Somali women and Ajanabi men

[DisplacedDiraac]

Don't be settlers ladies..
If a great catch comes along go for it.. Make sure he's a believer though..

[metamorphosis]

Somali men werent made for Somali women and the inverse is also true. If you wish to marry outside you dont need to hide behind reasons and excuses. Marry whosoever you desire and live your life. There are plenty of Somali men who are well educated and have decent to excellent jobs.

Moreover, if you choose your mate based on how much money he makes and how well learnt he is arent you forgetting other important qualities that should precede those idk like deen, akhlaaq dhaqan and etc? Money comes and goes and education is easily achieveable but competability, understanding, language, culture and deen arent. What language will the children learn?

Thirdly, for your own sake I hope you dont get divorced because no somali man will raise ajnabe kids.

[DonCorleone]

iF YOU CAN'T FIND A 'GOOD' SOMALI MAN IN UK OR NORTH AMERICA

TRY EDUCATED SMART GUYS BACK HOME

YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE TO BE HONEST.

[ElfRuler]

Only girls with no self-respect go with ajnabis. If you want to go ahead, just don't complain when nobody wants anything to do with you.

That's a comment that could only be made by an insecure and delusional man.

Typical comment. If you want to, prove me wrong, otherwise iga leexo.

Your whole argument is irrational and illogical. There is no correlation between marrying an ajnabi man and lack of self-respect.

No self-respecting Somali woman should marry a Somali man who doesn't meet her standards simply because he is "Somali".

[ElfRuler]

Thirdly, for your own sake I hope you dont get divorced because no somali man will raise ajnabe kids.

What's up with the scaremongering?

Somali men, the ones that are divorced barely stay around to raise their own kids, so what are the chances that they will raise kids they didn't father regardless of their father's origin?

The issue is not that her kids are ajnabi, but that it was never part of the Somali man's agenda to take care of the kids he fathered once he divorces their mother.

[metamorphosis]

Thirdly, for your own sake I hope you dont get divorced because no somali man will raise ajnabe kids.

What's up with the scaremongering?

Somali men, the ones that are divorced barely stay around to raise their own kids, so what are the chances that they will raise kids they didn't father regardless of their father's origin?

The issue is not that her kids are ajnabi, but that it was never part of the Somali man's agenda to take care of the kids he fathered once he divorces their mother.

You misunderstood.

[GeoSeven]

I could never imagine marrying someone outside my nationality! Marriage in itself is hard work so why would you add another culture into the mix, thats just a recipe for disaster. The prophet (pbuh) said love for your brother what you love for yourself and most of these halimos who are acting all "team ajnabi" all wanna end up with a farah anyways so why would you recommend non-somali to your sisters only to discover what you already know "that all men are the same" regardless. I rather take my risk on a somali guy and throw him his baac madow if he does me wrong rather than loose myself with ajnabi, just saying!

A simple rationally and logically deduced statement by a female specimen

You certainly have a bright future ahead of you. What an entrance...welcome to the forum

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

My point seems to have completely went over your head. What I'm saying is, if you want to marry an ajnabi go ahead, it's nobody's business except yours and your fam. However dont insult Somali guys "Somali men this, somali men that" and tar them with the same brush as the playboy ciyaalasuuq you hang around. There are plenty of decent guys out there, it's just you want an ajnabi first. Thats why you jump on the first one you find before he can even finish the shahada.

Only indhayar women have as low a self esteem but at least they go with rich ugly white guys, instead of Tyrone the recently incarcerated.

[talxenegus]

As if they would marry a Ajnabi who is a Scholar, Doctor. Come most of them marry some guy just came out of jail who does them up the wrong side then they come crying. Better a Somali Farax then a Rat. with nothing to give except it being a sexual phantasy.

Btw kinter has no race thats why the lineage is with the dad.

[ElfRuler]

Thirdly, for your own sake I hope you dont get divorced because no somali man will raise ajnabe kids.

What's up with the scaremongering?

Somali men, the ones that are divorced barely stay around to raise their own kids, so what are the chances that they will raise kids they didn't father regardless of their father's origin?

The issue is not that her kids are ajnabi, but that it was never part of the Somali man's agenda to take care of the kids he fathered once he divorces their mother.

You misunderstood.

Your last statement is even more clear

[QaaliDumar]

Wow, lix baal ayaaba la marayaa?!

Wax aan loo joogin la iskuma mashquuliyo, cidi ajnabi/Soomaali guursan raba ayagay quseysaa

[ElfRuler]

My point seems to have completely went over your head. What I'm saying is, if you want to marry an ajnabi go ahead, it's nobody's business except yours and your fam. However dont insult Somali guys "Somali men this, somali men that" and tar them with the same brush as the playboy ciyaalasuuq you hang around. There are plenty of decent guys out there, it's just you want an ajnabi first. Thats why you jump on the first one you find before he can even finish the shahada.

Only indhayar women have as low a self esteem but at least they go with rich ugly white guys, instead of Tyrone the recently incarcerated.

Don't back track when you realize how ridiculous you initial statement was. You were the one who used a wide brush to describe every Somali woman who marries an ajnabi as one that has no self-respect. The idea that is being propagated here is that a Somali woman who marries an ajnabi is to be marginalized and God forbid if she gets divorced like the rest of the Somali women married to Somali man these days.

Somali women who are married to Somali man don't have it that great, and divorce is high in our community. So why do we pretend like marrying a Somali man is like marrying Prince Charming.

You have repeatedly insulted Somali women and you have to audacity to demand that we don't insult Somali man Take your taxi and ride into faraxland.

[metamorphosis]

Somali women that have been divorced by somali men will have no difficulties finding another man to marry. However a somali woman that has been divorced by an ajnabe has zero chance of getting married to a farax. That is the truth. People have choices and they should be able to choose who they marry. They should also live with the ramifications of their decisions. Stay out as you have chosen to leave yesterday.

I am baffled that some of you are glorifying interracial marriage and portray it as the ultimate salvation for somali women when it is nothing but a nightmare, at least for the most part.

I know some somali girls that got married to ajnabes and they were expected to work and make a financial comtributions to the family. In a Somali household the craziest farax would never ask his wife to work. Some were begging for a meternity leave well before due and I couldnt help but pity them.

It is a bridge and once you cross it, it collapses making it impossible for one to get a shot at redemption.

[Tuushi]

Cursed and rotten tomatoes at those women.Worthless traitors.

[DANGIRL]

There are no shortage of educated Somali men, but that's not the problem. The problem is, you ladies either attract bums or aren't into Somali men and looking for an excuse as to why you can't find yourself a decent one.

Anyway, I have yet to see an average Somali women who's married to well off ajanabi men( lawyers, doctors, businessmen's, etc. ), but I know plenty of Somali women who married to these type of men are Somalis. I mean if you gonna get yourself a non-Somali man, aim high not low.