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meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Sat Feb 26, 2011 7:49 pm
by samadoon-waaxid
war gabdhow maxaad sheegteen,a good friend of mine is meeting his pride would to be family soon,he is not sure wheather he he is suppose to bring some sort of a gift with him first time and what is it? or just show empty handed and nicely dressed?.now lets help him out and get some inputs from u ladies.
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 4:04 am
by SultanOrder
Gifts never hurt, Rasul himself scw said giving gifts brings love between relationships
And dress nicely, but you don't have to buy anything to fancy.
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 7:29 am
by HELWAA
He should go there with his TOL...no gifts are needed.Lacagta waxa lga rabaa uun meherka...gaabtigi yaradki iyo inanta dahabkeedi.
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 7:06 pm
by samadoon-waaxid
PO:waa runta bro,empty handed waa la dhaamaa
helwaa:bring his tol from the get go?
this is just isbarasho though.and what the hell is gabatii,yarad,and lacag dahab.diinta islaamka wax meher la yedhaahdo uun bey ogoshahay dee
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 7:39 pm
by MujahidAishah
he should bring a gift .. that will help break the ice
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2011 5:04 pm
by Warsan_Star_Muslimah
I'm not too sure to be honest, I haven't seen anyone bringing gifts for their future-in-laws on a getting to know visit. They usually bring the money and whatever when he is offically asking for her hand. I personally don't think he has to bring anything, but I guess it wouldn't hurt if you bought her mum a perfume set and the dad similar, that would be nice gesture.
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 10:26 am
by BlackVelvet
You don't have to, that's why it's nice if you do.
It definitely breaks the ice and it's a nice thought. Shouldn't matter what you take though like Warsan said perfume/cologne is always a safe bet.
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 10:55 am
by Murax
Just bring the cash for the 'suuriyo' and they'll be more than happy
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 2:06 pm
by DisplacedDiraac
I think a gift is a little too much.. Sorta a little tiny winnie bit desperate.. 
Cute but a little too much you know.. 
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2011 5:39 am
by BlackVelvet
Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2011 9:05 am
by Murax
BlackVelvet wrote:Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates
Whats being cheapskate about bringing thousands of dollars just for a girls
family thats apart from the meher, wedding, etc.
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2011 9:51 am
by BlackVelvet
Murax wrote:BlackVelvet wrote:Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates
Whats being cheapskate about bringing thousands of dollars just for a girls
family thats apart from the meher, wedding, etc.
Haa dee suriyo is a cultural thing that you technically
have to give. Kan lakin is a personal touch that is a choice, kan kale is just respecting culture and it becomes baqiilnimo if not done.
Plus he's talking about the first meeting. Who takes suriyo to the first meeting? That takes the piss
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2011 10:10 am
by Murax
BlackVelvet wrote:Murax wrote:BlackVelvet wrote:Murax and WestLdn waa A class cheapskates
Whats being cheapskate about bringing thousands of dollars just for a girls
family thats apart from the meher, wedding, etc.
Haa dee suriyo is a cultural thing that you technically
have to give. Kan lakin is a personal touch that is a choice, kan kale is just respecting culture and it becomes baqiilnimo if not done.
Plus he's talking about the first meeting.
Who takes suriyo to the first meeting? That takes the piss
I like to skip all the formalities, and just get down to business
Really though I don't think its the bride or groom who actually do the gift type stuff I think its the two families that kinda work that stuff out amongst themselves.
BV, Seriously though You really insulted me today. Baqiilnimo is a terrible quality. I may be a lot of bad things, but baqiil is not one of them
Re: meeting your inlaws for the first time
Posted: Fri Mar 04, 2011 10:31 am
by BlackVelvet
lool @ get down to business, no wasting time on your behalf
I guess I just think it's a nice thing, if I'm being introduced to my future mother in-law I am definitely taking a present, but then again, I'm not baqiil
Haye and neither are you
