Death Of Friend's Family

[Murax]

Had a friend who's Dad Died recently. Usually after the first initial condolence, I don't bring it up to the person again. For instance the next day I called Him for something normal but am I supposed to give a condolence again or not remind the person? Personally I always felt that its best to not bring it up more than once so as to not bring any pain. What do You Guys do?

[marcassmith]

Death is a sad and indeed a certain reality. Your friend is not oblivious to the death of his family member. Best not to patronise them by acting like everything is normal. Lets them grief, in fact, I think discussing the death itself is helpful in having closure.

[ciyaal_warta]

Murax
datz how its done bro...one time tacsi next time u talk 2 him u dont bring it up again

[GeoDesic]

Murax, you have it right, don't bring up the subject of his dad's death. After the initial condelence, it is over. You won't pretend everything is terrific with your friend of course, but generally, let your friend bring the subject up instead of you(either through giving him condelences everyday or talking to him as if he is incapacitated by the experience). With that said, you can have one good chatt and talk at length to your friend just Once. Remind your friend that in a way his dead parent is lucky to leave behind someone who can pray for them(your friend) and who can ask Allah for forgiveness on their behalf. So stress the value of being a good son on whose piety the parent may be forgiven. There is no loss in a Muslim's life, and death is one certain reality of a human life, One experience everyone will go through to start a new life that is more important than the one left behind, so, tell your friend now his parent is relying on him big. May Allah forgive our parents and those of all Muslims who died before Us.

PS: When the last of my parents died(My parents both died within a short span, few months difference), one guy who called me read to me something that sounded like a "hadith" -> "To Allah belongs what he gives(to begin with), and To Allah belongs what he takes(the souls of my parents)", in other words, there was no real ownership of a life by anyone of us, and as just Allah has given us the gift of Life, He takes it back whenever he desires, so we go back in essence to him when we die. He reminded me how responsible I became with their death and etc. That helped me move on quickly and leave any sadness behind. The future is bright for those who succeed in this life and build a good relationship with Allah. May ALLAH forgive your friend's dad.

[xoogSADE14]

Aun. The old man was a good man and a true patriot.

[Murax]

Aun. The old man was a good man and a true patriot.

AUN yes, he was.

Cajiib You know who I'm talking about

[xoogSADE14]

lol

Dadkii hore weey is yaqaanaan

[kambuli]

AUN to MJ After being ill for a long time, he is in peace now.

[Basra-]

I dont see why u guys walk tip toe on the subject of death. Death is beautiful. It is an end to this stinking earth life. When a beloved dies, i just pray for them and walaahi i am envious of them to die before me. Death is Fcuking beautiful Yaqqee! It is the greatest equalizer. King and Queens and Shaqaalo and even an adoon--will die. It makes us all equal. How can you NOT love that?

[BlackVelvet]

The first time is hard enough why bring it up again? AUN