I introduced her to a 30 years old man

[grandpakhalif]

Akhi ArabMan, why has marriage become so difficult. In the past it was easier to marry than commit zina now its the opposite.

[Arabmann]

Akhi ArabMan, why has marriage become so difficult. In the past it was easier to marry than commit zina now its the opposite.

Akhi, stop committing zina. Fast every Monday and Thursday, and lower your gaze. Get involved in fitness activities. Be organized. Wabillahi tawfiq.

[kambuli]

Arabman,

Huuno, I wish I know the solution. Qaranku kolku jabo, usually haweenkana way la jabaan. That is a fact.

1.The so called wadaaddo are busy on women. Everyone is marrying 4, some of them 15yrs and 14yrs old..and they divorce too so often.

2. The none-wadaads back home are chewing kat 24/7 and they are busy on fadhi ku dirir also, they forgot about their family, wives and kids..what is more it is the responsibility of the wife to bring bread to the table..They are ok that their wives are selling kat..Habeenkii ayaa isagoo cirka maraya uu iman oo wax ka dayi naag maantoo dhan dhidi iyo kuleyl kusoo jirtey Weliba wuuna la guursan mid kale si ay iyana u keento wixii uu ku qayili lahaa. Carruurta badana way isugu fanaan..Kalkaasuu makhaayadaha kaga sheekeyn 28 caruur ah ayaan leeyahay

3. Kuwii qurbaha ayaa kusoo hadhay. Waxay ku waasheen, "Naagihii waa kibreen"..Hadday naagtiisu ku tidhaahdo " Aboowe ilmaha ii eeg intaan cuntada karinayo". Wuxuu ku jawaabi.."Naagihii waa kibreen"..

4. Taa waxaa ka calool xumo badan..Inta odey asaasaqay oo qufacaya oo waddankii intuu tego soo guursanaya gabadh yar..hah hah hah

5. Waxaa wixiiba isku fuuqdasay ninka mutacalimka ah ee marka uu doonayo inuu gabadh guursado weydiinaya Check ay qaadato inta uu yahay

Believe me ragga Somaaliyeed waxaa ka guur fiican ragga ajanabiga ah...Nimanka Somaaliyeed ninka ugu fiican waa ka soo qabi jirey naag ajanabi ah..Waa lasoo tababaray noh...

I am not advocating for marriage outside the Somali community..but I am just saying my observation..

Xal keen adigu bal, xaalku waa xunyahee...

P.S...Waxaa jira niman sharaf leh oo reerkooda dhaqada waase yar yihiin..

[AbdiWahab252]

Kambuli,

You speak with such authority. Mashallah, now can you also advise the women too. As you know marriage is a two way street. Too often, the womens' fault is not considered.

[daiman]

I am not sure you got the message here. the woman is reluctant to marry a much younger man not that she wants a man.
anyway, i walahi believe iney guursato because if she keeps waiting for the right age that would never happen. she will just get older and lonier. The best forward is to enjoy time with whoever comes on your way after reaching certain age.
walahi if I do not marry to the right person in the first place or do not have children ( not that I am planning to have them), I will bloody marry anyone provided that I am in love with the person, but balayo will be love ends when you reach at certain age too. Noman would be looking at you when your wrinkcles appear or your nexk just gets old. But by then I may just commit suicide because I love my beauty ( my youth) and it ends at some point, I do not want to stay alive. Is that really bad sin?

[Arabmann]

Believe me ragga Somaaliyeed waxaa ka guur fiican ragga ajanabiga ah...Nimanka Somaaliyeed ninka ugu fiican waa ka soo qabi jirey naag ajanabi ah..Waa lasoo tababaray noh...

Can you elaborate how ajanabi husbands are better than Somali ones? Are you talking about helping wives in house chores, feeding and cleaning the children, cleaning the house, shopping groceries, having romantic dinner, etc?