Somali Women and Revert Marriage Phenomenon

[HAUDflower]

The only person who made a constructive and useful post was Gedoboy, even though it was off-topic. FAH's first post counts also even though he took X.Playa's post, but thats cool.

I think we have to look at this fact - being Somali isn't exactly something people WANT to be associated with. Lets be honest, the average Asian/Indian/Arab is more likely to do well in school than your average Somali and they also tend to be a lot more domesticated and a lot less likely to be seen at parties and more likely to be seen doing academic activities. Its a fact.

The question then becomes - would you rather pick a suitor who will fulfill your needs or a suitor who will fulfill your parents' wishes? 9 times out of 10, your typical Asian-Indian-Arab will better provide for a family than a Somali. Not to mention, they are probably more assimilated than Somalis and many Somalis desire more Westernized families as opposed to what they perceive as a stereotypical Somali family where the father is doing taxi shifts for 13 hours of the day.

Harsh but true.

And I don't disagree with the skinny ladies for making those decisions. Then again, I might be less bothered by this than others because I'm more assimilated and race plays such a tiny role in my life. A Somali, a Korean, a Jew, and a Mexican all have the same chance of winning my trust and respect. Somalis might not see it that way so I won't argue if there are any disagreements on this subject.

[Rayan_08]

^^ I definitely agree and most cadaans have a weird smell. But to each his own. How many Somali guys also marry non-Somali females? I would say guys outnumber the females when it comes to interracial marriages

[HAUDflower]

Why are the boneheaded Zoomalians bent out of shape about this?

[Cawar]

Why do ppl make a big fuzz out of xalimos marrying non somalis??

First off..its inevitable..given the world we live in and the envoriment we are sarrounded with..
And more importantly, whats wrong with marrying a muslim?? be them reverts, converts, white or black??

I see far many more xalimos chilling with jamaicans, drinking, fornicating..not to mention the consequences they are about to face in terms of ending up pregnant with bastards and having a bleak future..living on welfare and barely making ends meet.

In this day and age..whatever is the root cause of this "problem" of somali women marrying muslim men of other ethnicities..I see it as a blessing.

[Aliyah99]

Yes there is no problem with muslim marrying muslim but it is annoying the way their inferiority complex manifests itself. A xalimo with a revert husband thinks she has done better than the average xalimo with a farax husband! or she is more sophisticated. Even outsiders like Amina/Tammy can see that these white reverts are put on a pedestal and in my opinion that is an embarrassment and irritating to us normal Somalis without a complex.

That goes for the faraxs too vice versa

[Ganjaweed]

Yes there is no problem with muslim marrying muslim but it is annoying the way their inferiority complex manifests itself. A xalimo with a revert husband thinks she has done better than the average xalimo with a farax husband! or she is more sophisticated. Even outsiders like Amina/Tammy can see that these white reverts are put on a pedestal and in my opinion that is an embarrassment and irritating to us normal Somalis without a complex.

That goes for the faraxs too vice versa

You've managed to write my ideas exactly in one paragraph. Thee's no problem with somali/revert marriages, but its when somalis start to marry jsut for sake of ethnicity is when it gets annnoying. How is a White muslim better than a Somali muslim?

[AlphaMale]

The only person who made a constructive and useful post was Gedoboy, even though it was off-topic. FAH's first post would count but its stolen from X.Playa.

I think we have to look at this fact - being Somali isn't exactly something people WANT to be associated with. Lets be honest, the average Asian/Indian/Arab is more likely to do well in school than your average Somali and they also tend to be a lot more domesticated and a lot less likely to be seen at parties and more likely to be seen doing academic activities. Its a fact.

The question then becomes - would you rather pick a suitor who will fulfill your needs or a suitor who will fulfill your parents' wishes? 9 times out of 10, your typical Asian-Indian-Arab will better provide for a family than a Somali. Not to mention, they are probably more assimilated than Somalis and many Somalis desire more Westernized families as opposed to what they perceive as a stereotypical Somali family where the father is doing taxi shifts for 13 hours of the day.

Harsh but true.

And I don't disagree with the skinny ladies for making those decisions. Then again, I might be less bothered by this than others because I'm more assimilated and race plays such a tiny role in my life. A Somali, a Korean, a Jew, and a Mexican all have the same chance of winning my trust and respect. Somalis might not see it that way so I won't argue if there are any disagreements on this subject.

All you did was rant and project your insecurity on somalis. Idiot.

[FAH1223]

You've managed to write my ideas exactly in one paragraph. Thee's no problem with somali/revert marriages, but its when somalis start to marry jsut for sake of ethnicity is when it gets annnoying. How is a White muslim better than a Somali muslim?

Because in their eyes....

White = Working, $$$

Farax = Jaad, Lazy, arrogant

[Hyperactive]

It's a serious crisis, and it can only be ended with a more 'liberal-Islamic' view of marriage.

- Parents need to be more open, b/c they might turn down a good suitor b/c her daughter is 'hasn't finished university' but God forbid she is 'studying hard' at a frat party. And the son can't study b/c he is chasing naked women wherever they can be found, which normally means clubs, bars, parties, most often not the library.

- Girls need to stop thinking a marriage in her 20s is a death sentence. Because she might turn down one too many good guys and 'have to settle'. Motherhood is an unfinished piece of a woman.

- Guys need to stop being immature in their 20s and prepare themselves to try to be a father/husband of the household.


Somalis don't understand the crisis of their communities.

this is not only somali society issue it's seems it's eastern issue.
the stories my uncle who is islamic judge tells us is funny.
the only converts qatari family allow to their daughters or let us say a muslim none qatari has to be white!!
and other thing the women in question not even their 20s or 30s
wa islamo, just want nin astura come in the court with their ealy 20 - 30s to marry them!!

few weaks ago was this 42 years old mowatina wanted to marry 23 years old convert
the court refused because they thought was ghir motakafi.lol

[Amina/Tammy]

[ How is a White muslim better than a Somali muslim?

We are not better at all. Allah created us to worship him. Who cares about color. That being said, I still would rather my children marry a Somali because it is important for me that they know their Somali roots. I think if they marry a non Somali they will lose what Somali culture they have.

Amina/Tammy
http://tammyssomalihome.blogspot.com/

[zulaika]

i know 2 somali girls who married cadaan men. they both knew these guys less then 3 months before they said i do to them. both of these guys had a really bad past before they became muslim. if these guys were not white i don't think these xalimoz woulda give them time of day...i went to middle school/high school with these 2 xalimoz, they were always attracted to white guys and used make fun of faraxs all the time. not that there's anything wrong with being attracted to white guys..and i don't mean to disrespect the xalimoz who are marrying cadaan men for diin purposes, but lets face it, most of the time, its not of diin alone. they think cadaan men will be more than a farax can and some even told me their kids will be so beautiful because they are half-white.

[Foxy22]

i know 2 somali girls who married cadaan men. they both knew these guys less then 3 months before they said i do to them. both of these guys had a really bad past before they became muslim. if these guys were not white i don't think these xalimoz woulda give them time of day...i went to middle school/high school with these 2 xalimoz, they were always attracted to white guys and used make fun of faraxs all the time. not that there's anything wrong with being attracted to white guys..and i don't mean to disrespect the xalimoz who are marrying cadaan men for diin purposes, but lets face it, most of the time, its not of diin alone. they think cadaan men will be more than a farax can and some even told me their kids will be so beautiful because they are half-white.

zuli the keeper of all Faraxs lol

nayaa I missed you! Happy Eid

[Boqor__Daarod]

i dont really care let them marry whoever they want

they only somali female i would care about who she marries would be my duaghter if a have one. then it is somali only.

but to the other xalimo i dont care

[AbdiWahab252]

Zulaika,

Bless your heart

I got too many friends who are married to foreign women. Its like every year, I am attending a wedding with different nationalities: Filipino to White to Mexican.

[Foxy22]

You will be next with a Vietnamese woman