Anyway-- i have a dilemma--what do u do with friends who are 'too friendly' almost to a fault ?Last night we went to a family wedding and the place was packed, i mean lord have mercy.Anyway my 'friends' who supposedly have good personality, and always have to pull and say hello to people in the wedding, their socialization skills are a little bit too excellent but annoying.Sure they engage easily with strangers, thats very commendable, i dont have that challenge or skill, and it usually saves us from long awkward silences, which i hate more than anything. Anyway these friends of mine always pull people to our circle and starting chitting away, and u know inevitably when they pull these people to our circle they expose me to them.If its women i dont mind it, i am easily relaxed and maybe if i am kind i can acknowledge her existance, but if its a man, usually and i am not joking -- mostly-- they start hittin on me.I hate it! My 'friends' with no looks and plenty of personality move on to another crowd and leave me there with these horny casanovas and i am forced to be blatantly rude and just abott the scene pretending to go the ladies room!
My question is-- should i have a serious talk with them?TO be fair i dont want to 'control' or 'change' who they are, they are who they are- pleasant, authentic, socializing, over zealously friendly people. I respect that and u know frankly i admire their ease to easily engage, although i would wish them to be 'less real' than they exhibit.
They dont have to be 'genuinely' interested in every conversation they engage in, and also they dont have to say helloo to all strangers they were introduced to one time, long time ago.I usually ignore them and if those strangers ---decide to remind me who they are-and start the greeting, well i wont be rude. Essentially, what i am whinning about here is--these over friendly social behavior is affecting me personally.I dont like shaking hands with Nimaan oo saqajaaniimo showing in their eyes.So last night, i ditched my crowd friend and run to the mothers circle, which is always a safe heaven for me.
I usually love catching up with intense rampage of gossip going on in the midst, in that circle i am allowed to be seen but not heard, therefore in the process i do absorb alot of information and that is such a joy! LOOOL The funny thing is--my authentic friendly friends usually come get me right away;Sometimes i analyze in thinking these friends are using my good looks first--to attract attention and second to lure farahs to them!I think i hit on it, right? -- this bugs me!!!
Any thank for letting me rant, i feel so much better now!
