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Nabeela wrote:I am just curious, how important do you think romance is to a relationship, marriage, and what is romance to you fellow Snetters?
I know, I know, usually Somalis and Romance don't mix, but there's always the exception lol. Anyhow my friend who got married two years ago is always telling me, Nabeela married life is marax abaayo, ha isku gursan, and goes on and on about how her husband doesn't have a romantic bone in his body and pretty much romance is non existent in her marriage, etc, etc. But I can't help but think it's more so her HUSBAND and not the marriage in general. Waxan ku iri nayaa maxad romance iyo waxas ku fali as long as he's good to you and loves you, and if romance is really important to you do something about it, and if your man is a little dense, give him a hint, wear a sexy, hot night gown once in a while or give him a massage when he comes home from fadhi ku dirir, or just bluntly tell him what you want and need, and if you are not comfortable doing any of those things, buy yourself a romance novel and call it a day, her reply was "Nabeela you simply don't understand abaayo"
Married people enlighten me, is there a way to help my friend.
Yeah, don't marry a faraax. Or conduct a careful search till you meet one who does have that "bone".
what romance? somalis breed like cats and no time to enjoy/play. the wife is pregnant every year like she thinks her husband's tribe are endangered spieces and is rescuing them from oblivion.
i can't help but to imagine u having absolutely no sort of emotional communication with ur wife. like u'll come home sit on ur side of the coach and read ur newspaper.
i can't help but to imagine u having absolutely no sort of emotional communication with ur wife. like u'll come home sit on ur side of the coach and read ur newspaper.
BaasAbuur wrote:This is what watching too many romantic comedies and other chick flicks does to girls.
I was about to same thing walaahi. LOL @ receiving flowers and a box of chocolate, rose petals on the bed and bubble bath etc.. You people have bought into the western concept of romance. What the hell would receiving flowers do for me? What do the flowers symbolize anyway? My husband doing something for me out of the goodness of his heart, and not because he wants to appear to be 'romantic', is what I would call a romantic gesture. Him giving me a box of chocolate and a mixed CD when I'm stressing over work-related issues and other things is hardly going to do anything for me.
when somali women talk about romance? they're really talking about FOREPLAY!!. they're just too shy to say it out loud.
romance is really foreplay, and somali women, and all women want u to use your lips on various parts of their body. her neck, her cheeks ( upper and lower cheeks ), her lips obviously, back of her ear, back of her knee, belly, back, inner thigh ( that's a good one ), nipples, and it also helps to gently squeeze their tits and slap their butt cheeks while you're at it!. then we finally get to the holly clitoris ( if she still has one, hopefully ) am not suggesting for any dude to lick it wal ciyaathu bilaah!!, just gently rub it with your fingers, and after that, when she's all wet and hot and bothered and ready to go, then u may enter her as u please!.
Nabeela wrote:I am just curious, how important do you think romance is to a relationship, marriage, and what is romance to you fellow Snetters?
I know, I know, usually Somalis and Romance don't mix, but there's always the exception lol. Anyhow my friend who got married two years ago is always telling me, Nabeela married life is marax abaayo, ha isku gursan, and goes on and on about how her husband doesn't have a romantic bone in his body and pretty much romance is non existent in her marriage, etc, etc. But I can't help but think it's more so her HUSBAND and not the marriage in general. Waxan ku iri nayaa maxad romance iyo waxas ku fali as long as he's good to you and loves you, and if romance is really important to you do something about it, and if your man is a little dense, give him a hint, wear a sexy, hot night gown once in a while or give him a massage when he comes home from fadhi ku dirir, or just bluntly tell him what you want and need, and if you are not comfortable doing any of those things, buy yourself a romance novel and call it a day, her reply was "Nabeela you simply don't understand abaayo"
Married people enlighten me, is there a way to help my friend.
or just bluntly tell him what you want and need, and if you are not comfortable doing any of those things, buy yourself a romance novel and call it a day, her reply was "Nabeela you simply don't understand abaayo"
My husband doing something for me out of the goodness of his heart, and not because he wants to appear to be 'romantic', is what I would call a romantic gesture. Him giving me a box of chocolate and a mixed CD when I'm stressing over work-related issues and other things is hardly going to do anything for me. 
