Somali women and westren world
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Somali women and westren world
In dusty, dirty, and congested streets of Mogadishu, particularly Bakara market my eyes met the unbelievably and imaginably young women. In my mind it was indescribable dream. After leaving in Diasporas over a decade, and the situation in Mogadishu, I never predicted such good-looking women still remain in Mogadishu. As the day progressed, I kept having flashback pictures of the young lady. In that afternoon with enormous hesitation, I decided to pursue finding/meeting her.
It took me little over 4 weeks to locate her and an other two weeks meeting with her. Once, I met her the urgency of getting to know her increased. She was not only beautiful, but also smart and sweet. I felt so lucky to the point I asked myself, I am the lucky guy in Mogadishu?
After months of getting to know each other, we decided to get married. Little over a year later our first son was born. Then second one, and then our fist daughter god awarded to us.
Since Somalia had no government, it was impossible for anyone to travel with Somali documents. Anyone who required any means of travel faced a true hardship. It was impossible to provide my family for any trips weather it was a necessity or pleasure.
That was the day I decided to file for her residence application in US despite the oppositions of my family, my friend, and believe it or not her own FATHER. We agreed to send to her to US, and I look after the kids while she is getting her green card. All the love and happiness changed as soon as she arrived in Minneapolis. I wonder what in is Minneapolis?
I have heard so many horror stories about Somali women changing in abroad, and I always thought.there must be Somali guys fault to lose there women. I never thought one day I would be in that seat. For the past 2 years I tried to understand what I did wrong and why is she leaving our kids and me. I still have no answer other then, bunch of single moms in MS who I never met in my life, and who don’t have any clue about my personality telling her that I am no good for her anymore. My crime, I moved out of the US (long time before I met her) and don’t want to my family to reside there. My kids and me were sentenced to be abandoned.
I repeatedly asked myself, are our Somali sisters unwise or irrational when it comes for family and marriage? What is in western world that immediately change our sister to the point they become stupid or take foolish decisions? Finally, why do the losers (mainly single moms) try to contaminate others?
I finally gave up on the women who I felt so much for her for the past seven years. My kids and me are finally on our own. Shimaale song says, anaa ubadkeygii rajoobay ee ninkii ashahaadanaayow dhulka gaaladda ha aadin.
It took me little over 4 weeks to locate her and an other two weeks meeting with her. Once, I met her the urgency of getting to know her increased. She was not only beautiful, but also smart and sweet. I felt so lucky to the point I asked myself, I am the lucky guy in Mogadishu?
After months of getting to know each other, we decided to get married. Little over a year later our first son was born. Then second one, and then our fist daughter god awarded to us.
Since Somalia had no government, it was impossible for anyone to travel with Somali documents. Anyone who required any means of travel faced a true hardship. It was impossible to provide my family for any trips weather it was a necessity or pleasure.
That was the day I decided to file for her residence application in US despite the oppositions of my family, my friend, and believe it or not her own FATHER. We agreed to send to her to US, and I look after the kids while she is getting her green card. All the love and happiness changed as soon as she arrived in Minneapolis. I wonder what in is Minneapolis?
I have heard so many horror stories about Somali women changing in abroad, and I always thought.there must be Somali guys fault to lose there women. I never thought one day I would be in that seat. For the past 2 years I tried to understand what I did wrong and why is she leaving our kids and me. I still have no answer other then, bunch of single moms in MS who I never met in my life, and who don’t have any clue about my personality telling her that I am no good for her anymore. My crime, I moved out of the US (long time before I met her) and don’t want to my family to reside there. My kids and me were sentenced to be abandoned.
I repeatedly asked myself, are our Somali sisters unwise or irrational when it comes for family and marriage? What is in western world that immediately change our sister to the point they become stupid or take foolish decisions? Finally, why do the losers (mainly single moms) try to contaminate others?
I finally gave up on the women who I felt so much for her for the past seven years. My kids and me are finally on our own. Shimaale song says, anaa ubadkeygii rajoobay ee ninkii ashahaadanaayow dhulka gaaladda ha aadin.
Re: Somali women and westren world
They meet and married too soon without really knowing each other.
It might not have nothing to do with her coming to America.
Most Somalis marry each other too soon without discovering what their partner's personality is.
It might not have nothing to do with her coming to America.
Most Somalis marry each other too soon without discovering what their partner's personality is.
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Re: Somali women and westren world
quote-->Finally, why do the losers (mainly single moms) try to contaminate others?
So true!!

So true!!
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Re: Somali women and westren world
xidigow--i am sorry bro and I hope one day you'll find a good woman 

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Re: Somali women and westren world
Xiddigow,
Walaal it is a tragedy if what you wrote is true...But you didn't tell us the whole story..So for me it is difficult to condemn the girl...What happened? What was she doing wrong? What was the cause of her actions? How did it started? Who to blame? You or she?
Mind to explain a little bit more...
Walaal it is a tragedy if what you wrote is true...But you didn't tell us the whole story..So for me it is difficult to condemn the girl...What happened? What was she doing wrong? What was the cause of her actions? How did it started? Who to blame? You or she?
Mind to explain a little bit more...

Re: Somali women and westren world
Kambuli,
AS I have tried to find out what went wron and how for 2 years. I t would feel better if I can get answer of which wrong turn I took or she took.
AS I have tried to find out what went wron and how for 2 years. I t would feel better if I can get answer of which wrong turn I took or she took.
Re: Somali women and westren world
xalimos are dirt...cheap, clean, shukran
Re: Somali women and westren world
xidigow that was such a beautifully told story. I am sorry for u but i don't understand it. y don't u go to U.S too with ur family. Even tho western countries rnt the best morali or religously there are advantages such as education. u shouldn't blame western society just becoz we live here doesn't mean it changes our judgment or personality. Dont 4get that she has left her children so u dont know how much she is hurting & missing them. think u need to find out 4rm her to be honest its not as easy as blaming the country she has moved to.
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Re: Somali women and westren world
indescribable dream. After leaving in Diasporas over a decade, and the situation in Mogadishu, I never predicted such good-looking women still remain in Mogadishu. [quote=]
look at this dumby,, you are too westernized.
look at this dumby,, you are too westernized.
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Re: Somali women and westren world
If this stroy is indeed true, then may Allah give you a strong Imaan. What we believe to be a tragedy may actually turn out to be a blessing in disguise, hang in there, bro.
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Re: Somali women and westren world
Before, I state my stance in regard 2 this theme. I would like 2 inform u that sometimes things that we dislike might be better for us, and vice versa.
Beside, u didn’t mention whether she asked 4 divorce, or u reached the conclusion (she abandoned u and the kids), after she failed 2 contact u, and keep things on track!!!. If she actually asked 4 divorce, and breached all the agreements u lot made. Then, she’s the one 2 hold accountable, and I don’t think she merits any sort of consideration. Nevertheless, it all depends on the motives that made her, thrust u and the kids aside. But, if u summed up the conclusion, before she wash her hands of, and disown u, then the culpability falls on her shoulder. At any rate, this nitpicking action won’t change the past, nor will it amend the situation.
As 4 the rest of Qs ---- “are our Somali sisters unwise or irrational when it comes for family and marriage?” ----
No --- It’s neither fair, nor right 2 generalize bro. I know u are in quest of answers 2 figure out what cropped up, and ruined ur marriage, but u are holding the wrong end of the rope.
----- “What is in western world that immediately change our sister to the point they become stupid or take foolish decisions” -----
Only a weak-willed femme will change her principles, as a result of the western pressure, or even think she unleashed herself from the tight reins, as soon as she adopts the western standard of living. Taking on the western values, will not only corrupt good manners, it could also create a devil out of a religious woman, Lol.
----- “Finally, why do the losers (mainly single moms) try to contaminate others?” -----
They merely can’t stand their friends, being in better position and @ that point jealousy will play a vital role. Don’t anticipate a kind treatment, or recommendations form ppl who are tainted. They will only drag u 2 the hole of ignominy. Plus, certain ppl prefer their friends 2 be the mirror image of themselves and will do almost everything 2 make them fit the same category.....
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Beside, u didn’t mention whether she asked 4 divorce, or u reached the conclusion (she abandoned u and the kids), after she failed 2 contact u, and keep things on track!!!. If she actually asked 4 divorce, and breached all the agreements u lot made. Then, she’s the one 2 hold accountable, and I don’t think she merits any sort of consideration. Nevertheless, it all depends on the motives that made her, thrust u and the kids aside. But, if u summed up the conclusion, before she wash her hands of, and disown u, then the culpability falls on her shoulder. At any rate, this nitpicking action won’t change the past, nor will it amend the situation.
As 4 the rest of Qs ---- “are our Somali sisters unwise or irrational when it comes for family and marriage?” ----
No --- It’s neither fair, nor right 2 generalize bro. I know u are in quest of answers 2 figure out what cropped up, and ruined ur marriage, but u are holding the wrong end of the rope.
----- “What is in western world that immediately change our sister to the point they become stupid or take foolish decisions” -----
Only a weak-willed femme will change her principles, as a result of the western pressure, or even think she unleashed herself from the tight reins, as soon as she adopts the western standard of living. Taking on the western values, will not only corrupt good manners, it could also create a devil out of a religious woman, Lol.
----- “Finally, why do the losers (mainly single moms) try to contaminate others?” -----
They merely can’t stand their friends, being in better position and @ that point jealousy will play a vital role. Don’t anticipate a kind treatment, or recommendations form ppl who are tainted. They will only drag u 2 the hole of ignominy. Plus, certain ppl prefer their friends 2 be the mirror image of themselves and will do almost everything 2 make them fit the same category.....
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