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Garaad_LQ wrote:Xaliimo vs. Faarax : The Gender Wars , Episode VIII
Kuwas inkaar iyo habaar bay qaban, waxay ka heli doonan kuwa ay ayagu korsanayan haada, sidee abahaa ugu diidi karta inu guurigago seexdo wtf is that? ilaahayow hana cadabiin, xitaa haadusan so korsan waa abahod cidna uma badelsyo I have relatives who have never met their fathers yet they send them money every month.salool wrote:The G walle xaqiiqada ayey sheektay iyo mushkilad ugu weyn ee umadeena haysata.Ninko maalinta naagtisa oo furo ayaa caruurtisa ugu danbaysa mid mid ilaahy so hadeyey mooye.
Maalin dhawayed nin weyn ba xanuunsadey magaal i dhaw..Ninkaas 6 caruur ah ayuu dhalay.Naagti waxay kala tagen 18 sano ka hor caruurto aad oo yar yar.18 sano kamu ag wareegin..sida kolba ugu jiray naag guursasho iyo dhoofis.Cala kuli xaal all his marriages ended in divorce.Marku hada xanuunsadey ee wayeel oo noqday bu caruurti oo dad waaweyn noqotay dib is idhi ola xidhiidh.Aabhood oo xanuunsaneya mid kasta wuu diiday inu aqalkiisa seexayo ka waran.Yacni masiibo ta ka weyni ma jirto.
Imika isaga oo balanbaleya bay qaar ay qaraabo isku yehiin ay gurigooga ku hayaan.Every father who never take care of his kids will end upp like that.
Lol , ok since i can't pull a switzerland on you, i'll choose the ladies but I wouldn't get into this debate,MissFiora wrote:Garaad_LQ wrote:Xaliimo vs. Faarax : The Gender Wars , Episode VIII
You're either with us or against us.. hadaba choose wisely.
It is absolutely shocking how normalised absent fathers are in our community- it needs to be stigmatized so it does not affect our next generation.MissFiora wrote:Theguardian wrote:Oh wow; now I am a "man-hater-with agenda" - just because I want Somali men to stop abandoning their children after their marriage
fails.
And what reality do I need to get back to?
Yes both gender need to work together but in reality they are not. Somali men just run away - just like now you refuse to acknowledge there is a problem by refusing to address the issue -
so typical - just bury your heads in the sand and hope Somali women will just put up with it forever-
Pointing out any sort of issues with our community makes you a hater iska amuus and front like everything is goooood. Waku sidee?!!!
Amira143 wrote:The G, your message is clear walalo, I don't know why The Mailman is coming at you like that. I guess he just wants to let off some steam. Pay no mind.
Oh I understand you perfectly clearly - I just disagree with you. Basically you recognise there is a problem but you see it a problem both genders to fix...correct? However - I think Somali men who abandon their children after their marriage ended are cowards who need good kicking in the backside.... And men like you should be doing it instead of defending them for neglecting their responsibilities by making excuses.Kaafiye wrote:Newsflash: I've been on this forum for quite a while and I've criticized the behavior of Somali men on numerous occasions, and so have many of the other members here. Don't blame me for your lack of reading comprehension. So yes, I did acknowledge that a huge problem exists.Theguardian wrote:Oh wow; now I am a "man-hater-with agenda" - just because I want Somali men to stop abandoning their children after their marriage
fails.
And what reality do I need to get back to?
Yes both gender need to work together but in reality they are not. Somali men just run away - just like now you refuse to acknowledge there is a problem by refusing to address the issue -
so typical - just bury your heads in the sand and hope Somali women will just put up with it forever-
But you don't solve this problem by pitting Somali females and Somali males against each other. I'm advising you to quit with your emotional ramblings and gender-bashing and actually think before you speak. This is my sincere advice.
Inaayah wrote:TheGuardian, you have your heart in the right place.
Theguardian wrote:LiquidHYDROGEN wrote:Lose them to who? Let me guess, are you one of those twitter-xaliimos whose entire time is taken up by insulting Somali men to madow/arab/Asian men? Are you gonna run to Kamal the Kurdish kebab-vendor for a 25 apple meher? Xaliimos who marry outside their race are just as prone, if not more so, to the same Social problems other Somali women suffer from. Sanka ha taagin, you are not all that.Theguardian wrote:One thing for sure though - Somali men are bloody lucky to have Somali women. Time to take good care of women brothers or you will lose them.
I'm proud of the Somali women with Self-respect, who hold down a job and study at the same time. Those women who strive to be good mothers to the next generation of Somalis and who don't sit on the sidelines with their madow/arab/cadaan/klingon boyfriend constantly shitting on Somali males and the Somali community at large. My mother, Aunties and cousins are that type of woman and I have nothing but love and respect for them, no matter their dress size.
I don't have Twitter account - so that should answer your question.
I never bashed Somali men - however we do have problems - where Somali men are constantly bashing Somali women about their size and comparing them to other women -this thread is evident to that. Somali women are loyal and majority of them are like your family - Somali men need to get their act together and start appreciating their women - no need to get defensive by accusing me non Somali-lover.
I am marrying a Somali man next month -but (Allah for bids) if our marriage fails for whatever reasons - he won't abandon his kids like typical Somalis guys do - if I am being honest that's the biggest problem I have with Somali men- how they can easily walk out on their kids without looking back.
I am not for inter-racial marriage amongst Somalis - but I constantly hear Somali men complaining Somali women marrying out but when Somali women explains to them why? They are dismissed and called ugly names.
*Problem needs to be addressed in order to find a solution* deny it- it will only get worse.
I never once defended them nor did I make excuses on behalf of them. Notice how instead of making a principled argument, you instead choose to hurl these accusations against me and accuse me of being something I'm not. This is a tactic typical of middle-school kids, not grown adults.Theguardian wrote:Oh I understand you perfectly clearly - I just disagree with you. Basically you recognise there is a problem but you see it a problem both genders to fix...correct? However - I think Somali men who abandon their children after their marriage ended are cowards who need good kicking in the backside.... And men like you should be doing it instead of defending them for neglecting their responsibilities by making excuses.Kaafiye wrote:Newsflash: I've been on this forum for quite a while and I've criticized the behavior of Somali men on numerous occasions, and so have many of the other members here. Don't blame me for your lack of reading comprehension. So yes, I did acknowledge that a huge problem exists.Theguardian wrote:Oh wow; now I am a "man-hater-with agenda" - just because I want Somali men to stop abandoning their children after their marriage
fails.
And what reality do I need to get back to?
Yes both gender need to work together but in reality they are not. Somali men just run away - just like now you refuse to acknowledge there is a problem by refusing to address the issue -
so typical - just bury your heads in the sand and hope Somali women will just put up with it forever-
But you don't solve this problem by pitting Somali females and Somali males against each other. I'm advising you to quit with your emotional ramblings and gender-bashing and actually think before you speak. This is my sincere advice.
