Mixed Race Marriages

[MujahidaFiSabililah]

Asalamu Alaykum

I couldn't keep quiet and watch how y'all Somali guys try say Somali sister are non-Somali man eaters.

Firtly e! you obviously have non-Somali friends because my Muslim friends parents and themselves say they will marry a Muslim regardles of their nationaility. Something you yet have to find out about.

Smooth, that's probably why you so against interracialmarriages because of the Somali sisters youhave described you believe that EVERY SOMALI SISTER wants mixed race children, when that is obsurd and far from the truth.

Advocator, ''the sole purpose and intention of xaliimos'' so how exactly do you know what are intentions are? Whether they are good or bad? Exactly you don't khalas.

Xplosive Playa, if you wanna marry a Somali sister that's your choice alhamdulilah you have freewill. I understand that whoever I marry may wana make hijrah to a Muslim country and this is something I personally want to do anyway. Do you have eman? I do and whatever trials and tribulations I am faced with I wil inshAllah handle, I have already come across many trials and tribulations and this is normal and preparing me for akhirat. I don't want a peachy rosey lif eint he dunya and I dont believe it will be like that, the dunya is meant to be torture for a beliver and paradise for a non-believer. Maybe if you have have experience dthe type of hardships I have you would understand inshAllah.

Salkha I agree sister.

The person using abdiwestldn account, why aren't mixed race marriages sucessful? On what have you based that on? Your made up statistics?(don't mean to soun dharsh walaal) Haven't you come across non-Somalis living in Somalia/land? Having you got traces of non-Somali family in your family history? We aren't talking about just Somali and non-Somali marriages but also other mixed marriages and I know of people who are happily married after many years.

If you want to marry Somali full stop as your personal preference alhamdulilah may you find a pious spouse, as for what this topic was about is would you reject someone with good deen because of their skin colour? We aren't talking about I prefer cheese and onion than ready salted we talking about a creation of Allah ta'ala.

A successful relationship is based on a firm understanding of the deen! If you are compatible in the deen and both knowledge and how much of it you implement it in your life is on the same level then follows other factors such as communication.

Wasalaam

[Xplosive_playa]

[quote="MujahidaFiSabililah"]

Xplosive Playa, if you wanna marry a Somali sister that's your choice alhamdulilah you have freewill. I understand that whoever I marry may wana make hijrah to a Muslim country and this is something I personally want to do anyway. Do you have eman? I do and whatever trials and tribulations I am faced with I wil inshAllah handle, I have already come across many trials and tribulations and this is normal and preparing me for akhirat. I don't want a peachy rosey lif eint he dunya and I dont believe it will be like that, the dunya is meant to be torture for a beliver and paradise for a non-believer. Maybe if you have have experience dthe type of hardships I have you would understand inshAllah.

Wasalaam[/quote]


i personally dnt remember sayin anytin wrong...... all i said is im gonna marry a somali gal inshallah

MujahidaFiSabililah u can marry whoever u want....... coz at the end of the day its ur choice. It personally wnt affect me!!
but i pointed a couple of tings to consider wen marrying some1 outside ur race........ whther u like it or not marrying some1 who is pakistan...arab....white...... u will always beconsidered the outsider of the community!!........... this isnt how islam is suppose to be but its the reality in this world!!

looooook at how arabs treats somalis.................. walahi the british goverment treat us better and they are kuffars!!

yea this place is for heaven for the non-believers......... but maybe u should go and marry a palestinian or a iraq or a somali....let them take u bk and then u mite experience some harsh reality instead of sittin in ur cozy livin room.......... surfing the net!!

[Xplosive_playa]

[quote="MujahidaFiSabililah"]

Xplosive Playa, if you wanna marry a Somali sister that's your choice alhamdulilah you have freewill. I understand that whoever I marry may wana make hijrah to a Muslim country and this is something I personally want to do anyway. Do you have eman? I do and whatever trials and tribulations I am faced with I wil inshAllah handle, I have already come across many trials and tribulations and this is normal and preparing me for akhirat. I don't want a peachy rosey lif eint he dunya and I dont believe it will be like that, the dunya is meant to be torture for a beliver and paradise for a non-believer. Maybe if you have have experience dthe type of hardships I have you would understand inshAllah.

Wasalaam[/quote]


i personally dnt remember sayin anytin wrong...... all i said is im gonna marry a somali gal inshallah

MujahidaFiSabililah u can marry whoever u want....... coz at the end of the day its ur choice. It personally wnt affect me!!
but i pointed a couple of tings to consider wen marrying some1 outside ur race........ whther u like it or not marrying some1 who is pakistan...arab....white...... u will always beconsidered the outsider of the community!!........... this isnt how islam is suppose to be but its the reality in this world!!

looooook at how arabs treats somalis.................. walahi the british goverment treat us better and they are kuffars!!

yea this place is for heaven for the non-believers......... but maybe u should go and marry a palestinian or a iraq or a somali....let them take u bk and then u mite experience some harsh reality instead of sittin in ur cozy livin room.......... surfing the net!!

[MujahidaFiSabililah]

i personally dnt remember sayin anytin wrong...... all i said is im gonna marry a somali gal inshallah

MujahidaFiSabililah u can marry whoever u want....... coz at the end of the day its ur choice. It personally wnt affect me!!
but i pointed a couple of tings to consider wen marrying some1 outside ur race........ whther u like it or not marrying some1 who is pakistan...arab....white...... u will always beconsidered the outsider of the community!!........... this isnt how islam is suppose to be but its the reality in this world!!

looooook at how arabs treats somalis.................. walahi the british goverment treat us better and they are kuffars!!

yea this place is for heaven for the non-believers......... but maybe u should go and marry a palestinian or a iraq or a somali....let them take u bk and then u mite experience some harsh reality instead of sittin in ur cozy livin room.......... surfing the net!![/quote]

Asalamu Alaykum

Seemed like you was trying to highlight the faults of interracial marriages like every other brother whose replied to this topic.

I never said it was gonna affect you, but how about telling your brothers that it's none of their business and not to think bad of their fellow sisters.

Aslong as you and your spouse get a long and if the spouses' family reject the other spouse then it's dhembi on them really. Your right Islam isn't meant to be like that. But we have to see two sides of it to fully have an understanding. Not all families reject the non-whatever spouse.

I don't need to go back home to face harsh reality, living in Britain has shown me that already. Your quick to throw the advice but why don't you take it yourself? i don't mean going back home to see your ayeyo and awowo but how about YOU visit Falastine? *rolls eyes*

If I could go to them countries I would, but if you haven't realised I can't travel without a maharam, so that's out of the window, what's your excuse huh?

Wasalaam

[Abdi_westldn]

[quote="MujahidaFiSabililah"]Asalamu Alaykum

I couldn't keep quiet and watch how y'all Somali guys try say Somali sister are non-Somali man eaters.

Firtly e! you obviously have non-Somali friends because my Muslim friends parents and themselves say they will marry a Muslim regardles of their nationaility. Something you yet have to find out about.

Smooth, that's probably why you so against interracialmarriages because of the Somali sisters youhave described you believe that EVERY SOMALI SISTER wants mixed race children, when that is obsurd and far from the truth.

Advocator, ''the sole purpose and intention of xaliimos'' so how exactly do you know what are intentions are? Whether they are good or bad? Exactly you don't khalas.

Xplosive Playa, if you wanna marry a Somali sister that's your choice alhamdulilah you have freewill. I understand that whoever I marry may wana make hijrah to a Muslim country and this is something I personally want to do anyway. Do you have eman? I do and whatever trials and tribulations I am faced with I wil inshAllah handle, I have already come across many trials and tribulations and this is normal and preparing me for akhirat. I don't want a peachy rosey lif eint he dunya and I dont believe it will be like that, the dunya is meant to be torture for a beliver and paradise for a non-believer. Maybe if you have have experience dthe type of hardships I have you would understand inshAllah.

Salkha I agree sister.

The person using abdiwestldn account, why aren't mixed race marriages sucessful? On what have you based that on? Your made up statistics?(don't mean to soun dharsh walaal) Haven't you come across non-Somalis living in Somalia/land? Having you got traces of non-Somali family in your family history? We aren't talking about just Somali and non-Somali marriages but also other mixed marriages and I know of people who are happily married after many years.

If you want to marry Somali full stop as your personal preference alhamdulilah may you find a pious spouse, as for what this topic was about is would you reject someone with good deen because of their skin colour? We aren't talking about I prefer cheese and onion than ready salted we talking about a creation of Allah ta'ala.

A successful relationship is based on a firm understanding of the deen! If you are compatible in the deen and both knowledge and how much of it you implement it in your life is on the same level then follows other factors such as communication.

Wasalaam[/quote]



salaamu caleykum, walaal why are you being hysterical? mixed marriages dont work out as well as non0mixed marriages, and i am not talking about somali+non somali, but set in the wider context of society as a whole. it's fact, and a quick google search can determine that for you if you dont believe me. (you'll probably retort with the data not being of muslim-marriages anyways..)

in any case, if you want a black/white/yellow/blue husband, go ahead, i'm just saying that I personally WOULD say no to a man who was not somaali no matter how devout he was in deen because i know i can get a man better than that who on top of that will give me FULL SOMALI children, and with whose family i wont feel out of place. i could never for the life of me ever contemplate marrying a non-somali man, it would be a major no-no. if i marry a non-somali i might as well marry a kaafir, thats how alien the idea is to me.

as a note to you sister, dont be fooled by those who want to lead you from your own nation, there are SOOOO many somali guys who are mashallah devout in their deen who work study and on top of that committ themselves to da'wa work and learning arabic on their own. i frankly dont see the big deal with marrying out of your race or culture just because the other person is muslim... it's like marrying someone on bloodtype alone, just because they happen to be devout in their deen doesnt mean you two will get along. you start to live in the real world and consider other factors with regard to marriage, such as age, hobbies, personality, demeanor, cultural background, educational background etc.

you should trust allah, but tie your camel.

ps: i'm a sister too

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this is not abdi

[Xplosive_playa]

^ At last some1 making sense..........

[MujahidaFiSabililah]

Walaykum Salaam Wa Rahmatulaahi Wa Barakatuhu

I already put my trust in Allah.

End of the day a Somali sisters don't need permission from Somali brothers or other Sisters except from their wali. So if anyone got a problem they can backbite and stare in public that's their issue not ours.

Khalas, topic discussed.

Wasalaam

[KIYAN IS BACK!]

stop actin arab with them words like khalas

[Abdi_westldn]

[quote="MujahidaFiSabililah"]Walaykum Salaam Wa Rahmatulaahi Wa Barakatuhu

I already put my trust in Allah.

End of the day a Somali sisters don't need permission from Somali brothers or other Sisters except from their wali. So if anyone got a problem they can backbite and stare in public that's their issue not ours.

Khalas, topic discussed.

Wasalaam[/quote]


you may have put your trust in Allah, but have you tied your camel? i.e. have you gone out of your way to make sure you have not put yourself, your family and your dignity on the line?
marrying a man of another race just because he is muslim doesn't make you more of a muslim, nor does it make you more pious.

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this is not abdi

[MujahidaFiSabililah]

Asalamu Alaykum

My affairs, eman and intentions are between me and my rabb, I ain't gonna disclose them to make my point or let others question it on a social forum.

So the answer to your question if it was not rhetorical question is no comment.

I really don't know why you aren't letting this go sister. Is it you who has undiscovered issues with interracial marriages? Because for someone who doesn't care, it seems ironic that your getting all analytical and deep with your comments; hence why you making judgements about me in regards to something in the future which we have no control over?

There's no point dwelling on the past because it is like sawing sawdust and no point getting too fixated on what will happen in the future because we do not know if tommorrow will come.

There's a reason to everything and reason is what makes sense, Allah ta'ala made interracial marriages halal so do not imply it is makrooh with your comments and be careful what you say. If it is your solely personal preferences which you have based your final answer on then alhamdulilah but do not imply what others do with too many negative comments. If your comments were not to be insulting interracial marriages then you would have stated both sides of the argument and then come to a conclusion.

Wasalatu Wasalaam

[Abdi_westldn]

walaal, forgive me if it seems as if im critisizing you. i'm just very negative to the whole "inter-racial" marriage thing. to me it's a recipe for a disasterous marriage, of course it's not for everyone and you are perfectly entitled to make any decision you like with regards to your marriage. likewise your eman and intentions are between you and God, and you should not have to justify yourself to me.

i'm just expressing my views concerning the issue, the reason why i said inter-racial mariage doesnt make you more muslims, is because that seems to be the dominant excuse for marrying someone of another race, *that their skin colour/cultural background* doesnt matter so long as the person is muslim. it just doesnt hack it for me walaal.

anyways, i did not make inter-racial marriages makhrooh, i just said the idea is so alien to me, it's as if i were to marry a kaafir. and i am negative to inter-racial marriages simply because thats how i am. i dont wish to have a non-somali spouse, i dont want my children, my siblings or anyone else in my family to have that either. its not to say i find other muslims inferior, just saying whatever youre looking for you can find a man who fits that description and who is somali, unless different nationality is a must.

anyways, salaam sister, good luck with whatever you choose.


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this is not abdi

[MujahidaFiSabililah]

Asalamu Alaykum

We should give 70 excuses for our brothers and sisters, so no need to apologise.

I can see where your negative views have derived from, many girls use it as an excuse yet many do not and are simply adhering to what Allah said and the sunnah.

Your right, of course the argument, ''it doeesn't matter as long as their muslim'' isn't the case, it is about other characteristics. But these kind of opinions come from sisters who may be not practicing who do not know the characteristics your meant to look for etc.

I didn't mean you made interracial marrages makrooh, I meant your making it sound like it's makrooh, just like people say shisha is makrooh yet some people argue it's haram etc.

InshAllah you will find a pious and righteous spouse, Ameen.

There's no such thing as good luck, but make du'a for me instead =]

Walaykum Salaam Wa Rahmatulaah

[e!]

why do girls like MF need to give us 2 million excuses to marry a non somali???? Somali guys are like this, somali guys are like that, i cant find any good somali guy= BULLL FUKING SHIT TO THE NINTH DEGREE

If you dont want to marry a somali, fine....be gone...

[MujahidaFiSabililah]

Quote me where I have said that directly or indirectly and you will find your the fool who can't read.

Don't like this topic then go.

[e!]

learn to read fool, i said "girls like MF"