"Men don't like women who are more intelligent than they are

[KingMJ]

Of course that makes sense bv, its not a competition.

You can learn from people younger then you too you know. You see age is just a number, and you ahould respect younger peoples views to i.e. younger family members.

This is also part of my new on-going quest as the youngest to become the head of my family household

[BlackVelvet]

MJ would you be okay with it if your wife became the head of your household?


Basra, maybe in an alternate universe we would sit and have a cup of something together

[KingMJ]

Bv I wasnt even happy as a kid being told what to do my by big sister. Just because she is "older". What makes you think I will let my wife be the head of my entire household. The house that Im gonna build how can I let her lead it and tell me what to do

[BlackVelvet]

In the same way, an older sibling doesn't naturally conform to the idea of a younger sibling being "the head of the household" it's just unnatural.

Maybe you misunderstood what I said. You have to respect each other and everyone's voice should be heard regardless of their age. The point is that older siblings have more experience, even if it's just by a couple of years and we should all listen to their advice. I am not the oldest in my family either so I know where you're coming from but I'm not going to tell my older siblings that I am going to become the head of the house. Waa disrespectful, even if you tried it without telling them upfront. That's just my opinion.

[KingMJ]

Experience just for a few years age difference.

Ok I was playing about wanted to be the head of the household

Bv would you always allow your'e husband to be the head of the household for every issue?

[BlackVelvet]

Whenever he is right

[KingMJ]

What about if he is wrong will you support him no matter what? And not nag and complain and want to take control of the situation.

[Niya]

BV,

Check this article. It is long, funny ,informative and somewhat relevant to the topic.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142 ... 89448.html

[muslim-man]

Which "men" are these supposed to be? Rather simplistic over-generalization, no?

Besides, intelligence is open to interpretation, there's no specific unit of measure for it. Except for the intelligence quotient test which merely measures acquired knowledge through-out a person's lifetime, mostly academia stuff. At the end of the day, it all boils down to the number of receptors and sensory neurons a person has in his/her prefrontal cortex. Its not a mystery that anyone who exercises his/her brain cells has the potential of becoming "intelligent" The more activity in your cortex, the more neurons, and thus the more "intelligent" the person. The more knowledge a person gains through education, literary works, life experiences (memories), etc - the more intelligent. Therefore, it can be said that an individual with a sub-par intelligence will therefore dislike or even fear someone who knows more than they do, then you have the ego thing, and other factors e.g.ignorance, insecurity, covering up short-falls like being an under-achiever, etc.

[Basra-]

Roses are red, violets are blue,
Velvet robes the cradle boy,
and no one has a clue.
But why not,for spring is on the bloom,
where love of any kind can resume.



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[Faranacab]

Only an intelligent mother will produce intelligent daughters. So for marrying a smart woman my kids would be thankful.

1:3, there is hope yet for the Somali male.

Eventually a good social intelligence to understand and manage the husband and kids in the same time is mandatory for every woman. Interpersonal intelligence(the capacity to understand the intentions, motivations and desires of the people)and intrapersonal intelligence (the capacity to understand oneself, to appreciate one's feelings, fears and motivations) should be a tight beside job( bed) performance. I wouldn't mind if she is extra good enough for the kids, herself and me( the nucleus of the community)!

[BlackVelvet]

What about if he is wrong will you support him no matter what? And not nag and complain and want to take control of the situation.

If you are wrong someone should point you in the right direction, that's what family is for.

BV,

Check this article. It is long, funny ,informative and somewhat relevant to the topic.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142 ... 89448.html

Really good article, thanks for posting it.

There was this book huu haa a while back about 'guys' (lol) at Oxford and a few other British Universities starting "Men Societies" and the issue was that they were trying to figure out what it means to be "a man" in society now. I guess if men are defined relative to the status of women i.e. providers, protectors e.t.c. and women are independent what becomes of the role and therefore the definition of the men?

A bit disappointing though that in the end it makes it seem as though women have taken something away from men and therefore blaming the insecurities of one on the self reliance of the other. But then again, I guess women can't have it both ways.

[SultanOrder]

Look to the prophet BV scw, was he not an example for everything. His first wife khadija may allah be pleased with her, was 1. older, 2. a widow, 3. was wealthy, 4. she proposed to him. So, the beauty and wisdom that can be seen from our Prophets marriages is scw, because we hold his example so high, he married every type of women, whether they were lanky or short, skinny or big, young or old, arab or non arab, rich or poor, from friends and from enemies. Yet he always retained his manly hood, so I dont' think it is always in relation to whether your sole provider or not, biggest provider or not, smartest or not, that you base your masculinity.

[BlackVelvet]

PO,

So if those are all the things that it's not, then what is it?

[ciyaal_warta]

Ciyaal, I told you I like Oreos aniga, I think shushumoow was never in my calaf

ad iyo Oreos kaga duuduub ii dhaafa ...shushumow bajaqdi ku heysato lee is fahmeynaa ani