Why do some Somali men refuse to Divorce Their Wives

[grandpakhalif]

Similarly, it is unlawful for the Muslim woman to support Satan in destroying her family by arguing with her husband until pushing him to divorce her or to make an oath of divorce.
In fact, Satan gets very satisfied when he succeeds in destroying a family (causing divorce). Muslim reported that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "Iblis (Satan) places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: I did so and so. And he says: You have done nothing. Then one amongst them comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife. The Satan goes near him and says: "You have done well. He then embraces him" .Allah describes the believing women by saying: {… Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). …} [4: 34].
It is unlawful for the Muslimah to go out of her home without the permission of her husband who is her guardian who protects her, looks after her and indeed ward off anything that could stain her honour. Allah Says: {Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. …} [4: 34]. al-Tirmizi reported that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) also said: "Any woman who dies while her husband is satisfied with her, enters Paradise" .

The husband is just doing her a favour

[zulaika]

if i say waryaa i fur right now......i'd rather he doesn't do it upon my first request... i can be emotionally temperamental at times and not mean what i say.... and i don't want to beg him to take me back.

[BlackVelvet]

if i say waryaa i fur right now......i'd rather he doesn't do it upon my first request... i can be emotionally temperamental at times and not mean what i say.... and i don't want to beg him to take me back.

[Hyperactive]

if i say waryaa i fur right now......i'd rather he doesn't do it upon my first request... i can be emotionally temperamental at times and not mean what i say.... and i don't want to beg him to take me back.

probably that's the reason men only can verbely divorce, because if that up to women, no women would be married long enough to have her first baby.lol

[HELWAA]

Helwaa:- What about daroogo iyo jaad? But I guess they both fall under "ABUSE"..

But I'm with you on everything else. Imagine, if women were given the right to divorce? They'd scream "I divorce you" morning, afternoon iyo evening too. Indeed, Allah SWT knows our nature..

Indeed walaalo.When women get angry they loose control and then later regert everything they said.

Acuudubilaah ilaahy wax daroogo qaata ha na tusin...balwada ugu xun weyaan.

As for jaad, thats is the biggest reason somali folks divorce...waa waxa aqal kasta burburiyey...no woman should tolerate that shit...i dont care if you have 10 children just leave.Nin mafrash dhex jiifa 24hours singlnimada ayaa dhaanta.

[Paddington Bear]

I am deeply puzzled why some Somali men refuse to divorce their wives even after she asks for it on multiple times.

Whats the logic behind denying her a divorce ?

Some women are evil witches that would ask for a divorce just because all her other friends are divorced and she feels left out when she sees them going to parties and weddings.

She runs to her family and gets a couple of old men to approach her husband and demand a divorce. The poor man, who had no idea that his wife wanted a divorce, asks to speak to her first. The old men refuse and warn him from visiting his own house until the issue is resolved. They return to the woman, she insists on a divorce, they go back to the man and command that he issue one. The honourable man refuses and sticks two fingers up at her, her old men and the world.

People (like most of you here) condemn him and gossip about how idiotic and stubborn he’s being. But he holds fast and gets on with his life while keeping the witch dangling.

She goes to her parties, goes to her weddings, is seen wearing silly clothes, has a million and one chewing men (from her clan) visiting her house at all times of day and becomes, for all intents and purposes, a fully fledged single mother.

People start gossiping about her and saying how badly her life turned out.

“She was a good married Muslimah,” says Surrender.

“I saw her wearing a revealing dirac” Says Helwa

“She is pregnant with the adoon child of her next door neighbour,” alleges Basra

“I wonder if I can chew in her house,” wonders AbdiWahab.

And then, the same old men, on their own accord and without her knowledge, go back to the husband and tell him to divorce her, for his own good this time. He finally agrees and lets her go.

Meanwhile, she got tired of the parties, freedom and nonsense and is starting to develop an itch that’s badly in need of a scratch. But the husband is no longer there. She thinks about phoning him and inventing a story about one of the kids being ill when she suddenly gets visited by the old men.

“Your wish has been granted,” says the wisest of the men

“What wish?” asks she.

“You have been divorced” they all say.

“What? It’s all your doing, you evil old men. GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” she screeches with blind rage.

The old men scurry out and the witch is left sitting on the floor crying her eyes out and pulling on her hair.

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[Arbmn]

I am deeply puzzled why some Somali men refuse to divorce their wives even after she asks for it on multiple times.

Whats the logic behind denying her a divorce ?

Some women are evil witches that would ask for a divorce just because all her other friends are divorced and she feels left out when she sees them going to parties and weddings.

She runs to her family and gets a couple of old men to approach her husband and demand a divorce. The poor man, who had no idea that his wife wanted a divorce, asks to speak to her first. The old men refuse and warn him from visiting his own house until the issue is resolved. They return to the woman, she insists on a divorce, they go back to the man and command that he issue one. The honourable man refuses and sticks two fingers up at her, her old men and the world.

People (like most of you here) condemn him and gossip about how idiotic and stubborn he’s being. But he holds fast and gets on with his life while keeping the witch dangling.

She goes to her parties, goes to her weddings, is seen wearing silly clothes, has a million and one chewing men (from her clan) visiting her house at all times of day and becomes, for all intents and purposes, a fully fledged single mother.

People start gossiping about her and saying how badly her life turned out.

“She was a good married Muslimah,” says Surrender.

“I saw her wearing a revealing dirac” Says Helwa

“She is pregnant with the adoon child of her next door neighbour,” alleges Basra

“I wonder if I can chew in her house,” wonders AbdiWahab.

And then, the same old men, on their own accord and without her knowledge, go back to the husband and tell him to divorce her, for his own good this time. He finally agrees and lets her go.

Meanwhile, she got tired of the parties, freedom and nonsense and is starting to develop an itch that’s badly in need of a scratch. But the husband is no longer there. She thinks about phoning him and inventing a story about one of the kids being ill when she suddenly gets visited by the old men.

“Your wish has been granted,” says the wisest of the men

“What wish?” asks she.

“You have been divorced” they all say.

“What? It’s all your doing, you evil old men. GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” she screeches with blind rage.

The old men scurry out and the witch is left sitting on the floor crying her eyes out and pulling on her hair.

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True Story

[*Nobleman*]

I am deeply puzzled why some Somali men refuse to divorce their wives even after she asks for it on multiple times.

Whats the logic behind denying her a divorce ?

Some women are evil witches that would ask for a divorce just because all her other friends are divorced and she feels left out when she sees them going to parties and weddings.

She runs to her family and gets a couple of old men to approach her husband and demand a divorce. The poor man, who had no idea that his wife wanted a divorce, asks to speak to her first. The old men refuse and warn him from visiting his own house until the issue is resolved. They return to the woman, she insists on a divorce, they go back to the man and command that he issue one. The honourable man refuses and sticks two fingers up at her, her old men and the world.

People (like most of you here) condemn him and gossip about how idiotic and stubborn he’s being. But he holds fast and gets on with his life while keeping the witch dangling.

She goes to her parties, goes to her weddings, is seen wearing silly clothes, has a million and one chewing men (from her clan) visiting her house at all times of day and becomes, for all intents and purposes, a fully fledged single mother.

People start gossiping about her and saying how badly her life turned out.

“She was a good married Muslimah,” says Surrender.

“I saw her wearing a revealing dirac” Says Helwa

“She is pregnant with the adoon child of her next door neighbour,” alleges Basra

“I wonder if I can chew in her house,” wonders AbdiWahab.

And then, the same old men, on their own accord and without her knowledge, go back to the husband and tell him to divorce her, for his own good this time. He finally agrees and lets her go.

Meanwhile, she got tired of the parties, freedom and nonsense and is starting to develop an itch that’s badly in need of a scratch. But the husband is no longer there. She thinks about phoning him and inventing a story about one of the kids being ill when she suddenly gets visited by the old men.

“Your wish has been granted,” says the wisest of the men

“What wish?” asks she.

“You have been divorced” they all say.

“What? It’s all your doing, you evil old men. GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” she screeches with blind rage.

The old men scurry out and the witch is left sitting on the floor crying her eyes out and pulling on her hair.

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Nice story

[The_Patriot]

I am deeply puzzled why some Somali men refuse to divorce their wives even after she asks for it on multiple times.

Whats the logic behind denying her a divorce ?

Some women are evil witches that would ask for a divorce just because all her other friends are divorced and she feels left out when she sees them going to parties and weddings.

She runs to her family and gets a couple of old men to approach her husband and demand a divorce. The poor man, who had no idea that his wife wanted a divorce, asks to speak to her first. The old men refuse and warn him from visiting his own house until the issue is resolved. They return to the woman, she insists on a divorce, they go back to the man and command that he issue one. The honourable man refuses and sticks two fingers up at her, her old men and the world.

People (like most of you here) condemn him and gossip about how idiotic and stubborn he’s being. But he holds fast and gets on with his life while keeping the witch dangling.

She goes to her parties, goes to her weddings, is seen wearing silly clothes, has a million and one chewing men (from her clan) visiting her house at all times of day and becomes, for all intents and purposes, a fully fledged single mother.

People start gossiping about her and saying how badly her life turned out.

“She was a good married Muslimah,” says Surrender.

“I saw her wearing a revealing dirac” Says Helwa

“She is pregnant with the adoon child of her next door neighbour,” alleges Basra

“I wonder if I can chew in her house,” wonders AbdiWahab.

And then, the same old men, on their own accord and without her knowledge, go back to the husband and tell him to divorce her, for his own good this time. He finally agrees and lets her go.

Meanwhile, she got tired of the parties, freedom and nonsense and is starting to develop an itch that’s badly in need of a scratch. But the husband is no longer there. She thinks about phoning him and inventing a story about one of the kids being ill when she suddenly gets visited by the old men.

“Your wish has been granted,” says the wisest of the men

“What wish?” asks she.

“You have been divorced” they all say.

“What? It’s all your doing, you evil old men. GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” she screeches with blind rage.

The old men scurry out and the witch is left sitting on the floor crying her eyes out and pulling on her hair.

Cue credits.....

True Story