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What would you do if you had in laws who constantly interfered with your life, who have qabil agenda. always undermine you, get between you and your partner. And prefer the children to only stay at their house, and not your families, who try every trick in the book, to get the kids to favour them over your family, by bribing them with expensive gifts, video games, shopping, holidays. etc. Everything your family is totally genuine about, these people have an agenda, and your family are quite and unsuspecting sort. The question is how do you beat a tight knit, circle of family, that is rare amongst somalis. Grandmother, father, mother aunts, uncles, siblings all speaking under one authority, one language. They're also kinda wealthy for somalians, so money comes easy for them. One flaw and all gang up against you, with specificly hidden sly canning attitude towards you, that if other people saw them they look like angelic but far from it. This isnt with just this individual they are like this with every person married to their daughter or son, not stopping till your under their control. am not joking. this family is real would like to help someone get outta this lunatic family any ideas. Remember they will always be involved so long as your married to their son/daughter. even if you get divorced they will battle with you for the kids, Even capable of running away with the kids to certain parts of somalia, you cant set foot in, lol for obvious reasons.

Do what great men before us has done

Are you sure you're not just feeling threatened by how close they are to one another?

just move far away from them. that may safe your relationship with your in laws. wad isku so hiiseysan.

BlackVelvet wrote:Are you sure you're not just feeling threatened by how close they are to one another?

i was thinking the same

hyperactive wrote:just move far away from them. that may safe your relationship with your in laws. wad isku so hiiseysan.

yap i would advice him the same..move to another state

tough luck...

you should have sensed this early on..

in my case any hint of such behaviour i will divorce straight away..
its not worth the drama..


it better to end the entire relationship quickly and early on rather have more drama later on..

Isaga dul qaado, ur inlows deserve the same respect you've for ur family.As long ur wife loves you they will nevr come between you too.Iyada iin dhaxaysa marka reerkooda ha qabato oo runta ha oo sheegto.

They don't sound evil from reading what you wrote.

The best thing for you to do is probably stop thinking of them as evil and just start thinking of them as family. If you have distrust of them, they'll also be the same towards you. If they like your kids that much, chances are, they also like you since you're the father of the children or at least accept you as family...unless of course you're evil and horrible to their daughter and grandkids in which case they probably also see you as an evil in law and pray for the day you croak or leave them in peace.

Do what white people do. Take the kids and

lol moving away to another country is best, then again i know they would always visit.. any excuse call unannounced and show up at your door. You just cant get rid of them.

HELWAA wrote:Isaga dul qaado, ur inlows deserve the same respect you've for ur family.As long ur wife loves you they will nevr come between you too.Iyada iin dhaxaysa marka reerkooda ha qabato oo runta ha oo sheegto.

Would you respect people if they dont respect you. i dont think so.

eyes-only wrote:They don't sound evil from reading what you wrote.

The best thing for you to do is probably stop thinking of them as evil and just start thinking of them as family. If you have distrust of them, they'll also be the same towards you. If they like your kids that much, chances are, they also like you since you're the father of the children or at least accept you as family...unless of course you're evil and horrible to their daughter and grandkids in which case they probably also see you as an evil in law and pray for the day you croak or leave them in peace.

Did you read anything i wrote, your speaking of the ideal family, who are genuine. These ones would have you shot if they could, dont give a damn if your the kids father, they would then have the kids to themselves. they're nasty people, even if you try and be nice they will use that to stab you in the back. Perhaps you havent come across people like this before. With any family there should be boundaries, some kinda limit, with them there isnt, they will do as they please.

it's hard specially when kids involved and they''re your kids' family.

that is why i say like guray, one needs to carefully check the family they marry from, cause marriage is not just between 2 people but 2 family are getting close and being one big marge family.

adiku holey wey ko haysata, Allah ko sahlo.

Somali

You're stuck with that family till you die or divorce.Ka roono adigu o waji fiican tus, aakhirka iyaga isla yaabiy.As long they dont try to split you up it's all good

Somaliman% wrote:What would you do if you had in laws who constantly interfered with your life, who have qabil agenda. always undermine you, get between you and your partner. And prefer the children to only stay at their house, and not your families, who try every trick in the book, to get the kids to favour them over your family, by bribing them with expensive gifts, video games, shopping, holidays. etc. Everything your family is totally genuine about, these people have an agenda, and your family are quite and unsuspecting sort. The question is how do you beat a tight knit, circle of family, that is rare amongst somalis. Grandmother, father, mother aunts, uncles, siblings all speaking under one authority, one language. They're also kinda wealthy for somalians, so money comes easy for them. One flaw and all gang up against you, with specificly hidden sly canning attitude towards you, that if other people saw them they look like angelic but far from it. This isnt with just this individual they are like this with every person married to their daughter or son, not stopping till your under their control. am not joking. this family is real would like to help someone get outta this lunatic family any ideas. Remember they will always be involved so long as your married to their son/daughter. even if you get divorced they will battle with you for the kids, Even capable of running away with the kids to certain parts of somalia, you cant set foot in, lol for obvious reasons.

Why you care? Never interfere a kid and his akin. Always remind your kid how good they do for him. That is healthy relationship to him despite your jeolousy....