The 50/50 Generation.

[MissFiora]

Salool,

I am just being proactive, always tie your camel then put your trust in Allah swt. Nin iska ordaaya albaabka iskaga maso garacayo. Tan kale ice cream iska ilaali calool ayu kaso ridaa baa maqley.

[Jabuutawi]

Jabuutawi Are we that bad? You haven't a clue about our side jobs, don't be quick to judge. Most people here are self-designated relationship experts *badges of honour*.

From your calm demeanor, looks (bring back that image in lieu of "vacation") and eloquent writing, you are the rare exception here.

[0sman]

Buys, marriage is an outdated institution that disadvantages & traps men for life & men in the developed world are waking up and smelling the coffee so tread lightly. Just like investing in a stock market, it's risky business and deal with it as such. If you are not ready for taking care of the well-being, emotional and financial needs of a young human(s) for 18 years + the fact that things can go wrong & you have to pay child support with all the nasty and headaches that come with broken marriages then stay away from it. Just warning you.

I don't think abandoning marriage is the answer Osman. I think we need to address the changing roles brought on by the “modern” lifestyle. Old and new cultures are clashing.For example, many men in Asia and Africa want their wives to be “progressive” and “modern.” Yet they also want them to be homemakers and wives. Unable to cope with fulfilling both roles, many women are abandoning their marriages and seeking divorces. Marriages have now become a mere cold business relationships and this is due to the fact that we have abandoned traditional male and female roles. If we address this confusion everything will be alright.

Check the parts that I've highlighted in the above quote. That's the point I was trying to make, that things aren't the way they used to be like back home (for us in Africa and others in Asia etc) and as you've mentioned the traditional male & female roles have been abandoned hence why marriage isn't as "good" as it's usually made out to be, at least not for men in the West.

Well, if one is in "love" and they find someone they're happy to tie the knot with and they believe they're fulfilling a "religious obligation" by doing that, plus they're ready for bringing up little humans in today's world then may all the power be with them. If not (i.e. the things I listed above don't appeal to one), I don't see why any sane man would want to marry in the West.

[MissFiora]

Osman,

Marriage is a devine institution, if it's failing the problem lies with us. Marriage is an ebb and flow of constant giving and self sacrifice, we are too individualistic nowadays and as a result people don't want to make that commitment. This doesn't mean we should abandoned it but rather we should reevaluate our perspective. As a male you should be a strong advocate when it comes to reviving this deteriorating institution because studies show that married men live longer more fulfilling lives

[0sman]

Married men live longer? Tell that to the poor old fucks that keep dying at least 10 years before their wives.

PS: I have reservations regarding religion (responding to your divine institution point) and I am not willing to bring my own biological children into this world so no, marriage is not for me.

[MissFiora]

Lol I see u are those new age Somalis, haye huuno to each their own.

[Sophisticate]

@Osman

I think a "functional marriage" i.e. relatively decent, would confer some health benefits to men compared to their single counterparts. They have more of an advantage then say women, respectively. Perhaps its more a shackle on a wrist for us Osman.

It's not my intention to make you miserable, rather I wish to trap you in a conjugal relationship of a plationic nature. Provided you wear a dish dash and beard, and profess to be a man of faith.

[0sman]

Wait a minute. I heard a rumor that sophisticate = MissBonita so what's going on here? Aren't you the same person?

@Miss, I am a Somali of age but far from new. And you're right, to each their own.

@Sophi, that might have held some truth back in the days but in this day and age, marriage is detrimental to any man's health (I didn't say a relationship with a female and/or sex by the way) as well as the tons of disadvantages to men from financial perspectives both in marriage and in divorce so no, thanks.

PS: One can be a man of faith in the absence of religion and divine intervention.

[MissFiora]

Sophisticate is an intelligent articulate lass I am flattered but she is her and I am me.

[0sman]

No problemo, young lady. Just messing with you.

[Malachite]

It's funny, having come from a point of not believing in marriage at all other than being prosaic, but seeing friends do the same, and observing the effects of various domestic situations on children through out ,I've kind of come round to thinking it does have a point.

[Sophisticate]

First off, we could have been a proverbial ball and chain *marriage*. It could have been "Marvin Gaye and Lingerie" once every few years. On to the next one Osman, you are already forgotten.

MissBonita is also very bright and a like-minded individual but I assure you I don't multi-nick. Ask the mods about my IP address and they will gladly tell you its in Canada.

I might have failed to mention a horrible marriage can be detrimental to ones health. Osman it appears you want to have your cake and eat it too. Are you one of those en vogue cohabitation types. If so I want no part in your swingers club.

[0sman]

You chicken.

Life is too short so why all the stress and responsibilities. Viva swinger parties, orgies and all kinds of fetishes.

Ala Basra celebration.

[Amira143]

It's funny, having come from a point of not believing in marriage at all other than being prosaic, but seeing friends do the same, and observing the effects of various domestic situations on children through out ,I've kind of come round to thinking it does have a point.

Welcome to maturity sxb. you have finally made it!!

[Sophisticate]

I see it now. Osman - A few years later, a couple venereal diseases and cirrhosis of the liver from consuming too many spirits. He will lament on how he never changed his ways. It could have been semi-consistent hanky panky *marriage* but he ruined it all for not having any faith.

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