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Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 11:52 am
by kambuli
Folks...
I need your genuine advice...No sarcasm or bad mouthing etc just a serious advice..The same you would have given your own sis or brother... Please..
When I came back from my vacation, my best friend was waiting for me at Airport..Not to wellcome me but she has an issue that she wanted to share with me...And she could not even wait till I reach home.
My friend is a very, very honest girl that you would ever meet, some may call her naive...Yes some may call her Naive...But I see her as an honest creature..
She and this guy agreed to get married.. five yrs ago... The guy is a very intelligent, well educated man...but he has issues like; Womanizer...etc...He is not honest to her in any way...... When I told her she needs to move on with her life...She told me:
My heart is filled with his love and I have no space whatsoever for another guy... If I can't marry him, I will never marry another guy...
This is not right... No matter what I tell her she won't change her position...She is not getting younger also.
How can I help her? I really love my friend and I do not want to see her deteriorated in every way...

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 11:54 am
by COSTA
Its question for women only
nin la isku heysto shaqadiisa xaa na dhex geliyey

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 11:56 am
by Babygal
introduce her to a better man that can be a true friend for her and am sure she will learn to see that there are plenty fish out there for her...

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 11:57 am
by kambuli
Costa,
It is for both...If she was your sister what advice would give her?
Babygal,
I tried walaal, but it didn't work

She doesn't even want to try.
Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:00 pm
by HELWAA
Daam i missed your your stories Kambuli........it's almost better then the book i'm reading right now
Walaal let your friend liv as she wants she gonna learn from her mistaks and who knows maybe when they get married he will stop with that.

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:02 pm
by Babygal
[quote="kambuli"]Costa,
It is for both...If she was your sister what advice would give her?
Babygal,
I tried walaal, but it didn't work

She doesn't even want to try.[/quote]
I am sorry sis...don't know what else to tell you...just pray for her...
Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:05 pm
by SummerRain
Helwaa,
Dont be naive!!! A man never changes.
Kambuli,
I'm afraid with the matter of the heart there is little you can do to help your friend out. I think it better if you just talk to her and give her your valued opinion. Its up to her to take it or not. More likely in situations like this, she is going to discard your advice. keep away from her relationsips sis, this will save your relationship with her otherwise you will develope cuqdaad for you. Only advice her if she asks for it.
Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:12 pm
by HELWAA
ISMAHAN
PPLE can change walaal....if she is one he was looking for in his intire life he will be faithfull for her and respect her for rest of her life.

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:27 pm
by AbdiWahab252
Kambuli,
I appreciate you not talking about me

Your friend is a good woman and be a good friend and respect her wishes.
Stop the isku diir.

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:31 pm
by SummerRain
[quote="HELWAA"]ISMAHAN
PPLE can change walaal....if she is one he was looking for in his intire life he will be faithfull for her and respect her for rest of her life.

[/quote]
lool, too many love novel you read dear. A person's character never changes, only their responsibilites increase. Some do a good job with it and some dont. A womanizer, is a whole another story.

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:32 pm
by kambuli
Ismahan,
As a matter of fact I pray for her everynight...and everytime I pray and everytime I remember her....
AW,
Please don't do that to girls

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:35 pm
by Nabeelah
It is tragic, your friend needs to get her reality cap on. She shouldn't tolerate this kind of behavior, Rali ahow but her finace sounds like an ass, plain and simple. You need to stay strong. Let her know that you'll be there to catch her if/when she falls. Just keep giving her advise, and see what happens, at this stage thats all you can do really. Being there is the most important thing. Love is blind dear, but she can completely cut her feelings off from him if she wants to. May Allah help her. Good luck.
Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:37 pm
by HELWAA
Ismahan
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What can i say i always think the best of pple even with they are hopless

Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:42 pm
by SummerRain
[quote="HELWAA"]Ismahan
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What can i say i always think the best of pple even with they are hopless

[/quote]
There is a fine line between the doctrine of Optimism and realism my dear. I hope you are aware of that.
Re: Xalay Ma Seexan.... Please Help
Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 1:00 pm
by AbdiWahab252
Kambuli,
Don't blame me but your friend. If she loves me for who and what I am, who are you to interfere ?
Stop meddling in a happy couple ! If you are seeking to get to know me, holler but don't hate
