Imperfection and Attraction

[black velvet]

You know everything you want in a partner. For most girls, tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that

Now my question is, are you always attracted to someone with all those qualities? Don’t you dare say you have never met someone with all those characteristics because you have, we all have. They are out there, infact I’m sitting opposite one such man right now.

Are imperfections, volatility and uncertainty prerequisites to attraction? Is it the drama that we seek or are we drawn to men who we perceive to be ‘broken’ so that we may assign ourselves the tricky and exciting role as ‘Primary mender’?



NOTE:

Perfection - In terms of the fundamentals. Not for lack of bad/annoying habbits

Imperfections - Lack of things that may be important but are not deal breakers

[eyes-only]

Are you saying you're attracted to imperfection? I wonder who the perfect guy sitting opposite you is.

[black velvet]

No, I am asking you if you're attracted to imperfection. As for the guy sheekadaas kabax

[wastegal]

Well obivously women aint gonna be attracted to others imperfection cuz thats seen as a negative. Unless there both handicapped, then they can compare whos more handicapped and alot of things in common.

[eyes-only]

Are you trying to come up with reasons not to fancy the perfect guy?


For me, I guess non of the guys I've ever fancied were perfect.....but I don't think I consciously go for imperfect....that would just be too weird.

[black velvet]

loooool@ wastegal wax waalan
Are there no negative qualitied that you find attractive? Have you never liked a bad boy?


Eyes - Really? You don't find that hidden vulnerability a tad bit attractive?

[FAH1223]

all of these relationship, man/woman topics here sound like Stockholm Syndrome to me

[surrender]

all of these relationship, man/woman topics here sound like Stockholm Syndrome to me

we need to get you a girl ASAP!!!!!!!!!

[Sir-Luggoyo]

[quote="black velvet"]

tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that

[quote]



BV,

That is me you described there and I ain't getting laid, what do you think is the reason?

[snoop12]

horta do girls really look for personality or do they go for looks???? because i know i will definitely go for looks in a girl, personality is not even one of my requirements

[black velvet]

Fah - looool@ Stockholm Syndrome. What can I say the psychotherapy didn't work

Surrender - Na don't corrupt the guy

[black velvet]

tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that

BV,

That is me you described there and I ain't getting laid, what do you think is the reason?

SirL - Females looking for long term relationships look for these things. The ones you're after may have other guidelines


Snoop - Girls go for both, I guess personality counts for a lot more with us you vain vain human being

[Abmn]

You know everything you want in a partner. For most girls, tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that

I don't know about other men, but these are the qualities I seek in my future wife:

-Medium height (5'5"-6")
-Medium weight (50-65kgs)
-Average looking
-Not too intelligent, not too unintelligent
-Simplicity
-Not too jealous
-Cooks well
-Religious (hijab a must)
-Good conversational skills, but not argumentative

Bonus: massaging skills

I hope I'm not asking too much.

[Skippa]

Bonus: massaging skills

a kinky sheikh ain't you?

[black velvet]

No Abmn you are not, surprisingly little - so someone not too bright, not too pretty, who will not stand up to you, will cook for you and preferable massage your feet