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Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:53 pm
by Awe
I've been thinking about it, and I think I will Insha'Allah.
But I don't think I'll hide her like most of the Somali men, I don't want my children being the product of a sinful relationship.
What about you guys?
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:00 pm
by Alchemist
I also plan on marrying more than one inshallah..
You dont have to tell her is not like is wajib.. i asked many shayks, they said it was only from good conduct that you do so.

Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:02 pm
by abgaalKING
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:12 pm
by TrophY-WifeY-
^^ " Timirtii Horooy Dab Loo waa'"
So Guys Ha Nigu taagnato

Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:13 pm
by FAH1223
Depends. Probably not.
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:28 pm
by snowflakes821
If you're planning on marrying a second wife can you please tell your first wife before you get married . I don't want any surprises and would rather have someone who's honest about their future plans.
Can I just say that polagamy is such a sexist practice. No woman would ever want to share her husband. Its a halaal way of cheating. Tell your wife from the beginning when you're getting to know each other before you even marry her. Also, be sure you can afford these marriages b/c its quite expensive raising two sets of kids.
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:29 pm
by Goljano Lion
it will depend? money, where i live etc but i guess like my dad, i will marry one
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:36 pm
by FAH1223
snowflakes821 wrote:If you're planning on marrying a second wife can you please tell your first wife before you get married . I don't want any surprises and would rather have someone who's honest about their future plans.
Can I just say that polagamy is such a sexist practice. No woman would ever want to share her husband. Its a halaal way of cheating. Tell your wife from the beginning when you're getting to know each other before you even marry her. Also, be sure you can afford these marriages b/c its quite expensive raising two sets of kids.
its permitted in islam, read surah nisa and its tafsir, Allah says "Marry one" first anyway realizing that no man can treat his wives equally
there are also more women on earth than men, thats a fact and its growing, i agree a dude should tell his wife first and not have secrets but its all about doing it the right way
it is not a sexist practice, allah swt made it halaal for many practical reasons not just for sex
now if you want to say Islam is sexist, go right ahead

Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:39 pm
by Somaliweyn Commando
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:39 pm
by snowflakes821
Fine, FAH. But remember that there are a lot of women who DON'T want to share their husband. Be honest from the beginnng about your intentions because there is a good chance that she will divorce you for doing this to her and you're going to have kids who will resent you for the rest of their lives. Some Somali men can be very selfish and they don't understand the meaning of raisng a family.
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:40 pm
by Goljano Lion
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:46 pm
by Goljano Lion
there was this dude in Hargaisa and he married 3 women, and they asked him..why did you marry 3 women? his answer was Timiri jabtay

Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:17 pm
by Awe
There are many reasons why Allah(swt) permitted the men to marry more wives. Back then and still today, divorced women were never wedded again so they were made outcasts and segregated from their communities. This is why Allah(swt) reccomends us to marry widows and the divorced.
snowflakes, I take serious offense to your stupid rants, please don't label this practice as a "xalaal way of cheating", it was Allah(swt) decision not ours.
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:26 pm
by Awe
Alchemist,
It is a must that you inform your wife about your decision to marry another, and she must approve of it.
Re: Fellas, Are you planning on marrying more than 1?
Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 10:07 pm
by RebelLion
Possibly, but probably not.
Finding a girl in the west that'll agree to polygamy is not gonna be easy.