So my mother is finally back.

[Cherine]

What if he turns out to be Madhiban? [ there's nowt wrong with that ofcourse]

i dont think people care any more. my frist cousin married well known midgan family. only people whop care seems are old ladies.

That's why i asked her, we might not care about such rubbish but unfortunately many parents might.

Is your cousin male or female?

[MujahidAishah]

Waar reer snet inanta daa.. Some ppl are not into qabil but TG you have to ask him because your mom would want to know so she can tell the menfolk

They will find out when they get together -it will be icebreaker.

good luck !!!!

[salool]

walaahi siidii baad weli imtixaan uu tahay

Hada miskiinad baan noqday..buuqa waan ka baxay.

Hur är det med dig, det var länge sen inadeer.

[Hyperactive]

What if he turns out to be Madhiban? [ there's nowt wrong with that ofcourse]

i dont think people care any more. my frist cousin married well known midgan family. only people whop care seems are old ladies.

That's why i asked her, we might not care about such rubbish but unfortunately many parents might.

Is your cousin male or female?

Male and only people publicly gag were older family females and family friends.

"He can get best girl bla bla bla"

[salool]

Waar reer snet inanta daa.. Some ppl are not into qabil but TG you have to ask him because your mom would want to know so she can tell the menfolk

They will find out when they get together -it will be icebreaker.

good luck !!!!

naagtan waaba riwaayada socota.Inaga ayey filin hindi ino shiday.

[Cherine]

Waar reer snet inanta daa.. Some ppl are not into qabil but TG you have to ask him because your mom would want to know so she can tell the menfolk

They will find out when they get together -it will be icebreaker.

Lmao!

Naaya you're not following Somali marriage proposal etiquette, you silly billy you have to furnish your parents with such details & more! Tell them at once what qabiil he is.

[Hibonuraa]

walaahi siidii baad weli imtixaan uu tahay

Hada miskiinad baan noqday..buuqa waan ka baxay.

Hur är det med dig, det var länge sen inadeer.

Alxamdulillah inadeer jag mar bra, jag hoppas detsamma till dig

[salool]

walaahi siidii baad weli imtixaan uu tahay

Hada miskiinad baan noqday..buuqa waan ka baxay.

Hur är det med dig, det var länge sen inadeer.

Alxamdulillah inadeer jag mar bra, jag hoppas detsamma till dig

Alxamdulilah jag mår bra.

[FAH1223]

Yes, we're somalis.Qabil waligi ma hadhayo.

We're in the West. You should be glad she found a Somali guy to marry.

It could be a lot worse.

[Hyperactive]

TG, don't ask his qabil, is not necessary, just ask about him and his akhlaaq and integrity. I believe that is more important if he is religious or not. Seen religious people who are very nasty when comes to disagreement.

[Theguardian]

TG, don't ask his qabil, is not necessary, just ask about him and his akhlaaq and integrity. I believe that is more important if he is religious or not. Seen religious people who are very nasty when comes to disagreement.

Definitely. Thanks.

[Susu000]

Guardian,

What do you mean he is not religious? Does he not pray the salah? if he does not pray the salah, ofcourse he cannot marry you because nikah on tarik kusalah is not valid. its like Zinah. If he prays the salah, all you need to tell him is to dress up like he is going for an interview. Make sure he prays atleast one salah that day in your mom's house. Don't remind him to pray let him ask your mom if he can get a masalah. In the somali society, if he pray salah, he is religious, if he wears khamiis, he is sheikh.

If he is Habargidir, he needs to bring caano geel, if he is mareexaan he needs to bring khuule, if he is abgaal, he needs to bring Bun iyo daango, and if he is isaaq, Khat is fine if you have a chewing relative. If he is Ogaden, caano boore is enough

You're so funny!! Not a chewer.
He prays but he looks/dresses like a banker and his afSomali is little bit better than mine. She wants someone who can "better me" in that sense. I don't want him to change his personality for the meeting- I want her to like him as he is like I do.

Would you believe me if I told I don't know what his clan is?
I have to tell him mine because he told his mum about me and his mother asked him to find out last week I think - but I don't think he is issaq.

Sis, the last thing you wanna do is tell your mum I want to get married to this guy but I don't know his clan.

You might not care, God knows I don't give a flying f*ck about Qabiil but unfortunately the ugly truth is that it does matter. Your family would want to know before they even consider inviting his elders to their home. Certain qabiil are a big no no to some families.

The last scenario you would want is his elders sitting in your living room being asked what their clan is and if they for example reply "we are Madhibaan, or any other clans that your family perhaps wouldn't want to marry you off to.. and your uncles get upset and dismissive. That could be very hurtful to them.

You should find out so there will be no surprises.

Good luck.

[Cherine]

Yes, we're somalis.Qabil waligi ma hadhayo.

We're in the West. You should be glad she found a Somali guy to marry.

It could be a lot worse.

Deshawn, Abu Waseem or Timothy

[AbkoowDhiblaawe]

lol can't believe y'all are falling for this bs stories by this person. maalin walba new story

[QuantumSatis]

TheGuardian obviously comes from a home where a Somali person's clan isn't that important. Don't try to change her because she is not you, wish her all the best since she said she will marry a Somalii. I don't see what the fuss is all about


If I was Guardian's male care-taker(family), I would worry more about him having a steady job and decency than his clan. If a woman's family is very happy with the man she brings home, then that is all that matters. Not what every other Somali thinks.

We make the mistake of assuming every Somali family raises their kids with clan indoctrination. Many Somalis don't care about clan association when it comes to giving away their daughters. They care more about the man's faith, work ethics, and whether he can take care of their daughter emotionally and financially.

I would not marry a Somali woman who emphasizes her clan over her being a Somali honestly. I don't come from that kind of background, so we would not get along from the get go.


TheGuardian and her male suitor seem to be perfectly matched since non of them asked the other what clan they hail from. I wish them all the best.