meeting your inlaws for the first time

[samadoon-waaxid]

war gabdhow maxaad sheegteen,a good friend of mine is meeting his pride would to be family soon,he is not sure wheather he he is suppose to bring some sort of a gift with him first time and what is it? or just show empty handed and nicely dressed?.now lets help him out and get some inputs from u ladies.

[SultanOrder]

Gifts never hurt, Rasul himself scw said giving gifts brings love between relationships And dress nicely, but you don't have to buy anything to fancy.

[HELWAA]

He should go there with his TOL...no gifts are needed.Lacagta waxa lga rabaa uun meherka...gaabtigi yaradki iyo inanta dahabkeedi.

[samadoon-waaxid]

PO:waa runta bro,empty handed waa la dhaamaa
helwaa:bring his tol from the get go? this is just isbarasho though.and what the hell is gabatii,yarad,and lacag dahab.diinta islaamka wax meher la yedhaahdo uun bey ogoshahay dee

[MujahidAishah]

he should bring a gift .. that will help break the ice

[Warsan_Star_Muslimah]

I'm not too sure to be honest, I haven't seen anyone bringing gifts for their future-in-laws on a getting to know visit. They usually bring the money and whatever when he is offically asking for her hand. I personally don't think he has to bring anything, but I guess it wouldn't hurt if you bought her mum a perfume set and the dad similar, that would be nice gesture.

[BlackVelvet]

You don't have to, that's why it's nice if you do.

It definitely breaks the ice and it's a nice thought. Shouldn't matter what you take though like Warsan said perfume/cologne is always a safe bet.

[Murax]

Just bring the cash for the 'suuriyo' and they'll be more than happy

[DisplacedDiraac]

I think a gift is a little too much.. Sorta a little tiny winnie bit desperate..
Cute but a little too much you know..

[BlackVelvet]

Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates

[Murax]

Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates

Whats being cheapskate about bringing thousands of dollars just for a girls family thats apart from the meher, wedding, etc.

[BlackVelvet]

Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates

Whats being cheapskate about bringing thousands of dollars just for a girls family thats apart from the meher, wedding, etc.

Haa dee suriyo is a cultural thing that you technically have to give. Kan lakin is a personal touch that is a choice, kan kale is just respecting culture and it becomes baqiilnimo if not done.

Plus he's talking about the first meeting. Who takes suriyo to the first meeting? That takes the piss

[Murax]

Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates

Whats being cheapskate about bringing thousands of dollars just for a girls family thats apart from the meher, wedding, etc.

Haa dee suriyo is a cultural thing that you technically have to give. Kan lakin is a personal touch that is a choice, kan kale is just respecting culture and it becomes baqiilnimo if not done.

Plus he's talking about the first meeting. Who takes suriyo to the first meeting? That takes the piss

I like to skip all the formalities, and just get down to business


Really though I don't think its the bride or groom who actually do the gift type stuff I think its the two families that kinda work that stuff out amongst themselves.


BV, Seriously though You really insulted me today. Baqiilnimo is a terrible quality. I may be a lot of bad things, but baqiil is not one of them

[BlackVelvet]

lool @ get down to business, no wasting time on your behalf

I guess I just think it's a nice thing, if I'm being introduced to my future mother in-law I am definitely taking a present, but then again, I'm not baqiil


Haye and neither are you

[DisplacedDiraac]

OUCH@ BV's comment..

I dont think it has anything to do with being cheap.. If someone is a gift bringing junkie than hey by all means bring the gifts on.. But if one isn't, Marka what's with the ''fakeness''..
All I'm saying is, he should be himself! He shouldn't feel he HAS TO bring something!.. What is he buying their approval/love?..