brothers: if your future wife..!

[Naaima]

Salam alaikum

making a long story short, you and your girl are planned to get marry *yippie* , but the is a little problem she don’t wear hijab!...so you as her future husband will ask your future wife to cover up as it’s best for her and you because you dont want non mahram men to be lusting after her and because she is going to be the mother of your children?, how important is for you she wear hijab and what will your reaction be if she doesnt want to cover up? and does she have to wear hjab?

[AbdiWahab252]

W/salaam

Naaima,

I would not care if she did not cover up unless we are going to a religious event or hosting some old school relatives.

[Shirib]

Its a must that she wears hijab!!!! I can date her and she don't gotta wear it but when we're gettin married she gotta cover up..

[Cawar]

I dont want her to cover up for me..esp. If she doesnt do it because of what Allah has reccomended.

One has to do things for the sake of his/her creator not for me.

[Naaima]

[quote="Cawar"]I dont want her to cover up for me..esp. If she doesnt do it because of what Allah has reccomended.

One has to do things for the sake of his/her creator not for me.[/quote]

you are her husband and she has to obey you! qof hadu qaldan yahay neh wad hanunin karta

[Gedo_Boy]

If she's not wearing hijab right now, that's one thing.

But if she said she doesn't want to wear hijab or dress modestly then I can't start a future w/ that girl.

As far as religiously, if she:

1. Dresses modestly w/ hijab
2. Prays regularly.

I think other things can be negotiated. But a girl that doesn't want to pray or wear hijab EVEN after we get married, then she is not commited to her religion.

I can't trust my children's mother to someone who is not serious about their religion. I know in a person's young age stuff happens and there is room to grow, but if a girl is talking about marriage and she doesn't want to that then it means she doesn't want to become a better Muslim throughout her life.

That's why I make the distinction on before/after marriage.

[Hyperactive]

[quote="Cawar"]I dont want her to cover up for me..esp. If she doesnt do it because of what Allah has reccomended.

One has to do things for the sake of his/her creator not for me.[/quote]
i'm with this opinion, qof doesn't obey God I wouldn't trust her to obey me.

[Cawar]

[quote="Naaima"][quote="Cawar"]I dont want her to cover up for me..esp. If she doesnt do it because of what Allah has reccomended.

One has to do things for the sake of his/her creator not for me.[/quote]

you are her husband and she has to obey you! qof hadu qaldan yahay neh wad hanunin karta[/quote]


Dear sister you have to realize onething...only Allah can haanuuni people...my job is just limited to convey the message if I can.

[kambuli]

Trust me...All the Hijab girls are not as decent as one thinks...

Naima,

I think if a guy is good enough to capture the heart of his girl she will walk on her head if he wants Ninka ragga ah, wallee naagtiisu wuxuu yidhaahdaba way samayn...Laakiin doqon xun... Cidina ma maqasho... (Kaftan)...

But why are we talking of Hijab only? If I were a guy looking for a wife that wouldn't be a priority for me walaahay....Hadda khalad ha iga fahmin...I wear Hijaab....But I wouldn't want to be evaluated by the Hijab only...I was as decent as I am now when I was not wearing the Hijab...At least when it comes to men and stuff...

[zulaika]

[quote="Cawar"]I dont want her to cover up for me..esp. If she doesnt do it because of what Allah has reccomended.

One has to do things for the sake of his/her creator not for me.[/quote]


cawar,

exactly huuno. if I cover up, its to please Allah only and not some jealous farax. what I don’t get though are faraxs who obviously have no problem with me not wearing a hijab when they first lay they eyes on me...because they approach me and want to have a relationship with me(marriage) but when married want me all covered up. why don’ they just get themselves a hijabi girl from the get-go.

[HELWAA]

zuli

haye hijaab ma xidhatid....yaa salaam

[Gedo_Boy]

kambuli,

yeah you're right xijaab doesn't mean anything without the personality....some girls wear hijab and throw it off in the clubs of downtown.

[Cawar]

"what I don’t get though are faraxs who obviously have no problem with me not wearing a hijab when they first lay they eyes on me..."

So Ms Z, You are quite a catch I assume??

[zulaika]

helwaa,

maya walaalo...i'm not perfect like u...someday i will inshalaah.

[HELWAA]

[quote="zulaika"]helwaa,

maya walaalo...i'm not perfect like u...someday i will inshalaah. [/quote]



correction zuli.........nobody is perfect.......we are only humans and
we can make mistakes....so dont be like me......be ur self.