Marrying from another qabiil.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Qaraabonimadu qaarka dambe ma gasho!!!!.

According to Baastounit(2015) 80% of same-tribe-marriages fail. Of the remaining 20%, 83% are just marriages on paper and the couples are in other relationship. 15% are so called "qaraabo kiil" (mercy marriages) where one of the partners is suffering from a mental disease, disability etc.

For further reading; Baastounit (2015). The elusive concept of qabiil marriages; an empirical study of somali qaraabo qansax marriages. Journal of Somali kacsi studies, volume 50, issue 3. p 23-26

lool@ baastounite .. so lama doesnt discriminate suxul baruurta nimcatul fashooq da

[InaSamaale]

The results are baffling...

its interesting ... i'm curious have you went outside of the beesha?

Coincidentally, he is lol - but I never had same clan as a criteria. It just worked out that way. My older sister is married to a Hawiye & it wasn't a big deal because he's a good guy.


I'm sure everyone has a list of criteria they would like in a spouse, some of which you will probably compromise on. To further add a clan specification seems impractical to me. :/


Was your ex wife a different clan?

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

The results are baffling...

its interesting ... i'm curious have you went outside of the beesha?

Coincidentally, he is lol - but I never had same clan as a criteria. It just worked out that way. My older sister is married to a Hawiye & it wasn't a big deal because he's a good guy.


I'm sure everyone has a list of criteria they would like in a spouse, some of which you will probably compromise on. To further add a clan specification seems impractical to me. :/


Was your ex wife a different clan?

i see, yes she was, you are my ex dumaashi before i got married i never cared about qabiil or region. i still do not care about qabiil but i would think about the distance.

[Lamagoodle]

Cigaal; I have an equal opportunity heart when I meet Xusul baruurs nimcatul fashuuqs.

Here is another study you should read; According to a study done in London, MN, and Toronto, most xusul baruur garoobs were previously married to their qaraabo qansax (Lamagoodle, 2016).

Let me share with you my serendipity a day ago:

I went to Zab(sab) and was taking the lifts/elevator to go home. This beauty 28-35 comes in and says "Habari Lamagoodle". This is an area where there are no Somali sijuis. I looked at her and I swear my heart stopped. She had all the qualities in a somali woman; qoordheer, dhex dhuuban, ilko saqaf leh, suuro and to my pleasure wore an intoxicating uunsi which was hallucinating me.

I replied shivering "mzuri"... and added "are you from the NFD"

No, I am from Kakamega but my dad is from Mandera. We are family. I am your qaraabo.

When she said " I am your qaraabo" I regained my heartbeat. I looked at her one more time and all the features I observed a few seconds ago were gone. She was just another Xaliimo.

So sometimes same qabiil is not a good start to commence your chase. I have been thinking about this encounter for many hours and I have concluded that same qabiil is a liability when ones objective is not marriage but something else.

P.s. where did I get this idea that our Insamaale is married to reer xamar wadaad?

P.s.s If you are a man and married to a woman from your qabiil, chances are (the risk is) that she will be Lamagoodle's next prey. Because same clan marriages often fail (Baastounit, 2015)

[InaSamaale]

i see, yes she was, you are my ex dumaashi before i got married i never cared about qabiil or region. i still do not care about qabiil but i would think about the distance.

I'm guessing your negative experiences have changed your mind. From what I've seen interfering in laws can be of the same clan too. InshAllah you find what you seek walaal.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Cigaal; I have an equal opportunity heart when I meet Xusul baruurs nimcatul fashuuqs.

Here is another study you should read; According to a study done in London, MN, and Toronto, most xusul baruur garoobs were previously married to their qaraabo qansax (Lamagoodle, 2016).

Let me share with you my serendipity a day ago:

I went to Zab(sab) and was taking the lifts/elevator to go home. This beauty 28-35 comes in and says "Habari Lamagoodle". This is an area where there are no Somali sijuis. I looked at her and I swear my heart stopped. She had all the qualities in a somali woman; qoordheer, dhex dhuuban, ilko saqaf leh, suuro and to my pleasure wore an intoxicating uunsi which was hallucinating me.

I replied shivering "mzuri"... and added "are you from the NFD"

No, I am from Kakamega but my dad is from Mandera. We are family. I am your qaraabo.

When she said " I am your qaraabo" I regained my heartbeat. I looked at her one more time and all the features I observed a few seconds ago were gone. She was just another Xaliimo.. So sometimes same qabiil is not a good start to commence your chase. I have been thinking about this encounter for many hours and I have concluded that same qabiil is a liability when ones objective is not marriage but something else

ilaahay ba bad baadiyay miskiinta! lakiin sidani cadaalad ma aha. qabiilooyinka kale na waad tashkiilinaysa kuwa qabiilkana waad dhowraysaa

[InaSamaale]

@Lamagoodle, no he's tolka but his mother is Reer Xamar. Just my luck, got someone that was spoiled with all sorts of sweets I cannot cook.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

i see, yes she was, you are my ex dumaashi before i got married i never cared about qabiil or region. i still do not care about qabiil but i would think about the distance.

I'm guessing your negative experiences have changed your mind. From what I've seen interfering in laws can be of the same clan too. InshAllah you find what you seek walaal.

when did we talk about inlaws? i've nothing but good things to say abt my inlaws. ... when i said distance i meant region, not her qabiil or family. as to why i prefer that, i've already explained in the previous pages to inaayah.

[InaSamaale]

^ Oh okay, I misunderstood then. I must confess I didn't bother to read all the pages lol

[Lamagoodle]

Cigaal, Grumpy middle aged men just want to have fun; mid rogga iyo jaazka isla tumano, waqtigana isla riixno... dabadeedna waa siduu ilaah ka dhigo. (if it fails or succeeds, the strategy is always to blame on the elusive CALAF).. with qaraabo, you don't want to send the wrong message that has found Mr. right, in this case Lamagoodle (the dream of every soddoh ). If I continued with that qalanjo in the elevator yesterday, chances are that the wedding drums would have been beating today.

Cigaalow; you need to attend Lamagoodle university to get specialised lessons on how to chase, capture and consume the blessed xusul baruurs; date a non-somali and create a name for yourself ( naag gaalo ayuu la socday will enhance your image), then you should learn how to seduce somali women ( amaanta ka badi, quruxda, socodka, qosolka).....

Insamaale, ok. I wish you a long lasting marriages characterised by love, happiness and understanding. Wait!! Ma qorqod baad soo xareeysatay?

[InaSamaale]

Thanks Lam, laakiin waa maxaa qorqod?

[MujahidAishah]

Waar blue your a racist your not fooling anyone sxb buugta jooji and embrace it

[Lamagoodle]

Thanks Lam, laakiin waa maxaa qorqod?

Qorqod; nin jikada gala (the Mecca of women)...Imagine if he goes to Somalia and given his qorqodnimo he heads for the jiko; that is the end of your marriage because the women will be singing "qorqod qooraansi dheer, dheryaha qooraaminaayo, qoloduu yahay qurun buu u keenay, ee qaadirow qolo ha noogu dhigin"

Qorqod= man who goes to the kitchen to look for leftovers in the pot

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Cigaal, Grumpy middle aged men just want to have fun; mid rogga iyo jaazka isla tumano, waqtigana isla riixno... dabadeedna waa siduu ilaah ka dhigo. (if it fails or succeeds, the strategy is always to blame on the elusive CALAF).. with qaraabo, you don't want to send the wrong message that has found Mr. right, in this case Lamagoodle (the dream of every soddoh ). If I continued with that qalanjo in the elevator yesterday, chances are that the wedding drums would have been beating today.

Cigaalow; you need to attend Lamagoodle university to get specialised lessons on how to chase, capture and consume the blessed xusul baruurs; date a non-somali and create a name for yourself ( naag gaalo ayuu la socday will enhance your image), then you should learn how to seduce somali women ( amaanta ka badi, quruxda, socodka, qosolka).....

Insamaale, ok. I wish you a long lasting marriages characterised by love, happiness and understanding. Wait!! Ma qorqod baad soo xareeysatay?

if only they knew what you write on here .... lool@ gaalo girl friend, al-khabiir, i feel i have already attended your classes, i have been taking notes from your posts lol



i have to admit i like reading your posts, they are full of wisdom and khiyaano but i got a question sxb, isnt the time you hang up your gloves and marry to a dhaylo suxul bauur ah from the family? you know the older we get the closer we get to death.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Waar blue your a racist your not fooling anyone sxb buugta jooji and embrace it

lol. adigu even samaroonka waxba kama jiraan u just said it bcz they are reer abtigaa but you and i know u would never go outside of the beesha barakaysan