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A friend of mine is a man who loves women.. he cant live without them.. but he can't live with them either ..so he asked me some advice the other day..since he is planning to get married say in a year ..

What he cant fathom is the possibility of living with only one woman. for the rest of his live...when all he has done his adult life was sleep around ..

Just to give you an idea of what I am talking about.. the man has dated at least 30-35 women in the last 4-5 yrs..and he tells me that he was in a slump because of many reasons..first one being ..he was focusing on his career..
Out of these 12-13 out of the 30..he was with each one of them for more than 2 months and with the rest..it ranged from 1-2 days to few weeks..

To make a long story short, the man(I have known him all my life) says that there was a drop of 70% in women that he was with in the past 5 yrs..compared to the previous 5 for the reasons stated above..so yes he was a full time shaxaari..lol.

And now he is asking me..how can he live with one woman..how can anyone expect him to do so??when all his life was against that idea..
and he emphasizes that he does not want any more haram..but women of today dont wanna hear about other wives..though most of them will be silent about affairs so long as no one else finds out..

What would you tell this man..who after all is only trying to live his life in a halaal way and stop his bad ways..??

Cawar,

That is the last time I ever talk with you Why are you qarxiising me ?

basically he's getting cold feet huh?

if he's in doubt maybe he shouldn't get married in the first place?

AbdiWahab252 wrote:Cawar,

That is the last time I ever talk with you Why are you qarxiising me ?

You started the qarxis with my pic..remember??


Maddy, I dunno..maybe.. or maybe he is just crazy to think the way he does???

so, is your friend asking u how it is possible to have multiple partners without haram in the mix? If that's the case, there are some controversial ways, like somali kudbosiro or shia's contract marriages... b4 all that he needs to have the balls to face his future wif #1 and tell her his sinister plans... or shop for some1 who can satisfy him to a point where he won't even think of going to another woman. or better yet, tell him not to get married and postpone the plan until he knows what he wants in life...

Cawar

This is the first time I read one of your topics/posts. You are a funny guy.

Cawar,

The reality is sooner or later you will have to retire from the game and hang up the jersey. You can either end on top of your game or return it to be miserably owned by younger players like what happened to Jordan when he got into baseball and basketball.

Your friend should relax and accept that those days are behind him. The woman he marries should be able to quench his s.xual desires.

Waraa Cawar,

Is it you or a friend horta?

Anyway, Tell your friend that today's women are all talk (way ku waabsanayaan) and if you fall for that, all his expeditions were futile. Tell him to marry the first one, wait for about six months, marry the second one, now the first one will start wailing and a lot of hoogayeey ba'ayeey, tell him to give her time to rant and show off her friends that she is against the second marriage, if she doesn't cool off in about 3 months, tell him to bring wife #3. Now wife #2 would never mind, since she came into this marriage knowing the consequences, now, wife #1 would totally give up since she has company in the "misery" she found herself in. Wife #4 will be like a cherry picking, no eyebrows will be raised and every wife would think of securing her position and the competition to satisfy and pleasure him will be four-folded.

this probably sonunds like a cliche, but he'll stop with the cold feet once he meets the right woman...could be that this one isn't "The One".

looool odayaasha maanta maxaa halkan kuwada kulmiyey,,wax ka maqan maba lahan

Good points from Admin, AW and Lugooyo.. men who seem to know what they're talking about.


Lugoy, what if wife #1 wreaks havoc after #2 shows up?? divorce in in the picture then right??

My advice was..become a wadaad/sheikh.. and every woman would expect or dont mind for you having your 2nd, 3rd or even 4th wife.lol

Keep them coming guys..


Madd, what cold feet are you talking about?? this guy has seen it all..and knows that there is no such thing as the one.lol

Your friends a womanizer, there is no hope for him.

Cawar,

I have resigned myself into believing the wifey and g/friend are going to be 2 different kinds of women.

Wifey = stable, quiet, obedient, boring in a nice way.

Girlfriend = fun, emotional, exciting, etc.

Cawar,

Can you give me the tel.# of the poor Halimo whom your aquaintance is getting married to? She needs to ask him for a health certificate..

Sorry to say this, but your friend is Xiisoole...

Xiisoole weeyaan,
Xubiga iyo Jacalyka,
Xumbadii sedeedii,
Aan xejin karaynoo,
Xoog u lahaynoo,
Xaqira haweenkoo,
Xumaantooda jeceloo,
etc etc etc...

Wey jiraan rag caynkaasa oo marba meel isku qaada...

Let us just pray for the poor him...In Ilaahay mar keliya dejiyo...