my LYING friend needs some advice.

[studente]

My misguided and confused friend is in some social trouble and I would like your perspective

Let's call her Miss Q. well, Miss Q works at a large investment firm in New York. A few months ago she went through the interview process for a firm in LA -- she was so confident that she would get the job that she told everyone at her workplace she planned on going to firm X, which is actually very well known. Well, due to a catastrophic financial meltdown, things with the LA office did not work out. WELL, she continued to tell everyone she was still going to Firm X. However, after sometime, realizing how everyone knows everyone in this industry, lest she be found out, she began telling some people that she was working at some small, unknown firm in LA. In conversation with another group of people she told them she was looking for a job in LA and had nothing set up. So she's basically maintaining 3 different stories w/ 3 different groups of people.

Well, all these groups of people started speaking to each other and know everyone knows she's been lying about everything. (I'm not sure people know she's totally lying, but they think she's shady). Anyway, people have begun giving her shade and being standoffish. She is in tears and doesn't know what to do. Should she tell everyone that she came with all these lies to hide her shame ? Or should she concoct some story that ties all these together and makes it work ?

Any advice ?

[surrender]

what would happened to her if she told them the truth the first time around talow!!?. being: i applied for jon in LA and i didnt get it! see what all these lies go to her. if i was her, i would just tell the truth now, before she does anymore damage to herself!! is never too late. they will of course ask her why she lied the first time around, she could just say she was sooo sure she was going to get that job, that she told everyone!!!

[eyes-only]

I reckon she should tell everyone the truth, otherwise she'll just be digging herself a bigger hole. What's the point in lying about such a thing horta, maybe she's lying to herself as well and can't accept the truth because I don't understand why anyone would care that much about what people think.

[The-Screw]

she can always do the right thing...JUMP.

[Shirib]

confess and clear up the whole mess to all 3 groups

[black velvet]

Tell her it's time to stop lying. Screw what people think and get on with it.

[Babygirl-]

Be honest and be yourself! why do you have to lie to other's, who cares what they think.

[The-Screw]

Be honest and be yourself! why do you have to lie to other's, who cares what they think.

lol, look who's talking.

[Cawar]

Keep lying to your 3 different lovers Studente, we all do tell white lies hoping to impress the opposite gender.

[AyanTu]

Lordy ur all sooo unrealistic.....yesshhhh

Tell your friend to get a job....then she can say she got a new job and ppl will stop talking about her...and THEN reminde her what she did was dumb as hell, you shouldn't tell ppl ur buz good or bad.

[Aerosmith]

She should pull a Meredith Whitney on all three and start her own advisory firm.

[LaQaNyO]

Remind me again why lying is haraam... When the prophet ASW was asked if there were people amongst his ummah that did zinnah.. rasuul csw answered yes... when he was asked if there were people amongst his ummah who would carry blood on their hands (kill) he said yes... 3rd when the prophet csw was asked if there were people amongst his ummah who told lies he said NO.. not amongst my Ummah

I didnt mean to give u a lecture... just bottom line is one lie leads to another.. now she has to deal with the shame nd do the only decent thing left.. tell the truth!! I realise its easier said than done..tell her to woman up!!

(dude i should take my own advise)