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Big Dilemma!! :( :( :(

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Salaamz guys
Long story so let me begin by saying I've been hiding a secret from my mumz & I feel soooooo terrible about you see im only 19 almost 20 in 2 days & my mumz thinks its a good idea 4 me to get married. But you see I already met someone and I secretly married him bt she doesnt know that we are married cos we dont live with one another. I promised myself that I'd get married early & my mumz was really excited so she brought a potential 4 me he was nice & bt he just didnt click with me & i'm already married. Confused My mumz was didnt rly care she just wanted whats best 4 me & to help me out so she was not mad about it. Well now guess what the potential wont leave me alone he always at my house at my work at my grandmothers house where i help the kids..Sad What shud I do I know he is stalking me because hes always everywhere I am & gets suspicious of me the worst thing is that he could find about my secret marriage & tell my mumz & ruin everything. Sad Shocked I'm soooooooo scared & confused what shud I do guys your help is appreciated.
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how did you get secretley married without a mahram? Any decent fella would not marry a lady without the permission of her mahram.

Either way spit the truth to you mom, lies just bring more lies and eventually more problems
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Post by Lacageylacag »

I wonder with this people who call thenselves beautiful names (like muslimah) and come up with outrageous statements.



The requirements are the following:

free consent of the parties to the marriage (both male and female);

consent of the woman’s guardian, especially if the woman has never been married before;

presence of two witnesses; and

publicizing the marriage

You only met one conditon(consent of both male and female) out of four conditions.
Even your mum does know! Subhanallah.
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What she did is not haram but I'm just wondering why you married him secrectly, I mean can't he support you financially or is there some other reason. It seems like your mum is not a strict person so just wondering what the reason was??
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[quote="Zealous Lady"]What she did is not haram but I'm just wondering why you married him secrectly, I mean can't he support you financially or is there some other reason. It seems like your mum is not a strict person so just wondering what the reason was??[/quote]


same as most other secret marriages. They either have something bad to hide or the guy just married her to get in her pants....the 'secret' element giving him the opportunity to deny it if needs be.
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u secretly married him or secretly slept with him? There is a huge difference u know. Sad
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Post by BaByGaL_8701 »

Muslimah....What I only advice you to do is to talk to your mom about this... im sure she will not eat you alive.. moms are their to guide and tells you whats right out wrong.. secretly married is bad without mahram Like Nobleman said..I knw One arabic Friend That got married sceretly but I understand why she got married.. shes converting to muslim and wanted to marry muslim bother but unfortuately Her parents are christain..she asked enough imams about this... and they says is okay.. Sad
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loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool


thanx for the laughter this hot afternoon.....allah mustacaan ...ala dadka qaarkood indho adakaa Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing
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^^ Xasided Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing


The Sister is Lost Dee.. Laughing
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Post by HELWAA »

baby


i'm still laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

seriously this cant be true because how can a person go with secret marrige beside dont you know muslimah that a WAALID have to be with u when you get married........how could u do that Surprised

Dont you even respect ur parents Surprised
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Looooooooooooool Helwaa..same here.. Shaydamad waxid Laughing
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Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing
Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing
Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

HOW DOES 1 GET SECRECTLY MARRIED

WALLAHI UR FUKKED MATE
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Helwa is not a true religious person, she is a typical vindictive Xalimo. Rolling Eyes



Where is her holly rahmaad? Shocked
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Post by HELWAA »

Basra

what raxma......what she did is not right, how could she go behind her parents back and get married like that.........doesnt she love her self enough to celerbrate her wedding with friends and family.......what kind of man is that hiding her like a peace of garbage Surprised
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Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

So much for a Muslima eh!!!

Nayaa have you not have self respect and dignity. Shocked handicabad waxiid. Secret marriage kulaha.
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