My kind of mother in law!!

[Hyperactive]

Abd al-Malik said: "When 'Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn 'Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother
Umamah came in to her, to advise her, and said:

`O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.

`O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father's wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.

`O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.

`Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder
for you.

`The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah.

`The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.

`The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.

`The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.

`The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.

`Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment, whilst the latter will make him unhappy.

`Show him as much honor and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.

`Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah (Subhanahu wa ta'ala) choose what is best for you and protect you.'"
She was taken to her husband, and the marriage was a great success; she gave birth to kings who ruled after him.

[black velvet]

And oh my daughter, make sure you speak only when spoken to and keep your eyes glued to the floor.

Ilahey hana cadaabin

[Sir-Luggoyo]

And oh my daughter, make sure you speak only when spoken to and keep your eyes glued to the floor.

Ilahey hana cadaabin

BV

Doing that facilitates your entrance to Jannah. The first two things a woman would be asked yowmul qiyaama is her Salaat and her hubby, if she passes in both, everything else becomes smooth.

So I suggest you be the best raaliyo and will go to paradise Insha-Allah

[Hyperactive]

amiin.

[Madd_Scientist_]

[Hyperactive]

i still cannot understand where this culture husbands are strangers and enemy of the wives coming from!!

Allah called wife to her husband and vice verse , libaas as the close you wear which is nothing close to you body than your cloth.

salam maddy how you doing my sister?

[black velvet]

And oh my daughter, make sure you speak only when spoken to and keep your eyes glued to the floor.

Ilahey hana cadaabin

BV

Doing that facilitates your entrance to Jannah. The first two things a woman would be asked yowmul qiyaama is her Salaat and her hubby, if she passes in both, everything else becomes smooth.

So I suggest you be the best raaliyo and will go to paradise Insha-Allah

A lot of the things on there are common sense lakin I don't appreciate this "you are his slave" and "he is your slave" I mean seriously, the day I believe a man is my master is the day I shoot myself. Now that to me is strange, there is nothing wrong with listening to each other and being kind lakin "do not disobey your husband" ? People are making things way more complicated than it needs to be.

ps what is raaliyo? (something tells me it's a doormat)

[AbdiWahab252]

Hyper doesn't like Somali mothers

[black velvet]

Hyper doesn't like Somali mothers

I can't imagine a Somali mom giving that advice

[Hyperactive]

not many mothers give these kind of good advice lately.
that's why we see roles are mess up and broken houses in every society increased.

[Madd_Scientist_]

salaam hyper, i'm good thanks walaal. and thank you for the reminders

not many mothers give these kind of good advice lately.
that's why we see roles are mess up and broken houses in every society increased.

well said hyper!

[AbdiWahab252]

Black Velvet,

They do. If a woman adores her man & he is good to her, then she will do anything for him.

[Hyperactive]

AW ader aniga iyo my mother in law wahan isagu imano majirto.
that`s why i choose careful one her son in law ha hishooto and doesnt get into his business.

[black velvet]

Black Velvet,

They do. If a woman adores her man & he is good to her, then she will do anything for him.

True most women would lakin some of the expectations are sky high like telling her she has to be his slave for goodness sake. If I felt I had to do every single thing someone told me I'd feel claustrophobic and do the opposite.





loool hyper I hope your wife turns out to be just as reserved as her mother because it is not always like mother like daughter

[Hyperactive]

walal i dont mind wife who has her own mind who know maslaha dedad.

naag hoyadey ba sida tiri, iyo sida, taas aniga malin aqalkeyga joogi meyso.
hoyada nin ka ko noqoto umban oran.