Nice guy Syndrom

[ms.naliaa]

Ever met a dude that you thought was really nice.....but realized that all he talked about was mundane everyday things...and you soon found urself really bored...and ignoring his calls...and when you did pick up...found an excuse to stop talking....
But he is sooo nice that you dont wanna hurt him but you need to tell him "this aint gunna go no where"

[Advo]

Nice guys lost

b!tches wanna be disrespected.

[ms.naliaa]

Nice guys lost

b!tches wanna be disrespected.

And men wanna be whiped...both physically and mentally

[BlackVelvet]

Yeah, boring is not a good look, lakin what's worse is when someone is blatantly making up 'exciting stories' just to try to impress you. Those ones annoy me more. Boring + liar + fail, because you can see right through it.

Nice guys in general lakin are not boring I would hope. A nice guy you're not attracted to though is horrible because it makes you feel like a toad

[Lord Diplock]

Lol @ nice guys, do they exist at all? It is all a show and a trick girls, some guys think it is the best route to the right side of women, they are wrong and gullible in my view. Be yourself is my motto at all times. Women have preconceived notion of what kind of a bloke they are into, so whether a guy acts 'nice' or not, it is a moot point. He would be unceremoniously rejected if he is not her type. Lol

[Leila25]

We have to stop thinking that men will be "hurt" if you dump them, we imagine their reaction will be like us girls, this thought only makes us agonise over doing the dumping. We start to over analyse and burden ourselves over a simple situation, getting hurt is part of growing up/life, so tell him straight.

I also prefer boring over a liar, especially the ones who lie about unnecessary silly matters.

[qoraxeey]

Nice guy with good manners, mashallah dheeh

[Xamud.]

Nice guys lost

b!tches wanna be disrespected.

True, so true, Nice guys always finish last

[BlackVelvet]

We have to stop thinking that men will be "hurt" if you dump them, we imagine their reaction will be like us girls, this thought only makes us agonise over doing the dumping. We start to over analyse and burden ourselves over a simple situation, getting hurt is part of growing up/life, so tell him straight.

I also prefer boring over a liar, especially the ones who lie about unnecessary silly matters.

Good point. Though I am sure he'd still be hurt lakin he'll get over it...and maybe start hating all women.

From observation I have noticed that certain men think that they're God's gift on earth and start getting all cynical when a girl(s) turns them down. Start talking about girls ain't shyte and they all want disrespectful abusive bad boys. War slap yourself and get a grip

[ms.naliaa]

lol thanks for all the input ladies and gents....but the option is not between a nice guy and a liar...but but its about me having enough balls to end it before he really falls for me....what sucks is that everything else good
Height: check
Looks: Check
Deen: Check
Family: Check
Conversations:

Maybe Im just being a bitch.....

[KingMJ]

lol thanks for all the input ladies and gents....but the option is not between a nice guy and a liar...but but its about me having enough balls to end it before he really falls for me....what sucks is that everything else good
Height: check
Looks: Check
Deen: Check
Family: Check
Conversations:

Maybe Im just being a bitch.....

Why don't you start the conversations? Find out what he likes? What you both have in common and talk about that, but you direct what the conversation is about and you can start and end it

[BlackVelvet]

Nalia, there must be a reason why your conversations are dry. Maybe you don't have much in common or you haven't spent enough time together to figure out what you do have in common. But like Leila said he's not going to drop dead if you reject him and no it does not make you a bitch to change your mind about a guy.

[ms.naliaa]

Why don't you start the conversations? Find out what he likes? What you both have in common and talk about that, but you direct what the conversation is about and you can start and end it

I have tried to steer the conversation to a topic of tried to have debates with him...but he just kinda gives up or doesnt say much...so its like pulling teeth.

Nalia, there must be a reason why your conversations are dry. Maybe you don't have much in common or you haven't spent enough time together to figure out what you do have in common. But like Leila said he's not going to drop dead if you reject him and no it does not make you a bitch to change your mind about a guy.

Our convos are dry because he doesnt really talk about anything beside his intermediate world.
For an example, I asked him the other day 'what do you and ur friends talk about when you're together....like ppl you've known for years?'
and he said 'I dont know to be honest....maybe we talk about whats going on in our lives' and I said 'okay, so the time you spend together you talk about eachother?? ' and he said 'pretty much, yea'

Can you imagine spending an entire day with someone who ONLY wants to talk about you're life....i mean, yea frist and second date its cool...but every single time?
I wanna talk about world events, I wanna talk about opinions.
I think we only had one really in depth conversations...everything else has really been superficial........Im not imagning things...am I?

[BlackVelvet]

lol be careful what you wish for, I once knew this guy who all he'd talk about was world news or politics or anything that sounded 'intellectual' because of something I said the first time we met, so each and every conversation when we ran into eachother would revolved around the issue. It was so forced I'd get a headache talking to him.

Maybe you should shock him, say something totally outrageous and see how he reacts to it. He sounds like a pretty simple, comfortable in his own world kinda guy. Would be interesting to see what happens when you rock his world a little bit

[Lord Diplock]

It sounds you have a problem here, for any relationship to flourish and work, the two individuals must click and get on well. I will advice you if everything else is good, steer him away from this mundane stuff and make him get interested in what you like or want to talk about. Dont dump him yet, see whether he will change.