Hooyo told me I need to get married, where do I find a husband?

[garaado]

Im not the first but how big is your booty?

Probably not as big as yours Shall we compare?

[Twist]

How big is your booty

Have you heard of Kim Kardashian? Her plastic surgeon uses my booty as a blue print.

[Murax]

You are on course to end up with Abu Leroy DeShawn

[Murax]

Jokes aside people like FAH, Advo, Abdiwahab252 and everybody else are too hard on the OP. You Guys didn’t understand Her point. Somali Society and especially MOTHERS put ridiculous pressure on Girls to get married. If a Mother has a single Daughter and Her friends Daughter gets married, or there is a Wedding in the City best believe the Daughter will get asked by the Mom why the hell are You not married. Men We get a pass because We can procreate anytime and ppl will just say ‘caadi’. As Humans We naturally don’t wanna dissappoint our Parents so When the girls get this constant bombardment ofcourse they get anxiety, and anxiousness to get married. Not cuz they even want to but to just shut up their Parents.


The only thing that frustrates the hell out of Me with Somali Parents is if it is that much of a damn priority for Your Daughter to get married why don’t YOU get actively involved as Parents?! Why not go out Yourself and identify candidates? You could hate on Mr And Mrs Khan all you want but they know as soon as their Daughter is 2 that it is a priority to have their Daughter married and they go ahead and line up Her Husband right then. You call it ‘arranged’ I call it planning and foresight. Somalis are allergic to planning which explains a lot of why we are Where We are.

[FarhanYare]

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[dhusomacaan]

You should only get married when you're ready and you find the right one. Common sense...

[Gaashaanle1000]

Typical western confused Xaliimo, who has a very narrow understanding of life. Might as well marry a white air head with the way these Xaliimos act nowadays.

Any wonder most Somalis are going back home for a normal Somali woman. Just settle back at home, move back and start a business and escape this western air heads who work 60 hours a week. This is just insane, who on earth would pick this as a wife

[WiredForGood]

I don't want some geeljire who is trying to use me for tahriib. I don't want to be awkwardly introduced by my family to Ina Hebel Hebel, who is such a nice young man with absolutely no social skills. I don't want some ciyaal suuq. I don't want a broke ass, uneducated negro. I don't want a holier than thou-jackass who wants to "complete his deen" by marrying four women. Or even his little brother, lil' holier-than-thou, who poses with khamis, blazer jacket, sneakers and Ray Bans - and wants to "complete his deen" by marrying a housekeeper with a polished, Instagram account. Also, I'd rather not be someone's min-yaro.

Honest to God, every Somali guy in my town I imagine I would be remotely interested in, has a white girl fetish. It doesn't really help that I live in frigid, white country either.

Should I just choose the geeljire? At least we share the same qabiil.

Please advice.

ok, so we know what you dont want, what do you want?

you must have an ide ain mind of atleats what you want....e.g. race wise? you in to somalis or you one of those girls into foreigners?

are yuo edcuated? does that me you want a guy who is also in your league edcuation wise? you must have some idea

for me she had to be no older than I, ideally Ogaden, tall and slender, ideally, educated ideally, if not Ogaden than Dagodia as we live together and have lots in common and no beef,

i hate ajanbi girls, somali must, she had to be feminine atleast, no feminazis, homely, kind, very resever, conservetive, menaing no party girl, no wedding obsessed halimo thats goes to wedding every friday/saturday night, ideally not so easy for men, meaning she had to be a virgin, and of course religious, i am Og, its a must,

so what do you want in a chap?

I want whatever guy who isn't all those things I listed up.
Also, I have this fantasy about marrying a revolutionary socialist, maybe a post-modern day Somali Sankara? But, I'll settle for a nice, genuine liberal as long as he tolerates my communist literature and annual Labour Day brunch.

Not particular on qabiil, but I'm a patriot so no aggressive Lander. Definitely want someone Somali - shared heritage and culture and all that. Also, ajanabis' are just too much work. Imagine having to explain Dahabshiil?

Not particular on religion, but preferably someone who believes in God and absolutely someone who lives by a moral code that I can respect. I am not interested in imposing my religious beliefs on someone else, but it would be nice to share Ramadan.

Hm. Actually, since I, on average, work 60 hours a week, I need a man who is comfortable with his masculinity and is able to support me (as I will support him) and share life on equal terms.

Is that too much, really?

With this attitude, you would do fine with any nomad you marry. You don't come across as western raised at all. There is always this vibe of "in your face" attitude Somalis have as a character which is absent in western raised Somalis. Despite your level of education, I think you might do well with a Somali guy from back home or one who came to the west and got educated.

I have respect for all Somalis but favor the ones who spent some years of their life in Somalia. They tend to be more genuinely Somali than others who never had the experience.

[farxantdv]

you know in the past parents just choose our wife or husband we get married and spend a life time together,if our parents were sooo picky as we are we would never exist

[FarhanYare]

you know in the past parents just choose our wife or husband we get married and spend a life time together,if our parents were sooo picky as we are we would never exist

lmao! war magaca ii diig. farxantdv kulaha. You have a point there though

[Adali]

Damn General section has turned into relationship section haha, listen baby girl take time, it will take more than desperation to find the one, if your deadline less than a year and you are in your early twenties or late teens, just go to the nerds in university, Somali guys in uni are soft boys, you can be a shark and hunt them down one by one, walahi you will get married fast.

Most of the lions and warriors are too wild for you, you can never tame them, forget about them, focus on the soft boys, the nerds, the wadaads, get married and be happy.

[farxantdv]

Damn General section has turned into relationship section haha, listen baby girl take time, it will take more than desperation to find the one, if your deadline less than a year and you are in your early twenties or late teens, just go to the nerds in university, Somali guys in uni are soft boys, you can be a shark and hunt them down one by one, walahi you will get married fast.

Most of the lions and warriors are too wild for you, you can never tame them, forget about them, focus on the soft boys, the nerds, the wadaads, get married and be happy.

There is a big difference between decent boys and soft boys,not to sound snobbish but somali boys that pretend are hardcore most of them are just cry bitches,its easy to be a holigan,its immature
A real man comes from the worst places on earth and make something outvof it,a boy or girl from a good family has to fight with a alot of pressure to stay in the straight line,they are far from being soft
So if this girl truly wants a future she should or could choose someone who is working on future,
Hey there are alot of holigans that straighten up after they matured she could be happy with anyone,
May Allah give the right man for her,amin

[farxantdv]

lmao! war magaca ii diig. farxantdv kulaha. You have a point there though
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[Adali]

Damn General section has turned into relationship section haha, listen baby girl take time, it will take more than desperation to find the one, if your deadline less than a year and you are in your early twenties or late teens, just go to the nerds in university, Somali guys in uni are soft boys, you can be a shark and hunt them down one by one, walahi you will get married fast.

Most of the lions and warriors are too wild for you, you can never tame them, forget about them, focus on the soft boys, the nerds, the wadaads, get married and be happy.

There is a big difference between decent boys and soft boys,not to sound snobbish but somali boys that pretend are hardcore most of them are just cry bitches,its easy to be a holigan,its immature
A real man comes from the worst places on earth and make something outvof it,a boy or girl from a good family has to fight with a alot of pressure to stay in the straight line,they are far from being soft
So if this girl truly wants a future she should or could choose someone who is working on future,
Hey there are alot of holigans that straighten up after they matured she could be happy with anyone,
May Allah give the right man for her,amin

I totally agree, I am just speaking the language they understand.

[samirir]

I don't want some geeljire who is trying to use me for tahriib. I don't want to be awkwardly introduced by my family to Ina Hebel Hebel, who is such a nice young man with absolutely no social skills. I don't want some ciyaal suuq. I don't want a broke ass, uneducated negro. I don't want a holier than thou-jackass who wants to "complete his deen" by marrying four women. Or even his little brother, lil' holier-than-thou, who poses with khamis, blazer jacket, sneakers and Ray Bans - and wants to "complete his deen" by marrying a housekeeper with a polished, Instagram account. Also, I'd rather not be someone's min-yaro.

Honest to God, every Somali guy in my town I imagine I would be remotely interested in, has a white girl fetish. It doesn't really help that I live in frigid, white country either.

Should I just choose the geeljire? At least we share the same qabiil.

Please advice.

Marry a Djiboutian. Lol.