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I was reading yesterday this funny qaldan somnetter's thread about cooking. So, that made me think about that each couple before they get married they should undergo a 100 days training course in a hope that their marriage will last at least a good 25 years.

So, i thought the course should be as the following:

1) 30 days they should volunteer in kindergarden schools
2) 30 days they should volunteer in pyschiatric hospitals
3) 30 days they should volunteer in nursing homes (for ages of 70 to 80)
4) 10 days training of cooking, bookkeeping, and art of how to fight in a constructive way.

Any students?

Navy9 wrote:I was reading yesterday this funny qaldan somnetter's thread about cooking. So, that made me think about that each couple before they get married they should undergo a 100 days training course in a hope that their marriage will last at least a good 25 years.

So, i thought the course should be as the following:

1) 30 days they should volunteer in kindergarden schools
2) 30 days they should volunteer in pyschiatric hospitals
3) 30 days they should volunteer in nursing homes (for ages of 70 to 80)
4) 10 days training of cooking, bookkeeping, and art of how to fight in a constructive way.

Any students?

I think they should go in for psychiatric evaluation not to volunteer....

Not bad actually.

But why psychiatric hospital? Why not a couple's seminar about responsibilities, rights of spouses, etc instead?

One of the ways I learn is by observing others. These 90 days should teach any individual to be patient, patient, patient.

So many households are ruined because people lack the virtue of patience and compassion.

apart from NO. 2 not bad idea. in fact change NO.4 to 30 days and forget NO.2

surrender wrote: apart from NO. 2 not bad idea. in fact change NO.4 to 30 days and ofrget NO.2

Habo 2 is not such a bad idea, you can weed off schizos like Emperior....

navey
Why would you even mention that the guy was Qaldan...walaahi somalido waa yaab!!!!!

Navy9 wrote:So many households are ruined because people lack the virtue of patience and compassion.

Also because many people marry for the wrong reasons. He wants a wife to cook & clean for him and satisfy his sexual needs, she wants security and kids, etc. Then when reality hits home and people really get to know each other, they quit. But if they truly loved each other and were willing to accept each other, willing to be true companions, then it would be easier to compromise and be patient. Not to mention people believing all sorts of bullshit about marriage, like its going to solve all the problems in the world, simply because you got married. False sense of expectation.

Hada furitaanki baa caadi noqoday, mushkilado waa taa.

^

If two people can't get along, what are they to do? It wouldn't have been made halaal, if there was no need for it.

What about people who marry a person for the purposes of coming to the west or financial benefit, I have seen a couple of cases where such thing has happened...? I told people such marriage was doomed from the begining and no amount of madiation or advice would make is work.

The idea of training is not bad at all, though I am among those who believe no amount of training will give you a recipe for successfull marriage.

Kolombo

How about not giving up so easy.Waxaad arkaysa dad markey hal mar is qabsadaan furitaan ku carariya...guurko wax sahlan maaha...samir samir baa laga raba iyo inaad dadaashid...but but tii ilaahyna way maqan tahy.Hadi calafkiinu kala dhamaaday waa khalaas.

sweeti wrote:navey
Why would you even mention that the guy was Qaldan...walaahi somalido waa yaab!!!!!

Because he is qaldan and I am one too, so i can say it without being named a qabilist, unless ofcourse you have other objections walaal

HELWAA wrote:How about not giving up so easy.Waxaad arkaysa dad markey hal mar is qabsadaan furitaan ku carariya...guurko wax sahlan maaha...samir samir baa laga raba iyo inaad dadaashid...but but tii ilaahyna way maqan tahy.Hadi calafkiinu kala dhamaaday waa khalaas.

Hadii markii hore qalad la isku guursaday and believing non-existing lies about marriage, how can you expect there to be patience? Patience and compromise will be plenty as long as there is love & compassion, but most Somalis don't even marry for love, they marry for worldly conveniences. There must be a reason you're willing to put up with a spouse, if its not a solid reason, walking away isn't that difficult. I speak from experience.

Navy9 wrote:

sweeti wrote:navey
Why would you even mention that the guy was Qaldan...walaahi somalido waa yaab!!!!!

Because he is qaldan and I am one too, so i can say it without being named a qabilist, unless ofcourse you have other objections walaal

No objections at all inabti but the topic that we are talking about has nothing to do with Qabiil...so when i was reading your thread and saw the QLDAN word i was like thats all