Bar, you are absolutely correct. But if a man cannot fall in love and express himself to further his relationship, then he is not for me. Others who are less into romance can have that bland "love".
Somalis know what love is, they are simply too hard-headed to stand up for it. No one knows about you being sweet to her but you, how would that threaten your raganiimo or conflict with your macho reputation? A real man is one who is not threatened by showing a softer side to his wife. Brow-beating a woman is disgusting.
The Prophet once said "the best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife." Just remember that fellas.
