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Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:24 pm
by Xamud.
Rapidwolverine
I understand sxb, as long as she`s not revealing her cawra, let her be. Don`t be a control freak sxb.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:26 pm
by Rapidwolverine
But that is were it all started from the other issues in my marriage. I let her wear what she wants and now she does whatever she wants. I have lost all respect for her all she does is sit on the sofa and is on her laptop all day. She sits on social networking sites and forums all day long. I have no idea what websites she goes on she never shows me. Imagine if she is interacting with men that why I want to ban her from certain activities I have been too laidback I think I need to put my foot down.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:32 pm
by abdalla11
Rapidwolverine wrote:
Me and the wife are going through many problems I am very unhappy with her. As to your question she used to wear quite tight fitting clothes before we got married. Than slowly stopped whilst we are married but now it has hit summer and she is wearing quite revealing clothing and I don't want my wife being seen by other men like that. Of course I have the power to put my foot down and I wish she wore a jilbaab instead not niqaab. Jibaab brother.
Rapidwolverine wrote:I will never divorce my wife. I hate divorce and I look down on people who have divorces I don't give up in education, work and life. I refuse to give up in two things religion and marriage.
I married a terrible wife and I have accepted that. Is that shocking? or is that commendable?
I know its wrong but those two sentences made me laugh.

brother i wish you the best :up:

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:37 pm
by ToughGong
^
Man that's a horrendous situation to be in.A marriage where you don't respect each other
If the situation is only temperory,then you can ride through this rough period
Laakiin if its permanent,then divorce is halal for a reason sxb

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:37 pm
by Rapidwolverine
Yes I should stop doing that people have picked up on those insults before.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:44 pm
by Xamud.
Rapidwolverine wrote:But that is were it all started from the other issues in my marriage. I let her wear what she wants and now she does whatever she wants. I have lost all respect for her all she does is sit on the sofa and is on her laptop all day. She sits on social networking sites and forums all day long. I have no idea what websites she goes on she never shows me. Imagine if she is interacting with men that why I want to ban her from certain activities I have been too laidback I think I need to put my foot down.

Your to soft, tell her to either get a job, or start cooking and clean like a housewife, if she refuses to do that, don`t give her no money and take the visa cards from her,if she s still refusing to change then put her ass on the street for a week or two, that should do the trick.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:47 pm
by Rapidwolverine
Thats a bit heisty but how about if I tweak what you said brother.

1. Tell her to start wearing lots of clothes i.e. Jilbaab style
2. Ban her from the internet
3. Force her to cook for me and my friends. She doesn't cook when more than 2 people are with me.
4. Make her get a job, but I made her leave hers it was very bad and changed her.

I will try these 4 brother thanks. I'll do it one by one to ease her into it.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:47 pm
by Ladyyonelove
One thing i know is that if she doesn't have love for allahey and respect for herself she will never care for you and your wishs

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:53 pm
by Rapidwolverine
Sorry for hijacking your thread sister. I will keep you all updated brothers and sisters thank you all for helping. I may make a thread mid next week and see if the first step has been undertaken. I will be grabbing my marriage by the throat of the neck Insha'allah it is a success!

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 8:56 pm
by Ladyyonelove
Rapidwolverine wrote:So for hijacking your friend sister. I will keep you all updated brothers and sisters thank you all for helping. I may make a thread mid next week and see if the first step has been undertaken. I will be grabbing my marriage by the throat of the neck Insha'allah it is a success!


goodluck to you huuno :D

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 4:44 am
by HELWAA
Rapidwolverine wrote:Thats a bit heisty but how about if I tweak what you said brother.

1. Tell her to start wearing lots of clothes i.e. Jilbaab style
2. Ban her from the internet
3. Force her to cook for me and my friends. She doesn't cook when more than 2 people are with me.
4. Make her get a job, but I made her leave hers it was very bad and changed her.

I will try these 4 brother thanks. I'll do it one by one to ease her into it.

You cant change anybody, if you wanted a jilbaab lady you should've married one in the first place.This is what ruins most marriages, when pple are not honest to eachother from the start.The been ku so xaree thing doesnt work huuno...cidna badli kari maysid.All you can do just advice her and hope she change her mind.

If you do what you just wrote i sure u she will leave ur ass.You married an adult with braincells not a CHILD you can order around.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 4:46 am
by BlackVelvet
^^^^^ :up:

You married a woman who likes to show off her body now you've got to live with a wife who likes to show off her body.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 4:54 am
by HELWAA
3. Force her to cook for me and my friends. She doesn't cook when more than 2 people are with me.
This line just pisses of me walaahi....Why does she have to cook for ur friends bal..ta bal aniga iga jawaab ?

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 4:58 am
by BlackVelvet
HELWAA wrote:
3. Force her to cook for me and my friends. She doesn't cook when more than 2 people are with me.
This line just pisses of me walaahi....Why does she have to cook for ur friends bal..ta bal aniga iga jawaab ?
:lol: :lol:

Halaal showing off.

Re: Something new I learned about myself.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 5:01 am
by HELWAA
Bv

Ma yaabtey adna...waxaad moodaba inu personal maid guursadey. :lol: