Dating before aroos

[Abdiqani-G]

I know somali and islam dhaqan and sharci is to go to the parents of a girl and ask her hand or the chance to get to know her...but does this apply in presentdat too?

For example, lets say u know a girl (around 18) she is still in school, u are too in school around the same age category u talk on msn etc and occasionaly link up...ofcourse behind the parents back....

wht i dont understand is why this sort of innocent dating is taboe for us somalis? for example, lets say a person that knowes her family sees us just walking and talking outside....and this persons goes to the family, it will cause dramma..........i wonder why?

Ladies care to explain to us poor faaraxs on the right procedure to follow? Talking/seeing each other behind the parents while doing nothing haram...is bad? or normal depending on circumstances?

[HELWAA]

Well Abdi let say you have a daughter and she wants to date behind ur back...Would you allow her to do that?...is't ok for you that some skinny faarax oo dhidid wayn inuu kolba luuq la galo?

[The-Screw]

would you buy a car without test driving it or without a carfax report? i didn't think so, dude...screen the chick for all the crazy xalimo symptoms before you take her to your mom.

[The_Emperior5]

I know somali and islam dhaqan and sharci is to go to the parents of a girl and ask her hand or the chance to get to know her...but does this apply in presentdat too?

For example, lets say u know a girl (around 18) she is still in school, u are too in school around the same age category u talk on msn etc and occasionaly link up...ofcourse behind the parents back....

wht i dont understand is why this sort of innocent dating is taboe for us somalis? for example, lets say a person that knowes her family sees us just walking and talking outside....and this persons goes to the family, it will cause dramma..........i wonder why?

Ladies care to explain to us poor faaraxs on the right procedure to follow? Talking/seeing each other behind the parents while doing nothing haram...is bad? or normal depending on circumstances?

shariciga islaamku wuuxu dhiigaya nin iyo naag aan is qabbin isku ma doo dhawana karra hadaad doonaysiid inad qof barratiid qof kalle soo kaxaysoo because shaydaanka idinku sadexaad aah

[Abdiqani-G]

the usual duaghter-sister story. Wll if my sister or daughter would talk on the phone and occasionaly drink thee or cofee with a guy who is at least educated, has job, and is good to her...i would invite the guy out and stimulate them to go to the next level

Anyways, helwaa what is your story...so u never talked to a guy on the phone...or msn...or u never have 1 cofee with a guy behind the back of your parents?

[Firefly]

would you buy a car without test driving it or without a carfax report? i didn't think so, dude...screen the chick for all the crazy xalimo symptoms before you take her to your mom.

How can you compare a woman to a piece of machinery? What are the "crazy xalimo symptoms"?

[The_Emperior5]

the usual duaghter-sister story. Wll if my sister or daughter would talk on the phone and occasionaly drink thee or cofee with a guy who is at least educated, has job, and is good to her...i would invite the guy out and stimulate them to go to the next level

Anyways, helwaa what is your story...so u never talked to a guy on the phone...or msn...or u never have 1 cofee with a guy behind the back of your parents?

kanni waba dayuus ma inantiina baad nin uu keenii lahayd

My sister is married siidii luu guursaday guriigeeda maan tagiin ka warran , war wuxu dhaqan xummma

[Abdiqani-G]

would you buy a car without test driving it or without a carfax report? i didn't think so, dude...screen the chick for all the crazy xalimo symptoms before you take her to your mom.

i hope u mean non-sexual ''testdriving'' cuz the word sounds so sexual.

but it seems like u understand my case..u need to screen her, date with her, talk with her, and be with her for some time before u advance to the official way of going to parents asking for permission to get to know her etc....cause once u go this way people automatically assume u will marry (once the greenlight is given ofcourse).

[Naaima]

Salam alaikum

everytime you go out with a abaayo halimo behind her parents back you are betraying them and abayao halimo betraying her parents when she sneaks out from behind their back to see her aboowe farah....i do always tell my brother that i blah blah blah with ina hebel i... no worries somali from paparazzi mamas 8)

[Abdiqani-G]

My sister is married siidii luu guursaday guriigeeda maan tagiin ka warran

how rude...so weligaa ma soo salaamin your sister and brother-in-law? How rude and unislamic to not visit the ones close to u.

[HELWAA]

the usual duaghter-sister story. Wll if my sister or daughter would talk on the phone and occasionaly drink thee or cofee with a guy who is at least educated, has job, and is good to her...i would invite the guy out and stimulate them to go to the next level

Anyways, helwaa what is your story...so u never talked to a guy on the phone...or msn...or u never have 1 cofee with a guy behind the back of your parents?

My story Is none of ur busin but one thing is for sure i would never jepordize my reputation for a simpel farax.

[The-Screw]

b/c these are the times we live in and i didn't make the rules, chivalry died centuries ago.

[Abdiqani-G]

Salam alaikum

everytime you go out with a abaayo halimo behind her parents back you are betraying them and abayao halimo betraying her parents when she sneaks out from behind their back to see her aboowe farah....i do always tell my brother that i blah blah blah with ina hebel i... no worries somali from paparazzi mamas 8)

so what your story naima? Have u ever talked to a guy on the phone? on Msn? had one coffee with? walked innocently on the street while talking?

be honest.

[Abdiqani-G]

My story Is none of ur busin but one thing is for sure i would never jepordize my reputation for a simpel farax.

What if this is not a ''simple faarax'' but the one that makes u happy and is the one who'll make u happy once the deal is settled? Would u take the risk?

[Abdiqani-G]

b/c these are the times we live in and i didn't make the rules, chivalry died centuries ago.

Thats what I mean....we need to use our brains.