the benefits of marrying at a young age.

[ModerateMuslim]

From among the problems facing the adolescents is that they abstain from marriage. This is a big problem. The youth abstaining from matrimony produces serious harm and no one knows the outcome except Allah. They use the following alleged reasons for abstaining from matrimony.

-Getting married at an early age diverts from studying and getting prepared for the future.

-Getting married at an early age burdens the youth with the responsibilities of providing for his wife and children.

-The most dangerous reason for the youth turning away from marriage is the obstacles which are placed in the path towards marriage such as extravagant celebrations. And at times the youth can not afford the expenses of these celebrations.

In my opinion, this is the biggest reason why these adolescents do not get married. The remedy for this problem is simple if we correct our intentions.




First, it should be explained to the youth that the merits, superiority, and blessings that lied within marriage outweigh the obstacles and difficulties we previously mentioned. There is not anything in this Dunya except there is a trade off. I am not saying that marriage is easy and that there are not any difficulties or hardships. There are difficulties and problems in marriage however; the benefits of marriage outweigh the problems and difficulties that occur. Consequently, these virtues make those difficulties and hardships forgotten. The benefits of marriage should be explained to the youth until they desire it. Marriage helps people protect their private parts and lower their gaze.


The statement of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam points to this




“O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power .”




[Hadeeth Saheeh. Collected by Bukhari and Muslim on the Authority of Ibn Mas'ud.]




The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam specifically instructed the youth to take part in marriage, because they are prepared for it and have the ability.


It is appropriate for the youth to get married at an early age if he or she has the ability and means to do so. Praise is to Allah – currently this is predominately the case. There isn’t any excuse for the youth to leave off getting married. The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam explained the merits of getting married at a young age. Matrimony protects the private parts, because the private parts are very dangerous if unguarded.


Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:




“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts). Except with their wives and the (women slaves) whom their right hands possess — for (then) they are not blameworthy.”


Surah Al-Ma’arij: 29-30




Matrimony protects the private parts. This is to say that marriage safeguards a person from a great evil. Marriage protects that organ and lowers the gaze. If the youth gets married, he will be delighted. He would not be looking here or there at women or at what Allah has prohibited. As a result, Allah saved this person from the haraam by giving him the halaal. By Allah’s bounty, this person was saved from adultery and fornication.


Second, marriage helps a person to attain tranquility and ease.


Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:




“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.”


Surah Ar-Rum: 21




Whenever the youth gets married his soul is relieved from agitation, anxiety and he has a piece of mind.


“That you may find repose in them.” Surah Al-Furqaan: 74


Verily, the matrimony of this youth is among the reasons for his tranquility and serenity. Accordingly, matrimony is a reason which numerous blessings spring from.

[Enlightened~Sista]

SomaliStar did u marry that blonde??

[Ka darag]

no haram

[ModerateMuslim]

ignorant-sister, which one are you talking about?

anyhoo, those are forgotten days....the path that i've left....have moved on since....to a more pure path.....

[Firefly]

Jazakallah Kheyr for the post walaal.

I have three questions, if you don't mind me asking:-

1. Are you married?

2. What if a young person is unable to get married, because of cost?

3. Do you think today's teens are able to handle the responsibilities which come with married life?

[Ka darag]

good questions firefly

[Enlightened~Sista]

lol Star..


haye..slowly slowly..dont burn yourself out..

[FAH1223]

Jazakallah Kheyr for the post walaal.

I have three questions, if you don't mind me asking:-

1. Are you married?

2. What if a young person is unable to get married, because of cost?

3. Do you think today's teens are able to handle the responsibilities which come with married life?

2. they shouldn't and should know how to abstain from sin

3. No, thats why there are numerous divorces with young 20, 21, 22 year olds

btw... marrying young is very relative it doesn't nec. mean young like teenager

The Prophet SAW was first married at 25

[Ka darag]

i heard u ud fast if u cant marry and u think ur gonna be bad .... wat if u cant fast tho??

[Firefly]

Ka darag:- Thanks miss

FAH1223:- Thanks for your answers. But, be honest with yourself, when you hear the word 'young' what springs to your mind? A 25 yr old, or a 16-18 yr old?

[ModerateMuslim]

Jazakallah Kheyr for the post walaal.

I have three questions, if you don't mind me asking:-

1. Are you married?

2. What if a young person is unable to get married, because of cost?

3. Do you think today's teens are able to handle the responsibilities which come with married life?

sister, i'm not married yet; just reached that age now. (i hope this isn't nifaaq on my part)

as for your two other questions - then this article gives better answers than i can possible hope to give.

[FAH1223]

Ka darag:- Thanks miss

FAH1223:- Thanks for your answers. But, be honest with yourself, when you hear the word 'young' what springs to your mind? A 25 yr old, or a 16-18 yr old?

neither

like a 21 year old

in this society, lots of people ain't ready for the reality...dudes are too immature, girls are already mature there is a disconnect and I see it everday with the Muslims I see

the Prophet SAW at 25 is a better example to reach for

[Firefly]

Somali-Star:- The article says "If she or he has the ability or means to do so"...so there are conditions which is why I've posed those questions to you walaal.

FAH1223:- You think 21 is young? I think 25 is a good age for marriage. I agree with you though, the youth shouldn't be pushed to get married if they're not ready, 'cause it might do more harm than good. Marriage is good, if it's done for the right reasons - avoiding Zina is a really good reason, but I've always believed you can avoid Zina by other means, like fasting, keeping good company etc. Marriage isn't the only solution for it - there's no point getting married just to relieve sexual tension, and after that 'good time' is over what then? Will they face up to reality? A baby? Bills? A life long responsibility? I believe marriage serves a bigger purpose, and it's not just about 'halaal sex'..

Ka darag:- lol, why can't you fast?

[Ka darag]

Somali-Star:- The article says "If she or he has the ability or means to do so"...so there are conditions which is why I've posed those questions to you walaal.

FAH1223:- You think 21 is young? I think 25 is a good age for marriage. I agree with you though, the youth shouldn't be pushed to get married if they're not ready, 'cause it might do more harm than good. Marriage is good, if it's done for the right reasons - avoiding Zina is a really good reason, but I've always believed you can avoid Zina by other means, like fasting, keeping good company etc. Marriage isn't the only solution for it - there's no point getting married just to relieve sexual tension, and after that 'good time' is over what then? Will they face up to reality? A baby? Bills? A life long responsibility? I believe marriage serves a bigger purpose, and it's not just about 'halaal sex'..

Ka darag:- lol, why can't you fast?

for example, u can hav exams or something or ur just a weak person

[Firefly]

Ka darag:- lol, so you never sat an exam whilst fasting? I've done that numerous times - and I actually done well in those exams, lol. Sis, it's all about will-power, everyone is weak to an extent including myself, but you gotta remind yourself why you're doing it? Remind yourself, you're doing it for the pleasure of your Lord, and you seek His reward, and nothing else matters. When you believe this firmly, then, Allah (swt) will make it easy for you, insha-Allah.

Hadith Qudsi 10:
On the authority of Abu Harayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (PBUH), who said: Allah (mighty and sublime be He) says:

Fasting is Mine and it's I who give reward for it. [A man] gives up his sexual passion, his food and his drink for my sake. Fasting is like a shield, and he who fasts has two joys: a joy when he breaks his fast and a joy when he meets his Lord. The change in the breath of the mouth of him who fasts is better in Allah's estimation than the smell of musk.

It was related by al-Bukhari (also by Muslim, Malik, at-Tirmidhi, an-Nasa'i and Ibn Majah).

This Hadeeth, serves as a real motivation for fasting. The believer who fasts purely for Allah's Sake, his/her reward is indeed with His Lord. Alhamdulillah. Indeed, Allah (swt) is the Most-Generous!