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Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 6:54 am
by black velvet
You know everything you want in a partner. For most girls, tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that
Now my question is, are you always attracted to someone with all those qualities? Don’t you dare say you have never met someone with all those characteristics because you have, we all have. They are out there, infact I’m sitting opposite one such man right now.
Are imperfections, volatility and uncertainty prerequisites to attraction? Is it the drama that we seek or are we drawn to men who we perceive to be ‘broken’ so that we may assign ourselves the tricky and exciting role as ‘Primary mender’?
NOTE:
Perfection - In terms of the fundamentals. Not for lack of bad/annoying habbits
Imperfections - Lack of things that may be important but are not deal breakers
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:10 am
by eyes-only

Are you saying you're attracted to imperfection? I wonder who the perfect guy sitting opposite you is.
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:21 am
by black velvet
No, I am asking you if you're attracted to imperfection. As for the guy sheekadaas kabax

Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:24 am
by wastegal
Well obivously women aint gonna be attracted to others imperfection cuz thats seen as a negative. Unless there both handicapped, then they can compare whos more handicapped and alot of things in common.

Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:31 am
by eyes-only

Are you trying to come up with reasons not to fancy the perfect guy?
For me, I guess non of the guys I've ever fancied were perfect.....but I don't think I consciously go for imperfect....that would just be too weird.
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:43 am
by black velvet
loooool@ wastegal wax waalan
Are there no negative qualitied that you find attractive? Have you never liked a bad boy?
Eyes - Really? You don't find that hidden vulnerability a tad bit attractive?
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:08 am
by FAH1223
all of these relationship, man/woman topics here sound like Stockholm Syndrome to me
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:19 am
by surrender
FAH1223 wrote:all of these relationship, man/woman topics here sound like Stockholm Syndrome to me
we need to get you a girl ASAP!!!!!!!!! 
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:23 am
by Sir-Luggoyo
[quote="black velvet"]
tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that
[quote]
BV,
That is me you described there and I ain't getting laid, what do you think is the reason?
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:26 am
by snoop12
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:08 am
by black velvet
Fah - looool@ Stockholm Syndrome. What can I say the psychotherapy didn't work
Surrender -

Na don't corrupt the guy
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:14 am
by black velvet
Sir-Luggoyo wrote:black velvet wrote:
tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that
BV,
That is me you described there and I ain't getting laid, what do you think is the reason?
SirL - Females looking for long term relationships look for these things. The ones you're after may have other guidelines
Snoop - Girls go for both, I guess personality counts for a lot more with us you vain vain human being

Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 12:49 pm
by Abmn
black velvet wrote:You know everything you want in a partner. For most girls, tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that
I don't know about other men, but these are the qualities I seek in my future wife:
-Medium height (5'5"-6")
-Medium weight (50-65kgs)
-Average looking
-Not too intelligent, not too unintelligent
-Simplicity
-Not too jealous
-Cooks well
-Religious (hijab a must)
-Good conversational skills, but not argumentative
Bonus: massaging skills
I hope I'm not asking too much.
Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 12:58 pm
by Skippa
Abmn wrote:Bonus: massaging skills
a kinky sheikh ain't you?

Re: Imperfection and Attraction
Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 1:13 pm
by black velvet