Why does qabil matter to Somalis? U see I have in a relationship with this guy for 3 yrs went uni together and we graduated together. Only reason I feel this guy aint going to the next stage (marriage) is coz of our differences. I neva knew this kinda stuff exist coz am so different I only found out what I was like recently coz I don’t bother with that kinda stuff. Not until I met this guy his family are so strict about this kinda stuff I don’t think his family will neva allow a barawani girl that don’t even speak Somali that gud.am so frustrated I mean other important issue like me practicing my dean is not important what qabil I am is.I dont what will happen But i love him too much to loose him so doubt this will break us up. I just wish his family will see me for who i am not what i am,Anyways my fellow somalis peace out.
PS...big brother was wicked today cnt wait to see what happens next with charley
IF UR GOOD IN UR DEEN AN U PRACTICE IT WELL...............THEY SHOULD EXCEPT...U......... AN MOST OFF DA TIME....IS THA OTHA WAY ROUND...... BUT IF UR COOL......WIT IT........ AN HES COOL WIF IT HIS FAMLAY........HAVE NO CHOICE............... BUT TO BE COOL.....
DEEN IS DA MOST IMPORTANT....ISSUE.....EVERY THING ELSE IS A MINOR..................
Have you spoken to him about this? Maybe he is caught between making you and his family happy at the same time. But do your research (Islamic wise) because I think you can get married without parents consent if they are being racist. Have you thought about the plain fact that he doesn’t want to get married in general or married to you?
I personally don’t think he is racist if he has been with you for three years. I know guys who wouldn’t date a girl of another tribe full stop let alone marry her. That is racism.
TRIBALISM, NATIONALISM, RACISM IS FORBIDDEN IN ISLAM, AND IF PARENTS DO NOT LET TWO PEOPLE COMPLETE THE REST OF THEIR DEEN FOR NO OTHER REASON THEN THAT, THEN KNOW...THEY HAVE FALLEN INTO HARAAM.
WHY IS IT HARRAM, BECAUSE IT IS THE SAME THING THAT KICKED IBLIS (SHAYATEEN) OUT OF PARADISE. THATS WHERE THE ROOT OF RACISM, PRIDE AND SURPIRORITY CAME FROM. AS HE THOUGHT HE WAS BETTER THAN ADAM A.S BECAUSE HE (SHAYATEEN) WAS MADE FROM SOMETHING GREATER WHICH IS FIRE AND ADAM A.S WAS MADE FROM CLAY. SUBXANALLAH WE NEED TO BE VERY CAREFULL. BUT THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU DISOBEY YOUR PARENTS BUT YOU FIND ALTERNATIVES SUCH AS GETTING A LOCAL IMAM TO TALK TO THE PARENTS TO REMIND THEM ABOUT THE DEEN AND DUNIYA INSHA'ALLAH TA'LA.