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Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 6:54 am
by black velvet
You know everything you want in a partner. For most girls, tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that

Now my question is, are you always attracted to someone with all those qualities? Don’t you dare say you have never met someone with all those characteristics because you have, we all have. They are out there, infact I’m sitting opposite one such man right now.

Are imperfections, volatility and uncertainty prerequisites to attraction? Is it the drama that we seek or are we drawn to men who we perceive to be ‘broken’ so that we may assign ourselves the tricky and exciting role as ‘Primary mender’?



NOTE:

Perfection - In terms of the fundamentals. Not for lack of bad/annoying habbits

Imperfections - Lack of things that may be important but are not deal breakers

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:10 am
by eyes-only
:lol: Are you saying you're attracted to imperfection? I wonder who the perfect guy sitting opposite you is.

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:21 am
by black velvet
No, I am asking you if you're attracted to imperfection. As for the guy sheekadaas kabax :lol:

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:24 am
by wastegal
Well obivously women aint gonna be attracted to others imperfection cuz thats seen as a negative. Unless there both handicapped, then they can compare whos more handicapped and alot of things in common. :mrgreen:

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:31 am
by eyes-only
:lol: Are you trying to come up with reasons not to fancy the perfect guy?


For me, I guess non of the guys I've ever fancied were perfect.....but I don't think I consciously go for imperfect....that would just be too weird.

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 7:43 am
by black velvet
loooool@ wastegal wax waalan :lol: :lol:
Are there no negative qualitied that you find attractive? Have you never liked a bad boy?


Eyes - Really? You don't find that hidden vulnerability a tad bit attractive?

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:08 am
by FAH1223
all of these relationship, man/woman topics here sound like Stockholm Syndrome to me

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:19 am
by surrender
FAH1223 wrote:all of these relationship, man/woman topics here sound like Stockholm Syndrome to me

we need to get you a girl ASAP!!!!!!!!! :mrgreen:

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:23 am
by Sir-Luggoyo
[quote="black velvet"]

tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that

[quote]



BV,

That is me you described there and I ain't getting laid, what do you think is the reason?

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:26 am
by snoop12
:lol: :lol: :lol:

horta do girls really look for personality or do they go for looks???? because i know i will definitely go for looks in a girl, personality is not even one of my requirements :lol:

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:08 am
by black velvet
Fah - looool@ Stockholm Syndrome. What can I say the psychotherapy didn't work :lol:

Surrender - :shock: Na don't corrupt the guy

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:14 am
by black velvet
Sir-Luggoyo wrote:
black velvet wrote:
tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that



BV,

That is me you described there and I ain't getting laid, what do you think is the reason?
SirL - Females looking for long term relationships look for these things. The ones you're after may have other guidelines


Snoop - Girls go for both, I guess personality counts for a lot more with us you vain vain human being :lol: :lol:

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 12:49 pm
by Abmn
black velvet wrote:You know everything you want in a partner. For most girls, tall, Intelligent, good looking, healthy wallet, conversation skills, sense of humour, cultured, open minded…and all that
I don't know about other men, but these are the qualities I seek in my future wife:

-Medium height (5'5"-6")
-Medium weight (50-65kgs)
-Average looking
-Not too intelligent, not too unintelligent
-Simplicity
-Not too jealous
-Cooks well
-Religious (hijab a must)
-Good conversational skills, but not argumentative

Bonus: massaging skills

I hope I'm not asking too much.

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 12:58 pm
by Skippa
Abmn wrote:Bonus: massaging skills
a kinky sheikh ain't you? :lol:

Re: Imperfection and Attraction

Posted: Fri Mar 06, 2009 1:13 pm
by black velvet
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

No Abmn you are not, surprisingly little - so someone not too bright, not too pretty, who will not stand up to you, will cook for you and preferable massage your feet :up: