they care about. Famous Somali Sheikh ( Abdirashid Sheikh Ali-Suufi) is Half Indian half Somali and everyone loves him. So tell the guy to grow some balls and go to your father. if the Father refuses, go to a sheikh and he will give him a deadline to provide an Islamic reason why he is against the marriage.

lol do not use us as exampole. the old man brought his wife to his home town Harar and had his kids and she never back to her background even.

it's different when you marry outside and live in outside your country/town. i can tell the differences being half somali, my dad is half somali but he born and rised his own country while i was born and rised outside. kids never be the same as the one born their own country regardless their other half.

habiba,

good luck to you. my grandma was from pujabi too. go a head marry and make babies my friend.

[habibah000]

I think we should all stick with our own kind. Life will be easier for you and your kids. His family have every right to refuse you as do yours.

Okay,
But Allah 3azza wajal says that He made us into nations and tribes so that we may get to know one another. and the most honourable of us are the ones who have taqwah. It is permissible to get married to someone from another culture. But I respect your opinion, thanks