Money in Marriage

[BlackVelvet]

Money is documented as the number one cause of divorce marka where do you stand? Given that we are Muslims and given also that we still live in the West. Which category do you fall into

A. The wife has a right to know about all of her husband's money, savings, salary, investments and have access to all of them
B. The wife has a right to know about some of her husband's money, savings, salary, investments and have access to some of them
C. The wife has no right to know about any of her husband's money, savings, salary, investments but has the right to pocket money

Or as long as she is working she has her own money and he has his?

At what point should you speak to your farax/xalimo about this topic? To the married or engaged have you already spoken about this?

[Murax]

The Man has to provide period. Her money is her money and your money is your money (and her money to a certain degree). If the roles are reversed or providing for the household is 50/50 strong chances the marriage will fail. This is what I was taught and this is what I agree with.

[HELWAA]

A.Naagto maaha taswiir aqalka iska dhex taala, she should know everything and even have acces to the saving acount and have her name on it as well.

[anonymousfaarax]

All of the following is my opinion and understanding of the topic. I think it depends on the financial situation of the two individuals concerned. The man has the responsibility to provide [with his money]. Personally i see no reason to hide your income or money from your wife since she is your wife anyway [unless there are other wifes involved] but it depends on the two individuals involved. She should have access to the funds in the sense that the man covers her costs. The wife has a right to have her own finances, savings, income etc and has no [islamic] legal obligations to provide for the family though she may choose to do so.

I would say mainly A but sometimes also B.

[BlackVelvet]

Murax you haven't chosen from the list.

Dadka aya kala eh. I know some couples where forget 50/50 the woman actually carried most of the financial burden and even then in one situation the man went on to marry another woman the sweetest woman every created, she still said with him bless her. So this man is masaruufing his second wife with what the first wife built. Saqajaan iga dheh


Helwaa

When would you have this conversation in a relationship? A lot of people don't like talking about money, I know I don't but it is important innit?

[Niya]

The answer is A

A wife has to know and have access to the money her husband makes, furthermore, she has to ensure that her name is on things like properties, car etc. etc. If that does not happen the woman is no more than a glorified maid and a baby making machine.

[BlackVelvet]

All of the following is my opinion and understanding of the topic. I think it depends on the financial situation of the two individuals concerned. The man has the responsibility to provide [with his money]. Personally i see no reason to hide your income or money from your wife since she is your wife anyway [unless there are other wifes involved] but it depends on the two individuals involved. She should have access to the funds in the sense that the man covers her costs. The wife has a right to have her own finances, savings, income etc and has no [islamic] legal obligations to provide for the family though she may choose to do so.

I would say mainly A but sometimes also B.

I remember someone saying the only time a man would want to hide information about his finances is if he is hiding something or someone and I think they were right.

[BlackVelvet]

The answer is A

A wife has to know and have access to the money her husband makes, furthermore, she has to ensure that her name is on things like properties, car etc. etc. If that does not happen the woman is no more than a glorified maid and a baby making machine.

So when would you bring it up? Do you expect it or would you make sure of it before you sign up to the man?

[anonymousfaarax]

A wife has to know and have access to the money her husband makes, furthermore, she has to ensure that her name is on things like properties, car etc. etc.

Any intelligent person would ensure they had leverage and if not leverage at least have back up i.e. own income/savings for if [when] the boat hits the rocks.

[Murax]

Murax you haven't chosen from the list.

Dadka aya kala eh. I know some couples where forget 50/50 the woman actually carried most of the financial burden and even then in one situation the man went on to marry another woman the sweetest woman every created, she still said with him bless her. So this man is masaruufing his second wife with what the first wife built. Saqajaan iga dheh ?

I would agree with a modified A. Sure a Man's wife should have access to Your money but just because she does doesn't mean She has to know about all Your finances, how much you have etc. Also certain expendetures like hundreds of dollars she should at least let You know and talk about it before she just swipes.


As for the Guy You described, no offence but the Woman shouldn't have gotten with Him in the first place he was a bum. Even if a girl's rich/established she should at least demand nin shaqeysto, with a fulltime job. He isn't gonna become something he's not just because he married u.

[anonymousfaarax]

Dadka aya kala eh. I know some couples where forget 50/50 the woman actually carried most of the financial burden and even then in one situation the man went on to marry another woman the sweetest woman every created, she still said with him bless her. So this man is masaruufing his second wife with what the first wife built. Saqajaan iga dheh

how did I miss this

What can i say you are or become one of three people: 1. The one who 'walks on' 2. The one who is walked on. 3. The one who walks away.

[HELWAA]

Helwaa

When would you have this conversation in a relationship? A lot of people don't like talking about money, I know I don't but it is important innit?

When? the day you share his bed.No need to ask his salary, you already open his letters.You know waxa so dhaca you know waxa baxaya.All the mony should be on ur acount, no discussion about it.Ina isaga la waydiiyo maaha xabada caanaha la so iibinayo.Acountkiisa shaahisa iyo batroolkisa uun ugu reeb.

[BlackVelvet]

He was working, she just had more of a knack for investments.

Murax what's wrong with knowing about all the finances. I thought the issue would be more about spending.

What can i say you are or become one of three people: 1. The one who 'walks on' 2. The one who is walked on. 3. The one who walks away.

And that is why you want leverage. But isn't it sad to be married to someone you don't fully trust.

[BlackVelvet]

Helwaa

When would you have this conversation in a relationship? A lot of people don't like talking about money, I know I don't but it is important innit?

When? the day you share his bed.No need to ask his salary, you already open his letters.You know waxa so dhaca you know waxa baxaya.All the mony should be on ur acount, no discussion about it.Ina isaga la waydiiyo maaha xabada caanaha la so iibinayo.Acountkiisa shaahisa iyo batroolkisa uun ugu reeb.

Lakin here you need a pin number to do this so at the end of the day he has to know innit? Accountkaaga pin numberkiisa isii maad dhihi laheyd?

[accident]

If I am providing for her, she should shut the fuck up and stop being a burden. I would have more issues than worrying about whether she has this right or that right!