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Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:06 pm
by Basra-
Is it a joke hoorta? HOW can a nation of progressed self declared feminist claim so much successes and independence from chauvinist or MAN opression--and yet--their custom is-when a woman gets married-- she takes the name of the husband. Suddenly the name of her father or her birth surname is useless. Is that Oxymoron? How can a real feminist take this major symbolism of submission??????? :x :x :x

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:09 pm
by ms.naliaa
Basra..you will NEVER have to worry about taking on a mans last name...

so dont fret little pet.
:P

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:10 pm
by Mad May
A lot of women are going for hyphenated or mash-up names, like Bailey-Rae or Bae in that case. Problem solved :up:

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:10 pm
by Basra-
LOOOOOOOOOL@ms nalia ... i know wont---muslims dont take the name of their husband.....


next..... :roll:





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Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:12 pm
by GacanSareeye
i thought the same thing til i noticed they still cook, wash, have babies, do the grocery, prefer to stay home with their kids if they didnt have to work for living, or if there husband made enough money (you would be surprised how much well off people stay home and raise kids), the name was just the pudding.

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:12 pm
by BlackVelvet
Hence the title "Ms." and the option of the offspring having a combination of the mother's and father's surnames. I wonder if there is a hadiith that makes it compulsory for children to specifically take just their father's surname.

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:16 pm
by Basra-
bv.... :roll: it will make perfect sense for offspring to take their fathers name as he is bin-Adam--the first human to be on earth, therefore by seniority takes prescendent over the woman. :clap:

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:16 pm
by Basra-
GacanSareeye


i have an intense urge to do a copulation act with your avatar. :|

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:22 pm
by Mr. Yungnfresh
Feminists are sexy

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:33 pm
by GacanSareeye
Basra :P

anyways, feminism know they are in a losing battle, wouldnt they still end up with a men name, i am sure her mother is not from Mars. you either take the name of your husband, keep the one, who did your mother

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:51 pm
by surrender
BlackVelvet wrote:Hence the title "Ms." and the option of the offspring having a combination of the mother's and father's surnames. I wonder if there is a hadiith that makes it compulsory for children to specifically take just their father's surname.

“Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah…” [al-Ahzaab 33:5]. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has cursed the one who claims to belong to someone other than his father.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad and others). And Allaah knows best.

and...

Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd (may Allaah preserve him) said: This is one of the beauties of sharee’ah, because calling a person by his father’s name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart. The father is the protector and maintainer of the child and his mother both inside and outside the home. This is why the father mixes with people in the marketplaces and takes risks by travelling to earn a halaal living and strive for their sakes. So the child is given the name of the father, not of the mother who is hidden away and who is one of those whom Allaah commanded (interpretation of the meaning)
therefore taking your husband/mothers name is not allowed. [/b][/color]

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:55 pm
by Basra-
'Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd (may Allaah preserve him) said: This is one of the beauties of sharee’ah, because calling a person by his father’s name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart. The father is the protector and maintainer of the child and his mother both inside and outside the home. This is why the father mixes with people in the marketplaces and takes risks by travelling to earn a halaal living and strive for their sakes. So the child is given the name of the father, not of the mother who is hidden away and who is one of those whom Allaah commanded (interpretation of the meaning)'



surrender r u quoting hadith or an athoropoligist? Seems like u quoting from a evolution excerpt more than hadith, the father taking risk or protecting his clan etc etc etc :roll: :x

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 3:58 pm
by BlackVelvet
Thank you Surrender :up:

I suppose a mother would fend for her child regardless of whether it has her name or not. Men are perhaps not so generous.

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 4:11 pm
by SultanOrder
Basra if you read about society in the last century then you will understand why they became the way they are. Every movement is just a reflection of what it is fighting, so if something is harsh then people will repel it equally harsh.

In my American History class we went over popular culture and the psychological submission of woman and fitting them to defined roles. How a woman should be happy in the home, raising the kids, do whatever it takes to make her husband happy, giving up her life for him, and if she wasn't happy in this specific defined role then she could be clinically diagnosed insane :lol: .

They were oppressed by extremists, so they fought it by being extreme.

Re: Western Feminism.......

Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 4:12 pm
by surrender
Basra
thats some sheekhs' opinion i guess, the first one is a ayat in Suratul ahzaab, and the second is a hadith.
heres more if you want

in the Quran, "Proclaim their (children's) real parentage." 33:5 (Pickthall's translation). Our Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) said "whoever intentionally related himself/herself to someone else instead of their father, Paradise is prohibited for him" Bukhari and Muslim.

or

Al-Bukhaari (3508) and Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell.”




what i've notice in western culture is that they have no respect and/or give credit to fathers. we shouldnt be like them. girls keep your fathers names. learn it all the way down to the 15th. be proud. never take husbands' surname. :down: