Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men!!!

[Daanyeer]

Source: Yahoo.com
April 10, 2008 Author: Jeanna Bryner

Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.

The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.

Researchers admit that looks are subjective, but studies show there are some universal standards, including large eyes, "baby face" features, symmetric faces, so-called average faces, and specific waist-hip ratios in men versus women.

Past research has shown that individuals with comparable stunning looks are attracted to each other and once they hook up they report greater relationship satisfaction. These studies, however, are mainly based on new couples, showing that absolute beauty is important in the earliest stages of couple-hood, said lead researcher James McNulty of the University of Tennessee. But the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a mystery.

The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.

Supportive spouses

McNulty's team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years prior to tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.

Researchers videotaped as each spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners were supportive of spouses' issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more often.

"A negative husband would've said, 'This is your problem, you deal with it,'" McNulty said, "versus 'Hey, I'm here for you; what do you want me to do?; how can I help you?'"

A group of trained "coders" rated the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks.

Trophy wives

Overall, wives and husbands behaved more positively when the woman was better looking.

The finding "seems very reasonable," said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral economics at MIT's Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management. "Men are very sensitive to women's attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men's height and salary," said Ariely, who was not involved in the recent study.

In couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one another. McNulty suggests wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands.

"The husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get," McNulty told LiveScience. "He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship."

Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, McNulty said. The "grass could be greener" mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage.

Physical attractiveness of husbands is not as important to women, the researchers suggest. Rather, wives are looking for supportive husbands, they say.

So it seems the mismatch in looks is actually a perfect match. "Equitable is unlikely to mean the same on every dimension," Ariely said during a telephone interview. "It just means that overall two people make sense together."

[Xaaji_Xundjuf]

ma nin ba qurux leh ninku sariirtu uun buu ku qurux badanyahay

[1nkaarQabe]

women are only interested in money, if you got money, you can get any woman you want.

[zulaika]

ma nin ba qurux leh ninku sariirtu uun buu ku qurux badanyahay

[Firefly]

women are only interested in money, if you got money, you can get any woman you want.

That's not true. Women are more than capable of working for a living, and earning their own money. They don't need a man to provide for them, those days are long gone. You're making women sound like gold diggers, there might be women out there who love receiving handouts, but I assure you most women aren't afraid of hard work, and they truly relish the independence that comes along with it.

[SahanGalbeed]

Waxaasa naagaha soomalida u gaysa ajnabi-ga , wax kale ma'aha. Naag soomaliyeed oo qurux badan dee horaynu u arki jirnay inagu , wax inagu cusub ma'aha.
Wixii u sujuudaya, ha u sujuudan naagti isla han weynaata


<-- expecting a rebuttal from kambuli

[FAH1223]

women are only interested in money, if you got money, you can get any woman you want.

That's not true. Women are more than capable of working for a living, and earning their own money. They don't need a man to provide for them, those days are long gone. You're making women sound like gold diggers, there might be women out there who love receiving handouts, but I assure you most women aren't afraid of hard work, and they truly relish the independence that comes along with it.

True. But when she is still single in her 30s or 40s, not many men will want to committ to her.

[gedo_gurl]

Firefly....yeah thats some women, all women should atleast be capable of being self sufficient financially...but some women are plain lazy and greedy. I was watching this MTV show on 'fabolous' weddings...and this one couple (multi millionaire banker/average looking...'Bronx' sounding bride to be) and the guy was boasting about his past affairs, cutting her down and even said "I can get any woman I want, I have the money" and she STILL married him...even when hes humiliating her in public

[1nkaarQabe]

women are only interested in money, if you got money, you can get any woman you want.

That's not true. Women are more than capable of working for a living, and earning their own money. They don't need a man to provide for them, those days are long gone. You're making women sound like gold diggers, there might be women out there who love receiving handouts, but I assure you most women aren't afraid of hard work, and they truly relish the independence that comes along with it.

No one said women aren't capable of working, even women who supposedly work and earn money aren't interested in a man who earns less than them. Who said anything about handouts? a woman's place is at home cooking and cleaning and taking of the children and a man will earn the money to support the family. No such thing as as handouts, only different roles.

[Firefly]

women are only interested in money, if you got money, you can get any woman you want.

That's not true. Women are more than capable of working for a living, and earning their own money. They don't need a man to provide for them, those days are long gone. You're making women sound like gold diggers, there might be women out there who love receiving handouts, but I assure you most women aren't afraid of hard work, and they truly relish the independence that comes along with it.

True. But when she is still single in her 30s or 40s, not many men will want to committ to her.

Fair point. However, my sister who is in her 30s just got married, and she's been independent all her life, although it's rare, women in their 30s or above can get married. Some men are intimidated by independent women, which is a pity.

[kambuli]

Inkaarqabe,

That is not true walaal...Women earn more than their husbands now days...I am talking about the average women now days...No woman chooses her husband because of his POCKET Goormaa laga tegey warkaas.. It can be the other way round now

Sahan,

Maad I jilicisid?

[1nkaarQabe]

Inkaarqabe,

That is not true walaal...Women earn more than their husbands now days...I am talking about the average women now days...No woman chooses her husband because of his POCKET Goormaa laga tegey warkaas.. It can be the other way round now
?

well, somali's and blacks perhaps but not in general in the west. women still earn less. And no woman is gonna earn more than me, that's shameful. Why do you think somali's and african american's are messed up? because the women are more productive and the breadwinners rather than the men. That's when you know your in a failed community when women earn more than men.

[Firefly]

women are only interested in money, if you got money, you can get any woman you want.

That's not true. Women are more than capable of working for a living, and earning their own money. They don't need a man to provide for them, those days are long gone. You're making women sound like gold diggers, there might be women out there who love receiving handouts, but I assure you most women aren't afraid of hard work, and they truly relish the independence that comes along with it.

No one said women aren't capable of working, even women who supposedly work and earn money aren't interested in a man who earns less than them. Who said anything about handouts? a woman's place is at home cooking and cleaning and taking of the children and a man will earn the money to support the family. No such thing as as handouts, only different roles.

When you state that all women are after is money, you are indirectly suggesting that women aren't capable of earning their own money. Isn't it a handout when you rely on a man to pay your expenses, food, shelter etc? I consider that a handout, it's no different than receiving government benefits, the only difference is you share a bed with this man. A woman's place is not in the kitchen, women are more than welcome in the public sphere, they're not second class citizens. Women can contribute effectively to society, and not just through "cooking, cleaning, and popping babies." Do not underestimate women, both men and women were created to worship Allah (swt), and they're both equal. Marriage is a partnership, you make it sound like it's some kind of slave/master relationship.

[Qatar_isaaq_chick]

[quote="Firefly

No one said women aren't capable of working, even women who supposedly work and earn money aren't interested in a man who earns less than them. Who said anything about handouts? a woman's place is at home cooking and cleaning and taking of the children and a man will earn the money to support the family. No such thing as as handouts, only different roles.

When you state that all women are after is money, you are indirectly suggesting that women aren't capable of earning their own money. Isn't it a handout when you rely on a man to pay your expenses, food, shelter etc? I consider that a handout, it's no different than receiving government benefits, the only difference is you share a bed with this man. A woman's place is not in the kitchen, women are more than welcome in the public sphere, they're not second class citizens. Women can contribute effectively to society, and not just through "cooking, cleaning, and popping babies." Do not underestimate women, both men and women were created to worship Allah (swt), and they're both equal. Marriage is a partnership, you make it sound like it's some kind of slave/master relationship.

Indeed !!!!

seriously you guys should listen to he/she because he/she
is talking sense .

[WasteMan]

Cuz of the money what else