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Am I broken, or is it the way the world today perceives love? Loving one person is an illusion, I don't know why I keep falling for it. My relationships always reach a point where I come to the realization that I don't want to spend the rest of my life with the person I'm dating, but I care too much about them to separate and then things spin out of control into a ****ing mess not unlike the one I'm in right now. Is this the way it is for everyone? Or is it that I'm just too weak to commit to one person? Is love a compromise where you release these doubts and accept a relationship for it's comforts and accept that your romanticized expectations of love don't really exist? If not, how do I tell someone that has become a part of my very existence that I can't continue loving them? By severing the relationship, I sever a part of myself.

A part that brings me intense pleasure as well as pain. I see this sort of love as a battle between desire. Someone told me that desire is intrinsically bad, and that it brings suffering. I have to say that it's true, but I fail to see the purpose in life without desire. Desire is life, when I neglect it, I feel empty. When relationships reach this point, is it because I am incapable of making a final commitment, or is it because it's really not the right person and that I should keep following my desire?

thanks,
Dheelojecelbasra elmi boodhari.

Please have a seat and be patient with us. Dr. Zulaika will be with u shortly.

I'd love to have Zulaika's s.i.i.l tonight...

Its all about finding someone who loves you more than you ever can for that person.

Let them do the whole love thing for you.

[quote]Dheelojecelbasra[/quote]

baqara

dheelojecel i dont know WHY-- but i just take immense pleasure in your sufferings! Something horrible jjust happen a while ago that has something to do with 'love'. But seeing you all debaggled and deruffled just made me feel good! dheelojecel can you always suffer and feel pain so -- i can feel better? Promise me macaan!

^^ , Yo Basra, that mean, but sooo you.


Errrm... what was your point again dheelojecel ??

You need to get some different perspectives in life. Get yourself the F together.

That's one problem w/ promiscuity, you've had or (fantasize) about different women for so long that you think 1 single woman just won't cut it and you're emotionally unstable b/c of it. You want life to be 1 endless orgy and you're not emotionally wired for that.

Here's some help: this world was not intended to satisfy your every carnal desire. Sometimes you work, sometimes you rest, sometimes you suffer, sometimes you enjoy. You have to take the good w/ the bad.

A man that would just stay at home and sleep all day and enjoy himself wouldn't be that productive

Dude, it's none of the above. What you need to do is, is be true to yourself. And to do that, you need to recognize that you're not ready for serious committment, and that you're OBVIOUSly most happy as a bachelor.

"Or is it that I'm just too weak to commit to one person"

No. It's that you're too weak to break up, and to tell the other person that you arent ready for committment, and that you would still like to see other people. You're not doing them any favours by feeling sorry for them, and leading them on thinking that they have a chance at something more. When it's time, you need to break it off, ASAP. One of the hardest macking skills to learn is the art of the breakup. In Seinfeld talk, give them the "It's not you. It's me.." shpiel. OR ! get caught cheating. THAT works everytime, though it usually causes pain.