Embarrassing trend.

[zumaale]

Tough marrying a Garoob if she has kids IMO. Imagine disciplining kids that are not your own, especially boys. Would consider taking one on as a second wife as long as I do not live in the house and visit to fulfill animal needs.

[Bella18]

OP,
First of all, Why should a woman feel embarrassed about being a divorcee and not a man? I mean they are both active participants in the marriage, right?

Secondly, marriages fail for many many reasons and implying women are always at fault for not knowing how to ‘keep’ a man is just laughable. There are lots of women, who leave their husbands because he doesn’t fulfill his part of the agreement. Should they feel embarrassed about wanting a second chance and trying their luck with someone else who is worthy of them?

Thirdly, men are not pets, hence why the success of a marriage does not depend on a woman’s ability to ‘keep’ a man (I’m not even sure what that means), unless he is a fool perhaps. Successful marriage depends on many other factors and takes a lot of work from both sides.


Lastly, I do agree with you on the point that one should be careful of who they get married to and shouldn’t rush into things. However don’t be quick to judge these girls, you don’t know the circumstances of their failed marriages.
Every couple face different challenges, some are lucky others not and face major dilemmas.

Couldn't have said it any better

Having a successful marriage is tough and happy marriage requires more maintenance than your average car.

Divorce is the last resort and it should not be an embarrassment, waa lays fahmi waayey somaha....haa la kala danaysato. Laga yaabo wax ka sii fiican inaad la kulantid. Calaf waa halkiis, wixi ku qoran gafi maysid.

[FarhanYare]

Farhan, you are blaming divorces on the women? Women 'nag' when a husband is not fulfilling his obligations to her, it is not something that comes out of nowhere. It is rising irritation from his unchanged behaviour. And maybe he is not changing because she has become so negative? It's cyclical and cannot be blamed on one of the two.

LeJusticier, I think as a mod you are relied on for being impartial and its awkward to see you joining on the qabiilism.

This time it is not the farax with the problem, no one is perfect at some point down the track pissing each other off is a given, but it's how it should be resolved what matters the most. Resolving it with naggin/qeylo aint gonna help the situation, it will only drive them further apart as that husband & wife bond dissociates into more like a mother and her son.