Seven Years!!!

[kambuli]

Please if you don't have sincere advise to contribute just skip it!!!

This is a true story and it is about a relative of mine:

This girl and this guy fell in love...At least I know the girl..She fell in love with him like I have never heard wallaahay. They agreed to marry. Immediatley the girl found out that her prospective husband was a man of many many countless women...But still she clung on like a glue..She never talked to any other man not even looked at. All she wanted was to be his wive...Unfortunately it wasn't happening...The guy calls her every morning and every night..telling her that he loves her and she changed him etc etc...She believed every word he said..

Well the coming Feb. is 7 yrs since they were talking...At last...she realized there is no hope...But the problem is she said " I will never talk to another man in my life, I am done"...She is so sad that any minute she can break down..

How can I help her...I just cry with her every time...But I want to help her tell me how..I told her everything but she is kinda mute now....Helpppppppp

[Koronto91]

Kam,

If she's qof Muslimad ah, tell her that Allah has better things in store for her. If her relationship fell apart, it wasn't meant to be, that's just life. Tell her to perform Istakhaarah and put her fate in Allah's hands.

[Gedo_Boy]

kambuli,

She has to think positive about Allah's plan and know that Ilaahey wuu ka leexiyay for some reason Ilaahey knows. Maybe he would make her life hell.

Has he been talking to her for 7 years???? Or did he leave her 7 years ago?

One of my friends said his father once told him advice that stuck with me: "Aabo, dadka gabdhahooda ciyaar ma ahan."

[Advocatar]

Yh I was also confused about the 7 year part.


kimbaali I seriously dont know, so I'm skipping!

[Cawar]

Kamb,

you may not believe me...but there is only one hope 4 her...SHE has to talk to other men..otherwise she is done!!!

introduce her to some 1 hat will hep her at least temporarily...and if that guy happens to be someon I know..well...lol

Seriously thogh...how could she be talking to some 1 for 7 yrs??? is she ugly??

[FAH1223]

she will find another guy, she needs to realize that the guy she loves will never love her back, thats the biggest obstacle to moving on!

[kambuli]

Ok Let me clarify,

7 whole yrs is the time they were talking...This coming Feb. will be 7 yrs.

Cawar,

No actually she is far from ugly...Simply she was not exposed to this harsh world..Not that inay doqon ama nacas tahay...She believed in love and trust..She believed in one man..Not plan A or plan B...But if she didn't get help she will be history wallee...

Fah123,

The problem is she does not want another man...Not at all..

[FAH1223]

[quote="kambuli"]

Fah123,

The problem is she does not want another man...Not at all..[/quote]

some guy will come along, dont worry insha allah

its a matter of time

[Gacalisa]

WOW! that sad, but laakin seven years is a long time to see through a person. I dont know how i can wait for someone for seven years. waiting is one of my worst things to do.

but tell her to have hope, Insha allah she will find someone, and tell her to have hope and ducayso, everything happens for a reason, she just has to find what the reason was.

[Koronto91]

Kambuli,

So, all these years, they've done nothing but talking? What was that interesting, walaal?

[Gedo_Boy]

kambuli,

So he said he's not going to marry her?
Yeah she sounds like a miskiin.....that has happened to me before.


I'm sorry, but she should have seen the sign that he is a womanizer. Why did she put his hopes in a guy like that?
It's like expecting a promiscuous girl to transform into a righteous housewife. It needs divine intervention.


I honestly feel that maybe he took her virginity away from her and he refused to marry her, maybe that is why she is so devastated.
Because there is no explanation to be so devastated over a man you haven't been intimate with.

Even in that situation she has to move on. He deceived her.

[King-of-Awdal]

Sad story, I will pray for her. No wonder our women are heading to Bafoons because of what this heffer did.

[Cawar]

Kamb,

Introduce me to her.And trust me he will be jealous..iff she still wants him.

[Gifted]

Has he explained why he doesn't want to marry her?

[Koronto91]

[quote="Gedo_Boy"]It's like expecting a promiscuous girl to transform into a righteous housewife. It needs divine intervention.[/quote]

What are you saying, sxb? If she repents and seeks Allah's guidance, she can become a righteous wife, haven't you heard of the case of a famous Meccan hooker who repented and devoted her life to Islam during the time of the Prophet (saw)?