Is It a Bad Idea to Live With Someone B4 U Get Married

[AbdiWahab252]

They say you never really know someone until you live with them. I have noticed that more and more Somali couples are choosing to live with other before getting married.

So whats your take about this ?

[Leila2007]

Abdi

Taking dating to another level are we?

[zulaika]

it would be a good way to find out what the other person is really like...but unfortunately its xaraam so its a no no in my book.

[AbdiWahab252]

Leila2007

No way, I am a very private character who appreciates living alone.

Zulaika,

What if you do one of these secret temporary nikaax ?

[Koronto91]

AW,

You can be married to someone for 10 years and still never truly know them. Marriage is about taking a leap in to the unknown, you either have the guts to do it or you don't, no amount of research or background checks can ever be enough. I should know, I have been down that road!

[zulaika]

looool @ secret nikaax. what do u mean secret, like a xalimo and a farax can profess their love for each other privately so they can shag in closed quarters?

warheedhe where's the secret when living together is the issue here. its gonna be known so might as well get a xalaal nikaax.

[Leila2007]

Abdi

[quote][/quote]No way, I am a very private character who appreciates living alone.

Am sure you are but will tie the note one day.

Zulaika,

What if you do one of these secret temporary nikaax ?

Temporary nikaax? Nikaax is nikaax there is nothing like temporary.

[Basra-]

'No way, I am a very private character who appreciates living alone.'



Abdi, u know that 'private' is a code word for alcoholic or qaniis right? So which one r u? Or both?



Of course --its a bad idea, its haraam.

[Samatr]

[quote="zulaika"]looool @ secret nikaax. what do u mean secret, like a xalimo and a farax can profess their love for each other privately so they can shag in closed quarters?
.[/quote]

Thats what I have been doing for the past 6 years, please don't educate the xaliimos about secret nikaaxs.

[The_Emperior5]

dee just mherso naagta marka kaxaysoo la dag

after a year marka marriage ka dhig arooska

[Koronto91]

lol@Basra saying secret nikaaxs are haraam, where did that one come from?

[AbdiWahab252]

Zulaika,

My best friend and his girlfriend lived together for 2 years before getting married. No one beside close friends knew the arrangements because they set up 2 separate bedrooms aside and they were living in an area with few Somalis in a 15 mile range.

Koronto:

I don't think so. I mean having someone stay over for just 7 days shows you sides which you would never have seen.

I had this girlfriend who spent 2 weeks with me. I never realized how annoying she was in the mornings or how possessive she was when I would want to stay out late or the one time when my female cousin came over for some help with her immigration application. She thought her and I had something going on not realizing that my cousin and I are very close.

Samatr:

Wow, share your experience. I am about to get Sheik Jimcaale the Taxiile to do mine inshallah

[Samatr]

Awahaab

You know the routine, dhagta kaga yare afuuf markaa wey aloosaysaa, kuu dhufo ka dhaqaaq. I am growing tired of that now, maalin dhow anigoo xaaji ah baad maqli doontaa.

[AbdiWahab252]

Samatr:

Oh, I thought you were doing secret nikaaxs left and right. I was about to ask for a referral to your wadaad.

[xidigow]

Abdi,

It doesnt matter if it is scret NIKAX (KHUDBOSIRO) or not, many girls change their attitude once they are offical. I tell you why. I once was married with 2 wives one offical, the other KHUDBOSIRO. She was ok with hiding game, but I decided to make her anoffical, and that is when hell brooke up. So, if you really wanna know someone, hiding her wont teach you anything.