question to the ladies here...

[FAH1223]

Fah - We just started intern year, PGYs are behind me. Btw, thanks for adding me on LinkedIn, forgot to message you. Not married, yet. I'm in a long-term relationship, though. We're just working out last minute stuff. Adiga, how's work? Did you start your grad program? How d'you manage to have a whopping number on your LinkedIn? Walahi, I barely have time to search anyone, closed my fb too. Not a sociable person here.

Work is good, can't complain just thankful even when things get complicated there. I should start class next semester insha Allah

And a lot of people add me cause LinkedIn is linked with your gmail so I think requests get put out automatically lol

[Anarchist]

Hyper - I'm OCD, too. Checking & re-checking to make sure that my stove is off every night before hitting the bed, checking on the main door, then checking again after my kid brother comes home, between the stove & main door, garage, patio door is a total of probably 6 times. Your skin will dry out if you keep taking that many showers. Skin has natural oils that you're washing away each time you shower with hot/warm water. If you must take that many showers, at least shower with cooler water and always use a moisturizer like olive oil immediately after shower before drying off completely, it helps protect the skin from dryness and specially eczema. As for eating, eat what you enjoy and keep taking your multivitamins.

I saw that your cousin was in the Ramadan Qur'an competition, good on him. I liked his recitation. Different from his father's, but still Mashallah!

[Anarchist]

Fah - We just started intern year, PGYs are behind me. Btw, thanks for adding me on LinkedIn, forgot to message you. Not married, yet. I'm in a long-term relationship, though. We're just working out last minute stuff. Adiga, how's work? Did you start your grad program? How d'you manage to have a whopping number on your LinkedIn? Walahi, I barely have time to search anyone, closed my fb too. Not a sociable person here.

Work is good, can't complain just thankful even when things get complicated there. I should start class next semester insha Allah

And a lot of people add me cause LinkedIn is linked with your gmail so I think requests get put out automatically lol

Good luck with grad school. It's a totally different environment than undergrad years. Expect to see a lot of older people in your classes, even retired folk, everyone is back in school again.

My gmail isn't active much which is linked to my LinkedIn, maybe I should link it to my school email? Probably. Are you voting this November? Planning on sitting this one out.

[FarhanYare]

yes bro, the same old thing. yes i know, i have issue eating healthy food. but im forced to take vitamin supplements. ive anemia too and recently i was diagnosed OCD. i always was clean freak but things got worse recently. take shower 6+ times, cleaning everything over and over...etc.

Hyper,
you have anemia because you are lacking iron, you need start including in your diet iron rich foods e.g liver, kidneys, beef, spinach.
otherwise your will keep getting the following symptoms: constant headache, weakness, sore muscles, not being able to concentrate e,t,c

[Cunaaye25]

Since I'm going to have a career, I will sometimes cook for him. But don't expect me to slave in the kitchen after work. I would rather take a bath while he cooks dinner and feeds me afterwards massage my feet.

waxaas waxaad u sheegi kartaa ciyaalka barafka cuney....oo lagu bahdiley Western world......oo lagu yiri Western culture waa ilbax..............waxaan kuu sheegayaa raga raga ahaa waxaas ha ula imaan waxaas ...rag baaa ba jiraa oo ku qadeeyo no less then 1 sheep of lamb maliintii .............magaratey...

[salool]

Didn't he marry me so that i would cook, clean, take care of the kids etc for him in the first place? Markaan kitchenka isaga ku xaraynayo, maxaan anigu ku maqanahay?
Hadaay gabadhi gurigeeda maamulkiisa ka soo bixi kari waysay, then obviously markeedii horeba waxay ahayd goonbaar baali ah.

Afkaaga caano lagu qabay, only 18 mashallah! maskaxda wa lagu so dhasha walle

[greenday]

How can you divorce your wife for not cooking and why is his mother bringing food when there is Mr patel I think motherhood will be the changing point when you are thinking caruurta yeeynan ka dhiman Lets not forget its not being able to cook some people just dont like cooking!

[Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE]

I hate cooking and cleaning. We are gonna eat out..and he is gonna do the cleaning..no way in hell i am gonna get my pretty hands dirty..uff.

[Lillaahiya]

If we both work then something's gotta give. Having left overs will become a reality. I'd prolly prep for meals during the weekend so that it's easier to make a meal when I come home from work. If I don't work then A hot meal every night and the breakfast as much as possible.

He's got to be worth it though.

[kambuli]

Lilaahiya said the truth and the reality...

Men should either be men and be the breadwiners of the household...In that case the lady of the house should be a great housewife and bring even warm water for his feet when he sets his feet at home...warm plate and warm bed...

Or

He should accept the fact that if his wife is working like him, it is a must that he helps her with the house chore

It is simple. No one can have both ways....Gabadha is not a robbot...Help her..as she is having babies, getting prgnant etc etc

[FAH1223]

If we both work then something's gotta give. Having left overs will become a reality. I'd prolly prep for meals during the weekend so that it's easier to make a meal when I come home from work. If I don't work then A hot meal every night and the breakfast as much as possible.

He's got to be worth it though.

my mom does it all the time

we eat leftovers at home 3-4 nights a week and the other nights my mom or sister cook

[Saraxnow]

The question is strange. You cook and clean to live; it's a given.

[Lillaahiya]

we eat leftovers at home 3-4 nights a week and the other nights my mom or sister cook

I hate left overs. I guess you gotta make compromises.

[TheblueNwhite]

As long as she takes care of herself, takes care of our children (makes sure they eat well, dress well, finish up their school work etc) and respects me by listening to me when I talk to her, I don't mind cooking and cleaning for her. A good mother and a good wife deserves to be pampered.

[NoAngst.]

I'm not a lady but I'll wade in with my 2 cent's worth as a very straight heterosexual guy. It all depends.

If I'm the sole breadwinner working 8-10 hours a day and my wife is stay-at-home wife, then I expect her to cook and clean. I can't be expected to cook and clean when I get home at 6 PM while she's been sitting home chilling all day.

If she is the sole breadwinner and I'm the stay-at-home dad, I'd cook and clean. It is only fair.

If, on the other hand, we both work full-time we'll divide the cooking and cleaning along with other house chores evenly.

So it is really simple. You women as usual like to complicate things and create drama for no good reason.