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Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:12 pm
by Shirib
So seems like people are getting married at a later age and that people are being pressured to wait more and more before they get married.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/co ... r=facebook
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So why are people waiting longer to get married? and is their a certain age u guys want to be married by?
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:14 pm
by FAH1223
damn you nicca, why you gotta post this
anyway, everyone wants to be financially stable and have 2+ degrees and ish
i guess this article is saying to do it young, even if you are poor so to speak it'll work better in the longterm
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:16 pm
by ms.naliaa
Its based on the environment and the expectations.
Back home, young people got married at 16-17-18 because at that point they were considered adults and basically had no more growing up to do. Education wasnt really that big of a deal unless u were a wealthy family.
Skip all the way to North America, you have to go to high school, get yoru GED then go to colloage get your degree, work for a few years and establish a firm grasp in your feild, then you need to find someone who is compatible with you, after that you get married...its not cheapt to get married and you have to be finaincally ready to be married too...
(god willing of course)
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:17 pm
by Shirib
ms.naliaa wrote:
Its based on the environment and the expectations.
Back home, young people got married at 16-17-18 because at that point they were considered adults and basically had no more growing up to do. Education wasnt really that big of a deal unless u were a wealthy family.
Skip all the way to North America, you have to go to high school, get yoru GED then go to colloage get your degree, work for a few years and establish a firm grasp in your feild, then you need to find someone who is compatible with you, after that you get married (god willing of course)
Yea the article is in America and epidemic is growing here too. People are gettin married at a much later age
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:19 pm
by *Nobleman*
Not really a specific age. Laakin a man must protect himself from zina, so the sooner the better i would think.
I thought i'd be married by 23-24, but the older i get the higher that number gets. Plus i reckon women are too demanding in terms of the financial aspect of marriage.
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:21 pm
by FAH1223
*Nobleman* wrote:Not really a specific age. Laakin a man must protect himself from zina, so the sooner the better i would think.
I thought i'd be married by 23-24, but the older i get the higher that number gets. Plus i reckon women are too demanding in terms of the financial aspect of marriage.
I've penciled in 27.... or the end of Obama's 8 years
thats not that long
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:22 pm
by Shirib
I say between 24 and 27 insha'allah.
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:23 pm
by zulaika
those who are not married yet are waiting for "CALAF"...
sometimes its not of their making that they're not yet married...waa wax la qorey dee.
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:23 pm
by dawwa9
My father married when he was 35 and has 16 children (all the same mother), so marrying old aint that bad.

Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:25 pm
by HELWAA
Dont forget QADAR...marko ilaahy kuu qoray uun baad guursan.Everthing is written.
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:26 pm
by FAH1223
HELWAA wrote:Dont forget QADAR...marko ilaahy kuu qoray uun baad guursan.Everthing is written.
everything is written, but you don't know whats written
thats why you have to take things as they go by and use your own head instead of just relying on fate all the time and not doing anything
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:28 pm
by HELWAA
Fah
you should always rely on Allah swt and hope for the best...Whatever happens happens.

Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:30 pm
by FAH1223
HELWAA wrote:Fah
you should always rely on Allah swt and hope for the best...Whatever happens happens.

i never said otherwise Helwaa, re-read my post

Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:33 pm
by SummerRain
Personally, nin cagha iidhaqo aa suugaya.
Re: Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For?
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 1:38 pm
by eyes-only
I'm waiting until I feel like making my life more complicated.
Marriage is such a huge responsibility, why enter it when you don't have to?